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JMan1234 · 07-21-2011, 01:42 AM

My wife's family has a reunion/anniversary celebration coming up for her Grandparents.

Of all the weekends they could have selected for this, it also happens to be the weekend that I was expecting to spend with my brother for his birthday, and watching a boxing match together.

The reunion with my wife's family is, I believe Friday-Sunday, so basically 72hrs. I'm asking her for a 3hr window to drive back and watch the fight with my brother, and then drive back to her family event.

So far she is completely denying my request, and thinks I'm being unreasonable. She says there's no way I'm going to leave for 3 hours.

I say she is being unreasonable. 3 hours out of 72 to spend time with my brother on his birthday is not an unreasonable request. So what say you?

(And no, I'm not posting pics of my wife's boobies, let's get that out of the way).

advive · 07-21-2011, 01:56 AM

If you changed your mind on the last sentence it might give people a better understanding of the problem and who you're dealing with. Will be easier to offer advice

But seriously, she's unreasonable...

Kiopa_Matt · 07-21-2011, 01:59 AM

Tsk, tsk... I bet there's more to the argument than just this.

JMan1234 · 07-21-2011, 02:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Kiopa_Matt

Tsk, tsk... I bet there's more to the argument than just this.

There's not. She says this is really important to her family, they've been looking forward to it, everyone will be there, and that I'm going to be there.

I say, yes I understand it's important, and I'll be there. But I've also been looking forward to seeing my brother on his birthday. I would like to leave for just 3 hours over the entire weekend to spend time with my brother and watch a boxing match, and then I'll be back.

That's it. That's the entire argument right there.

FatalError · 07-21-2011, 02:03 AM

See how she reacts when you tell her that you'll be spending 72 hours with your brother and will take out 3 hours for her family reunion.

JMan1234 · 07-21-2011, 02:05 AM

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Originally Posted by FatalError

See how she reacts when you tell her that you'll be spending 72 hours with your brother and will take out 3 hours for her family reunion.

LOL, probably something like this:

onkelmicha · 07-21-2011, 02:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Kiopa_Matt

Tsk, tsk... I bet there's more to the argument than just this.

Yeah dude, there has to be something else that you're atleast over looking here.

samgeneric · 07-21-2011, 02:16 AM

Get your wife on. What's her side of the story.

JMan1234 · 07-21-2011, 02:21 AM

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Originally Posted by onkelmicha

Yeah dude, there has to be something else that you're atleast over looking here.

There's not. Her argument is that her grandparents have been planning this for a long time. And I understand that, I do. I'm just asking for 3 hours out of the entire weekend to spend with my brother.

It's a straightforward disagreement, there's nothing else to it. She believes the entire weekend should be devoted to her family, since they all aren't together very often. And I disagree. I think I should be able to leave for 3hrs on my brothers birthday. My brother and I had already planned to see each other, but I didn't realize it was the same weekend as my wife's family reunion/anniversary.

JMan1234 · 07-21-2011, 02:23 AM

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Originally Posted by samgeneric

Get your wife on. What's her side of the story.

I thought about that....but if she got on here, she'd probably start browsing the site, and tell me I could never access it again (due to all the boobs).

m0rtal · 07-21-2011, 02:27 AM

Divorce is the obvious and reasonable choice here. Bros before hoes. Start packing your shit tonight.

Kiopa_Matt · 07-21-2011, 02:30 AM

There's still got to be something more to this, because no rational individual would put an argument like this. Sounds like it maybe something like, "You stupid ass! You hang out with your buddies every weekend, watch sports, go fishing, drink beer, and have fun. You always decide your friends are more important than me and my family. So now I want ONE full weekend with you, with my family!"

Or I don't know, something like that...

Calamity · 07-21-2011, 02:31 AM

Well I'm not married but my brothers are much more important to me than anyone else.

Just explain the situation to her grandparents once you are there, they probably have enough life experience to not be egoistic twats like your wife.

JMan1234 · 07-21-2011, 02:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Kiopa_Matt

There's still got to be something more to this, because no rational individual would put an argument like this. Sounds like it maybe something like, "You stupid ass! You hang out with your buddies every weekend, watch sports, go fishing, drink beer, and have fun. You always decide your friends are more important than me and my family. So now I want ONE full weekend with you, with my family!"

Or I don't know, something like that...

That's why I can't believe she's saying no. Because I don't go out with friends (heck I really don't even have any other than a couple neighbors!, working from home I don't meet many people). I don't go out drinking, etc... She knows that really the only entertainment/fun things I like to do involve going to see my brother and/or watching a good boxing match. And the frequency is only 3-5 times per year, that's it.

JMan1234 · 07-21-2011, 02:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Calamity

Well I'm not married but my brothers are much more important to me than anyone else.

Just explain the situation to her grandparents once you are there, they probably have enough life experience to not be egoistic twats like your wife.

I really don't think her Grandparents would care. It's the wrath of my wife I'm worried about.

Kiopa_Matt · 07-21-2011, 02:48 AM

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Originally Posted by JMan1234

That's why I can't believe she's saying no. Because I don't go out with friends (heck I really don't even have any other than a couple neighbors!, working from home I don't meet many people). I don't go out drinking, etc... She knows that really the only entertainment/fun things I like to do involve going to see my brother and/or watching a good boxing match. And the frequency is only 3-5 times per year, that's it.

If everything you said here is true, then wow, does she ever have you by the balls. I'm sorry, but wow. I'm assuming you're the bread winner, no? Time to the lay down the law, buddy.

Make her realize that relationships take two people, compromise, and meeting each other half way. If she doesn't like it, tell her to pack her bags, and don't worry about coming back when she goes to see her family. That's what I'd do at least.

If I'm going to be sharing my life with someone, and dedicating every working day to ensuring we live a good, worry free life, then I expect a rational individual on the other end who's going to meet me half way in this whole life journey. I'm a very fair, compassionate, and empathetic individual, and I expect the same if I'm dedicating my life to someone so we can have "our" life. If they're not willing to, they're wasting my time, so piss off, because life's too short for that type of thing.

EDIT: This is assuming you don't have any kids.

Dwight Schrute · 07-21-2011, 02:50 AM

The thread title reads: "Solve this disagreement between the wife and I, who's right?"

It should be: "Solve this disagreement between me and the wife; who's right?"

Since this question was asked with wrong grammar, it is invalid and you fail.

The wife wins.

PS: She's being unreasonable.

joevis · 07-21-2011, 02:50 AM

Man up

Mugshot · 07-21-2011, 03:10 AM

Hello friend,

you is wife she is husband

good luck bro.

Crynos · 07-21-2011, 03:21 AM

Damn man...as others have hinted, you need to start asserting yourself in the relationship. Your request is not unreasonable at all. I could see her point if you had planned something on the date that wasn't specific to that weekend, but your brother's birthday is a pretty fixed event--there's not much you can do about that.

Bombastic · 07-21-2011, 03:45 AM

I would give her 2 choices:

1) I take 3 hours off to go hang out with my brother

2) I take the whole 72 hours to go hang out with my brother.

Incantation · 07-21-2011, 03:55 AM

Is this Amir Khan/Zab Judah you're thinking of watching bro?!

gbmack · 07-21-2011, 04:07 AM

beta males have their wife order them around. are you a beta male? are you??

emp · 07-21-2011, 04:41 AM

WHAT?

Okay..
1) It is a family reunion of HER family. You are only an extended part. Her family can have the 72hours.

2) You meeting your brother is also a family gathering.

And yes, she has you whipped, boy.

::emp::

faceblogger · 07-21-2011, 05:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Bombastic

I would give her 2 choices:

1) I take 3 hours off to go hang out with my brother

2) I take the whole 72 hours to go hang out with my brother.

^This

faceblogger · 07-21-2011, 05:11 AM

I hope you are not living a femdom life.

redmonkey · 07-21-2011, 05:15 AM

OMG!!!! LOOK THIS GUY HAS A WIFE. AND HIS WIFE OWNS HIM!!!!

topnotch20k · 07-21-2011, 05:23 AM

Very whipped. You need to step it up

By the sounds of it you've let her have her way for too long in your relationship and now she's the boss.

If you had shown more of what you're made of earlier on, you may have had a chance at a quick resolution. Now, you standing up to her will be a major problem especially if she's in the bosom of her family and they are more likely to see her point of view than yours.

Just make it clear that you are going to see your bro regardless and are indifferent to / willing to accept her displeasure

seozero · 07-21-2011, 05:32 AM

marriage != unconditional subordination. it's more like marriage = compromise

GerardWon · 07-21-2011, 06:22 AM

The real problem is with your parents and the boxing promoter.

zdmyn · 07-21-2011, 06:34 AM

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Originally Posted by GerardWon

The real problem is with your parents and the boxing promoter.

^ Agreed. Piss-poor planning from both sides.

amateursurgeon · 07-21-2011, 06:38 AM

You're approaching this all wrong. She's not a guy. Women don't respond to rational arguments in emotional situations.

I have a wife who is possible the most rational person you could meet at work, but when shit like this crops up, she's a fucking fruitloop.

Luckily, this fact makes them remarkably easy to outmaneuvre, if you just think a few steps ahead. Here's how I'd run it:

Call up her Grandparents, tell 'em how much you are looking forward to the reunion, and then explain the brother situation. Ask if it's OK, because you didn't want to offend them, but it would mean a lot to him.

They will (ofc) say yes. You can tell your wife then that you didn't want to upset her GPs, so you called them to check, and they insisted that see your brother.

Having done that, you've now placed your wife in an impossible situation.

She can either let you go see your brother.

Or she can carry on insisting, and have to explain to GPs why she wouldn't let you see your brother, and look like a shrew at the reunion.

Now, the important thing here is how you break this to your wife.

DO NOT FRAME IT IN AS I WAS RIGHT AND YOU WERE WRONG.

The key with women is to let them feel that they're right, whilst doing whatever the fuck you want with your life.

So you say "You know, you were right honey, I was being thoughtless about this."

(pause).

"So I called up you GPs to check that it was ok, because I really wouldn't want to upset them or your family. And they insisted that I go."

Try not to smirk when you do this as it will ruin the whole effort.

comeonyouspurs · 07-21-2011, 06:45 AM

Give silent treatment and go anyway. 3 hours is nothing compared to 72. If she can't understand that then imagine what will happen when real problems crop up.

JimmyRose · 07-21-2011, 07:13 AM

Haha is that even a question. I agree with silent treatment, make her feel like crap for even saying anything in the first place

Joshk · 07-21-2011, 07:42 AM

Try hitting her.

JMan1234 · 07-21-2011, 07:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Incantation

Is this Amir Khan/Zab Judah you're thinking of watching bro?!

Vitali Klitschko - Tomasz Adamek

Although I'll try to watch Khan - Judah too (not with my brother, just at home by myself)

JMan1234 · 07-21-2011, 07:51 AM

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Originally Posted by amateursurgeon

You're approaching this all wrong. She's not a guy. Women don't respond to rational arguments in emotional situations.

I have a wife who is possible the most rational person you could meet at work, but when shit like this crops up, she's a fucking fruitloop.

Luckily, this fact makes them remarkably easy to outmaneuvre, if you just think a few steps ahead. Here's how I'd run it:

Call up her Grandparents, tell 'em how much you are looking forward to the reunion, and then explain the brother situation. Ask if it's OK, because you didn't want to offend them, but it would mean a lot to him.

They will (ofc) say yes. You can tell your wife then that you didn't want to upset her GPs, so you called them to check, and they insisted that see your brother.

Having done that, you've now placed your wife in an impossible situation.

She can either let you go see your brother.

Or she can carry on insisting, and have to explain to GPs why she wouldn't let you see your brother, and look like a shrew at the reunion.

Now, the important thing here is how you break this to your wife.

DO NOT FRAME IT IN AS I WAS RIGHT AND YOU WERE WRONG.

The key with women is to let them feel that they're right, whilst doing whatever the fuck you want with your life.

So you say "You know, you were right honey, I was being thoughtless about this."

(pause).

"So I called up you GPs to check that it was ok, because I really wouldn't want to upset them or your family. And they insisted that I go."

Try not to smirk when you do this as it will ruin the whole effort.

Not a bad idea....

Lord B · 07-21-2011, 07:53 AM

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Originally Posted by amateursurgeon

You're approaching this all wrong. She's not a guy. Women don't respond to rational arguments in emotional situations.

I have a wife who is possible the most rational person you could meet at work, but when shit like this crops up, she's a fucking fruitloop.

Luckily, this fact makes them remarkably easy to outmaneuvre, if you just think a few steps ahead. Here's how I'd run it:

Call up her Grandparents, tell 'em how much you are looking forward to the reunion, and then explain the brother situation. Ask if it's OK, because you didn't want to offend them, but it would mean a lot to him.

They will (ofc) say yes. You can tell your wife then that you didn't want to upset her GPs, so you called them to check, and they insisted that see your brother.

Having done that, you've now placed your wife in an impossible situation.

She can either let you go see your brother.

Or she can carry on insisting, and have to explain to GPs why she wouldn't let you see your brother, and look like a shrew at the reunion.

Now, the important thing here is how you break this to your wife.

DO NOT FRAME IT IN AS I WAS RIGHT AND YOU WERE WRONG.

The key with women is to let them feel that they're right, whilst doing whatever the fuck you want with your life.

So you say "You know, you were right honey, I was being thoughtless about this."

(pause).

"So I called up you GPs to check that it was ok, because I really wouldn't want to upset them or your family. And they insisted that I go."

Try not to smirk when you do this as it will ruin the whole effort.

Jesus! This wife business seems very complex. I guess I will stick to sticking it around wherever I can find...

JMan1234 · 07-21-2011, 07:55 AM

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Originally Posted by emp

WHAT?

Okay..
1) It is a family reunion of HER family. You are only an extended part. Her family can have the 72hours.

2) You meeting your brother is also a family gathering.

And yes, she has you whipped, boy.

::emp::

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Originally Posted by topnotch20k

Very whipped. You need to step it up

By the sounds of it you've let her have her way for too long in your relationship and now she's the boss.

If you had shown more of what you're made of earlier on, you may have had a chance at a quick resolution. Now, you standing up to her will be a major problem especially if she's in the bosom of her family and they are more likely to see her point of view than yours.

Just make it clear that you are going to see your bro regardless and are indifferent to / willing to accept her displeasure

Sadly, I find myself agreeing.

JMan1234 · 07-21-2011, 07:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Lord B

Jesus! This wife business seems very complex. I guess I will stick to sticking it around wherever I can find...

Being married for 11-years now, I can tell you that YES it definitely is.

Bofu2U · 07-21-2011, 07:57 AM

"I understand how important this is to your family being a reunion, now understand how important my family is to me - I didn't exactly have a say in them picking a date, now did I? My family is as important to me as yours is to you, and yours is a reunion - my brothers is a birthday. You can have a reunion any day of the year, and my brother gets his birthday once a year. Now shut the fuck up and realize you're a non-logical woman that needs to make me a sandwich."

metalshark · 07-21-2011, 08:02 AM

When I read all this shit I was thinking it was a trip or something. Then I realized, if 3 hours is enough to hang with your brother and drink a few beers...then this must be a few miles apart?

Are you fucking serious?

drandom · 07-21-2011, 08:13 AM

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Originally Posted by JMan1234

I thought about that....but if she got on here, she'd probably start browsing the site, and tell me I could never access it again (due to all the boobs).

Jesus. Seriously? My wife LOVES the boob threads!!!

Oh, and your wife is being completely unreasonable. I don't know how you can stand that shit. If I was you, I would spend the whole weekend with your brother, just because of her bullshit.

b_sun · 07-21-2011, 08:30 AM

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Originally Posted by JMan1234

So far she is completely denying my request

NIGGA IS YOU SEOUS? Stop asking, start doing.

"Honey, your family is important, but so is mine. I'll be gone for an evening and then back to spend the ENTIRE weekend with your family. Now get back to blowing me....."

JMan1234 · 07-21-2011, 08:31 AM

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Originally Posted by metalshark

When I read all this shit I was thinking it was a trip or something. Then I realized, if 3 hours is enough to hang with your brother and drink a few beers...then this must be a few miles apart?

Are you fucking serious?

Ya, it's a trip for her family. But the location just happens to be about a 25 minute drive from our house.

JMan1234 · 07-21-2011, 08:32 AM

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Originally Posted by b_sun

NIGGA IS YOU SEOUS? Stop asking, start doing.

"Honey, your family is important, but so is mine. I'll be gone for an evening and then back to spend the ENTIRE weekend with your family. Now get back to blowing me....."

This would be the ideal scenario, lol.

BilltheButcher · 07-21-2011, 08:36 AM

First off when you got married, your immediate family took a back seat to your wife's family. It's part of the gig. This doesn't mean you can't use this situation to your advantage.

Is your brother traveling in from somewhere or does he live local? If your brother lives local, the STFU and do what your wife says. Reason I say this, is you can parlay this into something bigger and better. Guys weekend in Vegas, NY, get away, etc. etc.

If your brother is traveling in and is there for a short time, then it is a slam dunk, you need to hang with him and have fun. If he lives in the same town you guys can hang out whenever you guys want - my wife would be pissed too.

Happy wife, happy life.

dmnEPC · 07-21-2011, 08:45 AM

Just get over it. She's never going to let you go and you dont have the balls to tell her your going. It doesnt even pay to talk about it anymore because she knows your a pussy and will cave in and do what she wants. She's going to wind up fucking some other guy because of this type of issue,

Women are like children you need to be firm but fair with them, and they certainly need to be told, not asked

tainted · 07-21-2011, 08:49 AM

Andrew Scherer · 07-21-2011, 08:52 AM

You actually asked her if you could, I kinda feel sorry for you.

Quote:

Originally Posted by JMan1234

So far she is completely denying my request, and thinks I'm being unreasonable.

There is no request.

It's "I'm going to see my brother on his birthday for 3 hours on xxx but I'll be back"

There is no trickery involved, persuasion, or overanalysis necessary.

Thankfully playing from a position of strength is a simple endeavor.

GLB

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07-21-2011, 01:42 AM	#1 (permalink)
JMan1234 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Texas Posts: 497 iTrader: 1 / 100%	Solve this disagreement between the wife and I, who's right? My wife's family has a reunion/anniversary celebration coming up for her Grandparents. Of all the weekends they could have selected for this, it also happens to be the weekend that I was expecting to spend with my brother for his birthday, and watching a boxing match together. The reunion with my wife's family is, I believe Friday-Sunday, so basically 72hrs. I'm asking her for a 3hr window to drive back and watch the fight with my brother, and then drive back to her family event. So far she is completely denying my request, and thinks I'm being unreasonable. She says there's no way I'm going to leave for 3 hours. I say she is being unreasonable. 3 hours out of 72 to spend time with my brother on his birthday is not an unreasonable request. So what say you? (And no, I'm not posting pics of my wife's boobies, let's get that out of the way). Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter

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advive Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 165 iTrader: 0 / 0%	If you changed your mind on the last sentence it might give people a better understanding of the problem and who you're dealing with. Will be easier to offer advice But seriously, she's unreasonable... Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter

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FatalError Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 1,397 iTrader: 0 / 0%	See how she reacts when you tell her that you'll be spending 72 hours with your brother and will take out 3 hours for her family reunion. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter

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Kiopa_Matt Senior Member Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 1,291 iTrader: 6 / 100%	There's still got to be something more to this, because no rational individual would put an argument like this. Sounds like it maybe something like, "You stupid ass! You hang out with your buddies every weekend, watch sports, go fishing, drink beer, and have fun. You always decide your friends are more important than me and my family. So now I want ONE full weekend with you, with my family!" Or I don't know, something like that... Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter __________________ xMarkPro -- Ultimate Blog Network Management Streamline your marketing operations. Centralize management of domains, pages, Wordpress blogs, sponsors, link codes, media items, sales and traffic statistics, plus more!

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Calamity Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Yurop Posts: 292 iTrader: 19 / 100%	Well I'm not married but my brothers are much more important to me than anyone else. Just explain the situation to her grandparents once you are there, they probably have enough life experience to not be egoistic twats like your wife. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter

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07-21-2011, 03:21 AM	#20 (permalink)
Crynos Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Philadelphia Posts: 866 iTrader: 21 / 100%	Damn man...as others have hinted, you need to start asserting yourself in the relationship. Your request is not unreasonable at all. I could see her point if you had planned something on the date that wasn't specific to that weekend, but your brother's birthday is a pretty fixed event--there's not much you can do about that. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter

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Bombastic Panda Killer Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 1,336 iTrader: 18 / 100%	I would give her 2 choices: 1) I take 3 hours off to go hang out with my brother 2) I take the whole 72 hours to go hang out with my brother. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter

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emp Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 5,977 iTrader: 17 / 100%	WHAT? Okay.. 1) It is a family reunion of HER family. You are only an extended part. Her family can have the 72hours. 2) You meeting your brother is also a family gathering. And yes, she has you whipped, boy. ::emp:: Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter __________________ Your Logical Fallacies - know them to avoid them That's because all programmers are also ninjas.(but not all ninjas are programmers) - LogicFlux Blind Ape Seo

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07-21-2011, 05:23 AM	#28 (permalink)
topnotch20k Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 144 iTrader: 10 / 100%	Very whipped. You need to step it up By the sounds of it you've let her have her way for too long in your relationship and now she's the boss. If you had shown more of what you're made of earlier on, you may have had a chance at a quick resolution. Now, you standing up to her will be a major problem especially if she's in the bosom of her family and they are more likely to see her point of view than yours. Just make it clear that you are going to see your bro regardless and are indifferent to / willing to accept her displeasure Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter

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seozero Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 120 iTrader: 9 / 100%	marriage != unconditional subordination. it's more like marriage = compromise Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter

07-21-2011, 06:22 AM	#30 (permalink)
GerardWon Racing Is Life... Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: NYC area, USA Posts: 1,556 iTrader: 8 / 100%	The real problem is with your parents and the boxing promoter. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter __________________ ... Everything Else Is Just Waiting. Senna Lives!

07-21-2011, 06:38 AM	#32 (permalink)
amateursurgeon Chloroform Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Behind you. Posts: 2,693 iTrader: 3 / 100%	You're approaching this all wrong. She's not a guy. Women don't respond to rational arguments in emotional situations. I have a wife who is possible the most rational person you could meet at work, but when shit like this crops up, she's a fucking fruitloop. Luckily, this fact makes them remarkably easy to outmaneuvre, if you just think a few steps ahead. Here's how I'd run it: Call up her Grandparents, tell 'em how much you are looking forward to the reunion, and then explain the brother situation. Ask if it's OK, because you didn't want to offend them, but it would mean a lot to him. They will (ofc) say yes. You can tell your wife then that you didn't want to upset her GPs, so you called them to check, and they insisted that see your brother. Having done that, you've now placed your wife in an impossible situation. She can either let you go see your brother. Or she can carry on insisting, and have to explain to GPs why she wouldn't let you see your brother, and look like a shrew at the reunion. Now, the important thing here is how you break this to your wife. DO NOT FRAME IT IN AS I WAS RIGHT AND YOU WERE WRONG. The key with women is to let them feel that they're right, whilst doing whatever the fuck you want with your life. So you say "You know, you were right honey, I was being thoughtless about this." (pause). "So I called up you GPs to check that it was ok, because I really wouldn't want to upset them or your family. And they insisted that I go." Try not to smirk when you do this as it will ruin the whole effort. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter __________________ Exact Match Domains still work well for SEO Get lists of profitable ones at EMDLists.com

07-21-2011, 06:45 AM	#33 (permalink)
comeonyouspurs Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 3 iTrader: 0 / 0%	Give silent treatment and go anyway. 3 hours is nothing compared to 72. If she can't understand that then imagine what will happen when real problems crop up. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter

07-21-2011, 07:13 AM	#34 (permalink)
JimmyRose Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 9 iTrader: 0 / 0%	Haha is that even a question. I agree with silent treatment, make her feel like crap for even saying anything in the first place Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter

07-21-2011, 07:42 AM	#35 (permalink)
Joshk Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 209 iTrader: 3 / 100%	Try hitting her. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter

07-21-2011, 07:57 AM	#41 (permalink)
Bofu2U Automation Specialist Join Date: May 2007 Location: Baltimore, Murdaland Posts: 8,293 iTrader: 78 / 100%	"I understand how important this is to your family being a reunion, now understand how important my family is to me - I didn't exactly have a say in them picking a date, now did I? My family is as important to me as yours is to you, and yours is a reunion - my brothers is a birthday. You can have a reunion any day of the year, and my brother gets his birthday once a year. Now shut the fuck up and realize you're a non-logical woman that needs to make me a sandwich." Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter __________________ Read This About The Penguin Update Contempt / Business Caffeine

07-21-2011, 08:02 AM	#42 (permalink)
metalshark Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 480 iTrader: 4 / 100%	When I read all this shit I was thinking it was a trip or something. Then I realized, if 3 hours is enough to hang with your brother and drink a few beers...then this must be a few miles apart? Are you fucking serious? Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter

07-21-2011, 08:36 AM	#47 (permalink)
BilltheButcher 3rd Party Clubs Rule Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Syracuse, NY Posts: 154 iTrader: 0 / 0%	First off when you got married, your immediate family took a back seat to your wife's family. It's part of the gig. This doesn't mean you can't use this situation to your advantage. Is your brother traveling in from somewhere or does he live local? If your brother lives local, the STFU and do what your wife says. Reason I say this, is you can parlay this into something bigger and better. Guys weekend in Vegas, NY, get away, etc. etc. If your brother is traveling in and is there for a short time, then it is a slam dunk, you need to hang with him and have fun. If he lives in the same town you guys can hang out whenever you guys want - my wife would be pissed too. Happy wife, happy life. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter

07-21-2011, 08:45 AM	#48 (permalink)
dmnEPC C.R.E.A.M. Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 1,873 iTrader: 0 / 0%	Just get over it. She's never going to let you go and you dont have the balls to tell her your going. It doesnt even pay to talk about it anymore because she knows your a pussy and will cave in and do what she wants. She's going to wind up fucking some other guy because of this type of issue, Women are like children you need to be firm but fair with them, and they certainly need to be told, not asked Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter

07-21-2011, 08:49 AM	#49 (permalink)
tainted Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 1,051 iTrader: 22 / 100%	Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter

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