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Old 07-18-2007, 12:51 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Books Has anyone here read 'How to Win Friends and Influence People'?

I just finished reading the first chapter and was having trouble understanding it. I was hoping someone whos read it could help me to draw the correct conclusion.

It says not to criticise people, complain, etc...

How do you do this??

If I rely on someone to do a job, and they do a shitty job because they were just lazy, for example, Id get angry. Thats a pretty legitimate response, Id say, but I dont understand how in that situation, where someone's choice to be lazy, should not be criticised.

Or, if someone is just acting immature, wouldnt you want to call them out and repremand them for acting so.

I mean if someone makes a conscious decision to be lazy, how can you NOT criticise that? It would seem like not criticising them would be letting them get away with it, perpetuating the cycle of lazyness.

Also, how would one repremand people in those instances? It seems like Carnegie almost wants someone to be a 'crafty pushover'. Crafty in the sense that we should make some kind of witty comment about someone messing up and pushover in the sense that we should let/hope they take that witty comment into consideration and correct themselves.
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Carnegie is a pussy. Read Machiavelli.
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listen, doesn't he give some examples... like someone fucked up a plane or something, but he says i understand you're a fuck up, but I'm certain you won't do this again... something like that... of course dealing with indians its a little different, b/c they'll keep doing it over and over. it's b/c they're retarded... unfortunately there isn't a chapter about dealing with retards in business, sorry.
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Read chapter 2.. Just read the entire book before asking questions (note i have never read this particular book)
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I just finished reading the first chapter and was having trouble understanding it. I was hoping someone whos read it could help me to draw the correct conclusion.

It says not to criticise people, complain, etc...

How do you do this??

If I rely on someone to do a job, and they do a shitty job because they were just lazy, for example, Id get angry. Thats a pretty legitimate response, Id say, but I dont understand how in that situation, where someone's choice to be lazy, should not be criticised.

Or, if someone is just acting immature, wouldnt you want to call them out and repremand them for acting so.

I mean if someone makes a conscious decision to be lazy, how can you NOT criticise that? It would seem like not criticising them would be letting them get away with it, perpetuating the cycle of lazyness.

Also, how would one repremand people in those instances? It seems like Carnegie almost wants someone to be a 'crafty pushover'. Crafty in the sense that we should make some kind of witty comment about someone messing up and pushover in the sense that we should let/hope they take that witty comment into consideration and correct themselves.
Scenario #1 - Dude you are such a tard that you can't even even understand what he said in such simple words? Go Fucking read it again.

Scenario #2 - Yeah Mate! Dale was an amazing author and wrote good stuff, but I know more than few people who took some time to grasp exactly what he meant to say. It may be a good idea to re-read the chapter.

The bottomline of this chapter is that no one likes criticism or being told that they are wrong. There are two ways to point out a negative point -- direct and indirect. And you must always choose the indirect way.
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listen, doesn't he give some examples... like someone fucked up a plane or something, but he says i understand you're a fuck up, but I'm certain you won't do this again... something like that... of course dealing with indians its a little different, b/c they'll keep doing it over and over. it's b/c they're retarded... unfortunately there isn't a chapter about dealing with retards in business, sorry.
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I just finished reading the first chapter and was having trouble understanding it. I was hoping someone whos read it could help me to draw the correct conclusion.

It says not to criticise people, complain, etc...

How do you do this??

If I rely on someone to do a job, and they do a shitty job because they were just lazy, for example, Id get angry. Thats a pretty legitimate response, Id say, but I dont understand how in that situation, where someone's choice to be lazy, should not be criticised.

Or, if someone is just acting immature, wouldnt you want to call them out and repremand them for acting so.

I mean if someone makes a conscious decision to be lazy, how can you NOT criticise that? It would seem like not criticising them would be letting them get away with it, perpetuating the cycle of lazyness.

Also, how would one repremand people in those instances? It seems like Carnegie almost wants someone to be a 'crafty pushover'. Crafty in the sense that we should make some kind of witty comment about someone messing up and pushover in the sense that we should let/hope they take that witty comment into consideration and correct themselves.
You should read the entire book first instead of jumping to conclusions.
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Totally different topics. Carnegie is more about human relations and Machiavelli is about diplomacy. I've read most of Carnegie's books and also Machiavelli (The Prince and Art of War) and the basic philosophies of influencing humans never change.

The best book on the topic is Cialdini's Influence -- The Psychology of Persuasion. It's even far better than Dale's book.
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I know some people that read Carnegie every day like the Bible - it is ridiculous!!!

by the the way, who can recommend me good NLP (neuro-linguistic psicology) books???
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Totally different topics. Carnegie is more about human relations and Machiavelli is about diplomacy. I've read most of Carnegie's books and also Machiavelli (The Prince and Art of War) and the basic philosophies of influencing humans never change.

The best book on the topic is Cialdini's Influence -- The Psychology of Persuasion. It's even far better than Dale's book.
Unless Machiavelli was a 6th Century Chinese Military Strategist I think you might be a little off.

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