Good/Bad in declaring income to Girlfriend

What good could possibly come of it? Are you insecure and hoping if you show her how much you make then she'll like you more? Or be less likely to take off with some other dude? C'mon, brah.

Not to mention it might just make her immediately have flashbacks of birthdays/anniversaries where you only spent X on her. Know what I'm sayin?
 


Positive Carry said:
Spoken like someone who's obviously too young or ignorant to know how wrong this is.


If you're making real money:

NEVER DISCLOSE YOUR INCOME TO ANYONE WHO'S NOT PAID TO WATCH IT, INCLUDING YOUR WIFE

CELEBRATE YOUR SUCCESSES

HIDE YOUR FAILURES

BE VAGUE

LEAVE WORK AT WORK
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Spoken like someone who's never been married or had a serious relationship. Show me a woman that will marry you without knowing everything about you, and I will show you some damaged goods.

Sad no one got my "Nigga you serious" pic.
 
b_sun said:
Spoken like someone who's never been married or had a serious relationship. Show me a woman that will marry you without knowing everything about you, and I will show you some damaged goods.

Sad no one got my "Nigga you serious" pic.
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Six years strong buddy.

I leave work at work, as long as everything is paid for that's all that matters. You might want to ask "fvaldes" for tips...
 
In my experience, disclosing your income to ANYONE is a bad thing.

Here's what has happened ALWAYS in the past, when I told them how much I made: They know I make more than them, and take your money for granted. They think what I do is too easy (which, trust me, it isn't). They think I "get lucky." They talk to me like they own the money and they can make decisions with my money, which I find to be VERY rude.

And they will often ask you for money, and:

If you give them, they will feel like you make a lot anyways, so you're not really doing a favor by lending them money.

If you don't give them, they will feel you're stingy and miserly.

In both cases, it will NOT help you, trust me.

I know it feels good to brag about how much you make for a few minutes...but the long term ramifications aren't worth it.
 
Positive Carry said:
Six years strong buddy.

I leave work at work, as long as everything is paid for that's all that matters. You might want to ask "fvaldes" for tips...
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Been with my girl for over 5 years. She has no fucking clue how much I actually make and she doesn't need to. She's been assured and by now has seen that I have a stable income and take care of my obligations.

Telling your girl how much you make is nothing but trouble. Chances are, she assumes you make a certain amount. If you tell her how much you make and it's an amount that's way more (or less) than what she thinks, it'll change things... and never for the better. Either she will expect more from you (if you make more) or she'll question why she's with you (if you make less).

A humble response is always the best response (completely different if you're trying to impress and fuck bitches in their 20s). My girlfriend's brothers talk a lot about about how much they make - I never do. I'm not balling hard (yet), but they all are stuck with bosses, working a 8-5 while making money for someone else.

My accountant is the only person who knows how much I really make.
 
Whether in business or in life stick the golden rule and you will be fine

"Tell em anything, Just don't tell em the Truth"
 
thank you guys for responding to my Q. So what I learned from here that income is something personal and girlfriend shouldn't be involved in this matter. So business is business and relationship has no concern with business.
 
You got it buddy, don't tell her now or ever. Not when your married and not when little Bobby Joe is running around the house either. I been married for 20 years have 2 squids. I've tried it both ways and after a near divorce getting control of the checkbook back, finances back in order.

I have a standard line. Times are hard baby. Put it this way. If the bills are paid, food is in the fridge, you take her out & wine and diner her once in a while and the occasional nice vacation. All is well. As soon as she knows more is available she'll all of a sudden have new ideas about shit she can't live without. They start talking about bigger houses and new cars and shit like that.

I'm sure that this is not the case in every relationship but were all different and I like to be on the safe side by keeping my mouth shut!
 
^^ brunette girl is cute as fck.

Teguh only wanted "white-males that make $5k+/mo" to be part of his family so I had to disclose it or be forever alone. Otherwise no, my mom knows how much I have in my savings and now she's all telling me what to do with it and shit.
 
Interesting. I'm going to guess it all comes down to how long you've been together and how serious the relationship is. Once you've been together for some time, especially if you're married, then I think managing finances together is part of having an open and honest relationship usually with joint bank accounts... unless, I guess, you've got a trophy wife that doesn't work and only spends her days spending your money. I couldn't imagine hiding what we make from one another and keeping "yours" and "mine" bank accounts. That's just fucked.
 
idsecure said:
You got it buddy, don't tell her now or ever. Not when your married and not when little Bobby Joe is running around the house either. I been married for 20 years have 2 squids. I've tried it both ways and after a near divorce getting control of the checkbook back, finances back in order.

I have a standard line. Times are hard baby. Put it this way. If the bills are paid, food is in the fridge, you take her out & wine and diner her once in a while and the occasional nice vacation. All is well. As soon as she knows more is available she'll all of a sudden have new ideas about shit she can't live without. They start talking about bigger houses and new cars and shit like that.

I'm sure that this is not the case in every relationship but were all different and I like to be on the safe side by keeping my mouth shut!
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100% on point. The more you make, the less you actually disclose.

Fatbat: You should have a joint account with money she knows about, then several other accounts that remain private. You don't have to keep her in the dark, just don't let everything out in the light.
 
idsecure said:
You got it buddy, don't tell her now or ever. Not when your married and not when little Bobby Joe is running around the house either. I been married for 20 years have 2 squids. I've tried it both ways and after a near divorce getting control of the checkbook back, finances back in order.

I have a standard line. Times are hard baby. Put it this way. If the bills are paid, food is in the fridge, you take her out & wine and diner her once in a while and the occasional nice vacation. All is well. As soon as she knows more is available she'll all of a sudden have new ideas about shit she can't live without. They start talking about bigger houses and new cars and shit like that.

I'm sure that this is not the case in every relationship but were all different and I like to be on the safe side by keeping my mouth shut!
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Positive Carry said:
100% on point. The more you make, the less you actually disclose.

Fatbat: You should have a joint account with money she knows about, then several other accounts that remain private. You don't have to keep her in the dark, just don't let everything out in the light.
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You two are nuts. You're in a relationship with an exit strategy planned basically. Fine if you're just dating some chick. Fucking weird if you've been married with kids for 20 years.
 
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