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so after about 30 years of marriage my mother tells me she is leaving my father. I am like kool but what took you so long.

according to Maryland Law my mother required to live separately ( in somewhere other then the house) for a full year for the divorce to be legal.

Seeing as the divorce rate in this country is about 60% or maybe even higher then that I am sure some of you on here have been through this and I would love to hear any advice you may have.

things you wish you did differently / regrets etc.


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Wow, you poor baby, your parents are getting a divorce while you are an adult.. how traumatizing this must be on you psychologically. Suck it up.
 
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Since lots of people get divorced (it's only natural) no one gives a fuck.
 
Not much you can do differently. Only looking at the situation from hindsight can you realize what you might have done wrong IMO.

You probably didn't play as big of a part in it as you think you might have.

not much else to say. if they were married for 30 yrs - I'm assuming you are past your teen years.
 
Im in the same boat as u bro, parents divorced last year after about 40 yrs. It was on good terms and they knew that they both wanted to go their own ways.

I commend my parents for sticking it out until me n my siblings were adults, my dad was a very good
Person, he is a recent victim of internet pornography, looking at all kind of sick sh#t and acting upon things on dating sites.

My mother just couldnt tolerate or stand-by a man like that anymore.

My wifes parents divorced when she was 5, and she says that my parents should have done it earlier in life rather then later. I say screw that, the longer you make it work shows more character and responsibility. The children deserve a normal two parent, stable, home while growing up.
 
FlashMob said:
Im in the same boat as u bro, parents divorced last year after about 40 yrs. It was on good terms and they knew that they both wanted to go their own ways.

I commend my parents for sticking it out until me n my siblings were adults.
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then again your prent were civilised. if they were not then it's not good for the kids to see that
 
Still going through mine, so can't really give any advice. Takes a long time anywhere in US as far as I know now, 3+ months. We still haven't even filed yet, waiting to get my name off the mortgage before we do.

How is it on your parents? I was going nuts after 7 years, can't imagine 30. What is the reason for their divorce, is it at fault? Are they going to fight for things?
 
FlashMob said:
My wifes parents divorced when she was 5, and she says that my parents should have done it earlier in life rather then later. I say screw that, the longer you make it work shows more character and responsibility. The children deserve a normal two parent, stable, home while growing up.
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It depends. Once the damage is done, I don't think it will be a stable home. Was thinking a lot about this lately as I have 3 and 7 year olds.
 
FlashMob said:
Im in the same boat as u bro, parents divorced last year after about 40 yrs. It was on good terms and they knew that they both wanted to go their own ways.

I commend my parents for sticking it out until me n my siblings were adults, my dad was a very good
Person, he is a recent victim of internet pornography, looking at all kind of sick sh#t and acting upon things on dating sites.

My mother just couldnt tolerate or stand-by a man like that anymore.

My wifes parents divorced when she was 5, and she says that my parents should have done it earlier in life rather then later. I say screw that, the longer you make it work shows more character and responsibility. The children deserve a normal two parent, stable, home while growing up.
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Your dad chose porn and random cam girls over your mom. lol
 
Russ86 said:
Wow, you poor baby, your parents are getting a divorce while you are an adult.. how traumatizing this must be on you psychologically. Suck it up.
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where do you see me saying anything in that post about anything traumatizing? you got 30 seconds give it your best shot.

Rage9 said:
Since lots of people get divorced (it's only natural) no one gives a fuck.
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you are wrong already fuck head look at the members who have posted below you. willing to bet more people care about it then the dumb ass soccer threads you start.

marketer23 said:
Not much you can do differently. Only looking at the situation from hindsight can you realize what you might have done wrong IMO.

You probably didn't play as big of a part in it as you think you might have.

not much else to say. if they were married for 30 yrs - I'm assuming you are past your teen years.
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nah man it's not like that. I sure as hell am not blaming myself and am pretty kool with it. My question was more what would you do differently legal and financial wise.

FlashMob said:
Im in the same boat as u bro, parents divorced last year after about 40 yrs. It was on good terms and they knew that they both wanted to go their own ways.

I commend my parents for sticking it out until me n my siblings were adults, my dad was a very good
Person, he is a recent victim of internet pornography, looking at all kind of sick sh#t and acting upon things on dating sites.

My mother just couldnt tolerate or stand-by a man like that anymore.

My wifes parents divorced when she was 5, and she says that my parents should have done it earlier in life rather then later. I say screw that, the longer you make it work shows more character and responsibility. The children deserve a normal two parent, stable, home while growing up.
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sorry to hear that about your dad. My parents were miserable together but stuck it out for me and my brother probably. I can see both you and your wifes points of view. on the one hand it's good for the children. But on the other if you are miserable and unhappy and are not getting respect from your spouse then it's time to go. sooner rather then later as you will still have time on your side. and probably respect from your kids.

tatrasim said:
Still going through mine, so can't really give any advice. Takes a long time anywhere in US as far as I know now, 3+ months. We still haven't even filed yet, waiting to get my name off the mortgage before we do.

How is it on your parents? I was going nuts after 7 years, can't imagine 30. What is the reason for their divorce, is it at fault? Are they going to fight for things?
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thanks for the input. my mother is kind of nervous but my father does not know yet or know its coming. Don't know how they will react probably my father will cut us off.
 
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