Why don't I feel the need to have friends?

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51monty

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Cliffs:

- I don't feel the need to have any "friends" (Just a female partner).

- I'm very introvert (not to be confused with "shy."). This means that I need a lot of time by myself to recharge my batteries and "function properly."

- I do feel the need for human contact, but that's usually just to play a sport or do something fun. I don't feel like "opening up" to someone.

- I find it odd that someone would ask friends for advice on something. If I want advice on something, I can read online forums focused on a specific subject (and get many opinions than just the opinion of one random "friend), read books, etc. If anything, I try to stay away from opinions of friends, because I feel they will likely give wrong advice.

- I try to think of the main areas of life: Fitness, wealth and relationships: I'm stronger than my "friends", because I know how to train properly in the gym. I make more money than them. I would venture to say I know a lot more about women than most of them. Not saying this to brag - just my honest opinion.

- I've met very, VERY few people that I feel I can have a good discussion or have a genuinely good time with.

- People around me tend to like me, because I'm easy-going and "a good guy." But I'm sure many of them feel that I'm a little weird as well.

So, is there something "wrong" with me? Does anyone else here face a similar situation? What do you think about all this?

Thanks in advance for any advice. I really appreciate it!
 


Dude there is nothing wrong with you. I am pretty much the same way. Go here and take the MBTI. Take it a few times just to make sure you're getting a valid result, and then go read about your personality type. I am an "INFP". For me, most times, I am very averse to seeing, meeting, and hanging out with people--especially new people. It sucks in some ways, but whatcha gonna do? It does have it's strengths. But friends, meh--not too many.
 
Sucks bro.

The 3 or so close friendships I have are probably the most rewarding investments I've made with my time.

I think it takes practice building meaningful relationships with people. I'm sure you've noticed that as you get older, you have less and less in common with the majority of people around you. But that's okay. There's no need to force it.

But if you meet someone that shares similar interests, take a small step and talk about those interests more often than you're used to. If you discover that you share the same values or sense of humor, make a note to put a tiny bit of effort in to show a little appreciation of his or her friendship.

The biggest things that prevent me from making real connections with people are differing interests, sense of humor, moral beliefs, and effort. That last one, effort, is the hardest part because if the stars align and you magically meet someone cool enough to kick it with, then you've actually got to put in some elbow grease which is probably foreign to your daily routine. The good news is that if you share similar interests and a sense of humor, it shouldn't be too painful.

Good luck. I don't mostly care for people, but I do believe that all you need are a few good ones and you're golden. Dat support system.
 
Who needs friends, they only break your heart...

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jk I love my friends and get a lot of enjoyment from hanging out with them. If you don't like any of your friends, you most likely don't share any important interests.

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You joined over two years ago and you have less than 20 posts. You can't build relationships/connections when you just drop by/ask a question/look for feedback once a month or so.

When you believe you are stronger, make more money and know more about women than your friends, either you need new friends or you reed to research Narcissism.
 
51monty said:
Cliffs:
I try to think of the main areas of life: Fitness, wealth and relationships: I'm stronger than my "friends", because I know how to train properly in the gym. I make more money than them. I would venture to say I know a lot more about women than most of them. Not saying this to brag - just my honest opinion.
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Hello you,

I think it because you feel much superior to other you know. Therefore no think they deserve to be you friend.

Perphaps you from society where only believe there one God with all power. If believe there only one God then will no think God have any friend since no have equal.

Since you see self like a God you think you no have equal that deserve to be you friend. So no see any need to have friends.

Good luck bro
 
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51monty said:
Cliffs:

- I don't feel the need to have any "friends" (Just a female partner).

- I'm very introvert (not to be confused with "shy."). This means that I need a lot of time by myself to recharge my batteries and "function properly."

- I do feel the need for human contact, but that's usually just to play a sport or do something fun. I don't feel like "opening up" to someone.

- I find it odd that someone would ask friends for advice on something. If I want advice on something, I can read online forums focused on a specific subject (and get many opinions than just the opinion of one random "friend), read books, etc. If anything, I try to stay away from opinions of friends, because I feel they will likely give wrong advice.

- I try to think of the main areas of life: Fitness, wealth and relationships: I'm stronger than my "friends", because I know how to train properly in the gym. I make more money than them. I would venture to say I know a lot more about women than most of them. Not saying this to brag - just my honest opinion.

- I've met very, VERY few people that I feel I can have a good discussion or have a genuinely good time with.

- People around me tend to like me, because I'm easy-going and "a good guy." But I'm sure many of them feel that I'm a little weird as well.

So, is there something "wrong" with me? Does anyone else here face a similar situation? What do you think about all this?

Thanks in advance for any advice. I really appreciate it!
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its okay bro there is a word for people like you. its called autism.. your just a functioning one.. more on the asperger spectrum of the disorder. Thats why its hard for you to connect. good luck
 
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I don't need friends, I just need random strangers on the internet to validate me.
 
OP, tell me:

What's stopping you from cutting your friends off altogether? Any reason?

(I'm not paid or qualified to do this, but don't worry - my mom says I'm a very empathetic and intuitive person. That's also what my girlfriend tells me. She says that's why I'm her best friend. She also asks me not to tell people we're dating. I think she's afraid her friends would get jealous I'm romantically unavailable when they unload all their boy problems on me. At least it feels good to know I'm their pillar. It just sucks when I have to punish my pee-pee for getting stiff when I think about my girlfriend naked. I kind of want to see her naked, but I don't want to be disrespectful. I think that might ruin our friendship. Or at least our chances of becoming friends. See, I actually haven't talked to her yet, but I'm sure we'll get along fine once she meets me for the first time. She won't even need to drive anywhere our first date. I know a quirky little cafe right by her place. Hopefully her parents are okay with it. So yeah, OP, don't worry. I've got experience with this. :) I'm also great at relationship counseling. PM me if you need advice on girls & confidence. I won't judge you. I love you.)

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Sounds more like.. you've got no friends and you're trying to justify to yourself that that's okay. The stupid thing is, you're doing this on a forum with random people who don't care about you.

Would be much better to ask your friends who might put a bit of effort into the answer.

oh right yeah..
 
tl;dr

You never had a friend thats why you dont know the need of having a friend.
Try making a friend and break his heart and then you'll know the need of having need of friend.

I've pretty good social life, love my friends and btw i am very shy(not when i am with friends), i cannot talk with random strangers much comfortabely but i am very happy with my current friends and i just can't afford to lose them in any way.I just can't imagine my life without with them.
So imo you must have friends, at least one so that you can share your happiness/sadness and get healed yourself.
 
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