My friends daughter died unexpectedly

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This is a very sad story and is hitting me and my friends family extremely hard. Apparently my best friends brothers daughter had to have her tonsils and adenoids removed.
She was a beautiful 2 year old girl.
I got an IM from my best friends girl friend telling me she has past away. I am not sure how everything happened. How does someone die from such a routine operation. I looked up the death rate for this procedure and it is 1 in 250,000. That is a .000004% death rate. There has to be something wrong here or some sort of malpractice done by the doctors or hospital. I am so upset about this right now. How a child so young can just be gone like that. From something so simple.
 


Your neck arteries. (Carotid?) Are just behind the tonsils. If the doctor screws up the patient will bleed out right in front of him.

Some people have strange tonsils that are wrapped around the arteries. This operation gets more dangerous as people get older. If you are an adult and get your tonsils removed you have a fair chance that you can die on the table.

Could have been anesthesia reaction too.

And I am sorry for you and the families. All this technical stuff does not matter too much right now.
 
That's sad

But why did you have to dump on everyone else's day and post that here?
 
Sorry to hear it. It can't be easy finding out a loved one who never even got the chance to live life (2 years it not old enough) died.

Apparently she was that 1.
 
Sorry to hear that. My mom's best friend, and my sister's best friend's mom passed away from a long battle with cancer two days ago. Been a tough week for us too.
 
chatmasta said:
Sorry to hear that. My mom's best friend, and my sister's best friend's mom passed away from a long battle with cancer two days ago. Been a tough week for us too.
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Wow, sorry to hear,

I do not have full details but I have been told her throat closed up and her lungs filled with fluid.
 
That's terrible.

Even though the chances may be 1 in 250,000 someone has to be that 1 to make the numbers work. Not exactly the lottery you want to win.

Before you talk "malpractice" I would get all the details. The worst thing that can happen is to blame the doctor when it isn't his fault... and have that innocent child's existence be boiled down to a nasty malpractice lawsuit filled with anger and hate.

Its terrible. Its easy to point fingers. I hope everyone involved takes the time to mourn and celebrate the girls' short time here... dedicating that process to HER.

When clear heads prevail, investigate the "what happened" but don't just blindly accuse the doctor. That does nobody any good... (I'm not saying you ARE doing that... just warning)
 
trigatch4 said:
That's terrible.

Even though the chances may be 1 in 250,000 someone has to be that 1 to make the numbers work. Not exactly the lottery you want to win.

Before you talk "malpractice" I would get all the details. The worst thing that can happen is to blame the doctor when it isn't his fault... and have that innocent child's existence be boiled down to a nasty malpractice lawsuit filled with anger and hate.

Its terrible. Its easy to point fingers. I hope everyone involved takes the time to mourn and celebrate the girls' short time here... dedicating that process to HER.

When clear heads prevail, investigate the "what happened" but don't just blindly accuse the doctor. That does nobody any good... (I'm not saying you ARE doing that... just warning)
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Well, I do not trust any dr or anyone from the medical field. I am going to look into as much as I can and do some investigating. That is how I am. Though this is a huge loss to them and I do feel hurt. I am going to use me for what I do best. Of course if something is not warranted I am more than happy to let it be what it is.

It is a very sad and touchy situation, I am going to go and offer my support anyway I can tmrw as I am about a 2 hour drive away from them.
 
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Wow, sorry to hear,

I do not have full details but I have been told her throat closed up and her lungs filled with fluid.
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That is a horrible tragedy and I feel terrible for the family, but the more I think about you posting that here the more pissed off I get.

Are you that starved for attention that you have to post other peoples tragedies to get a thread full of sympathy posts?

You're not even the one deserving of the sympathy!

What did you hope to get out of this thread, a bunch of names to give your best friends brother and say "Wickedfire sends their condolences"?

You are an asshole for posting that here and feeding off of the sympathy of someone elses tragedy!

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Everybody here has had to deal with similar tragedies that involved people much closer than their best friend's brother's daughter, but you don't see the forum loaded with posts about their losses because they have the class to keep private matters private.
 
kinda creeps me out, my little brother ( 6 yrs ), showed me his tonsils this morning and said he's getting them removed. They look massive, but yeah, no bullshit.

Sorry that happened
 
Gumby! said:
That is a horrible tragedy and I feel terrible for the family, but the more I think about you posting that here the more pissed off I get.

Are you that starved for attention that you have to post other peoples tragedies to get a thread full of sympathy posts?

You're not even the one deserving of the sympathy!

What did you hope to get out of this thread, a bunch of names to give your best friends brother and say "Wickedfire sends their condolences"?

You are an asshole for posting that here and feeding off of the sympathy of someone elses tragedy!

-rep

Everybody here has had to deal with similar tragedies that involved people much closer than their best friend's brother's daughter, but you don't see the forum loaded with posts about their losses because they have the class to keep private matters private.
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I am not looking for sympathy or going to go and say look all these peopel care.

I needed a place to mention the situation. The dude is also my friend and has been for years. I am not as close to him.

Also I thought maybe anyone with some insight on a similar situation would let me know their thoughts on it.
 
AdExhibitJason said:
I am not looking for sympathy or going to go and say look all these peopel care.

I needed a place to mention the situation. The dude is also my friend and has been for years. I am not as close to him.

Also I thought maybe anyone with some insight on a similar situation would let me know their thoughts on it.
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It's unbelievable how clueless you are.

Do you realize what this place would be if everybody here posted about things like this? If everyone wanted to "mention" it and get everyones "insight"?

I've said my peace, I think you are an asshole for posting that here.

But you have done one thing, you've pissed me off more than anything has pissed me off in a long time. Now I'm going to go break some things to blow off some steam. Thanks asshole!
 
@Gumby

Chill dude. Some people may not have the same "avenues" to vent their frustration as others. Writing down your thoughts and clicking that "send" button can relieve a lot of stress, regardless of any "replies" or "sympathies".

Now that I've grossly "overused" the "quotes" thing, I'll bow out of this thread. But bashing somebody in a thread about a 2 year old they knew (the NEICE of a CLOSE friend really ain't that far away) doesn't seem too classy itself.

@AdExhibitJason

That's some bullshit about your view on doctors. They bust their ass 24/7 to save people. They get calls every hour of the day/night for emergencies to SAVE people.

That doctor has probably been saving patients for DECADES... one child has severe complications and simply cannot be rescued, the family is in denial and all of a sudden make it their mission to avenge the death of their loved one by ending the career of someone who has dedicated their life to saving people.

Have some appreciation. If it IS the doctor's fault... the course of logic and fairness will prevail. But don't turn the baby's life into a sour occasion by trying to play the hero, jumping to conclusions and questioning everything that happened.

It sucks... I agree... but let the family handle it as they choose. Its their issue not yours.
 
Haha, you're getting way to worked up over this Gumby.

If you're right, and AEJason is just an attention/sympathy whore, all that means is that he is pathetic. It shouldn't bother you so much.
 
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