Good luck finding a woman that accepts that. I actually heard a lot of Korean girls are okay with that, as long as their husband comes back home and takes care of the household/kids. Might need to take a trip to Seoul to verify lol
An Inconvenient Truth: Sexual Monogamy Kills Male Libido
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Good luck finding a woman that accepts that. I actually heard a lot of Korean girls are okay with that, as long as their husband comes back home and takes care of the household/kids. Might need to take a trip to Seoul to verify lol
You've got to be kidding me, right?
It's okay for a man to sleep around in a relationship, but not a woman? What are you smoking?
Marriage is all about trust. Either you both openly sleep around and talk about it with each other, or neither of you do. Anything else will lead to misery.
this is something I really did not want to believe myself because I was planning on getting married some day, but I been reading a lot about this lately and all the studies I read reveal the same scary shit:
monogamy = loss in libido/testosterone = increase in body fat = decrease in muscle mass = decrease in energy = decrease in leadership skills = decrease in social influence = increase in anxiety = increase in depression
maybe muslims got it right if they allow multiple wives per man? (harems)
monogamy = loss in libido/testosterone = increase in body fat = decrease in muscle mass = decrease in energy = decrease in leadership skills = decrease in social influence = increase in anxiety = increase in depression
maybe muslims got it right if they allow multiple wives per man? (harems)
This statement here is how a lot of right wing "Christian Conservative" hypocrites really feel while painting everybody else as immoral but instead of coming out and admitting it they preach from the "Family Values" platform while at the same time screwing around with everything that has a hole until they get busted with their pants down.
Personally I'm a one woman man. My girl has a small waist, a phat ass and can fuck for hours on end just like me, lol, and has my back in anything I want to do so I have no reason to look elsewhere for what I'm already getting at home.
Actually, from a biological standpoint men are supposed to be more promiscuous, and women more choosy. I know women (and sensitive males) may not like this fact, but the science is not on your side.
The reason for this is reproductive in nature where a man can impregnate many women every day so his semen has little value. From a biological standpoint he is encouraged to spread his seed far and wide in order to increase the likelihood that his genes are carried on to future generations. He also has less cost to bear in terms of birthing and raising the child, so again his contribution is limited and he is biologically encouraged to spread a wide net with his seed.
A woman on the other hand has to make damn sure that she has chosen a man that will provide good DNA and help care for her and her children, so she has to be less promiscuous and far more choosy in sexual partners. She carries all the risk if she is impregnated by a lesser mate, whereas a man can knock up anything and keep moving with little regard. DNA testing and child support over the last 20 years have not exactly changed this biological fact.
Therefore, it makes sense if you're not fulfilling your biological role that your libido would be affected.
The reason for this is reproductive in nature where a man can impregnate many women every day so his semen has little value. From a biological standpoint he is encouraged to spread his seed far and wide in order to increase the likelihood that his genes are carried on to future generations. He also has less cost to bear in terms of birthing and raising the child, so again his contribution is limited and he is biologically encouraged to spread a wide net with his seed.
A woman on the other hand has to make damn sure that she has chosen a man that will provide good DNA and help care for her and her children, so she has to be less promiscuous and far more choosy in sexual partners. She carries all the risk if she is impregnated by a lesser mate, whereas a man can knock up anything and keep moving with little regard. DNA testing and child support over the last 20 years have not exactly changed this biological fact.
Therefore, it makes sense if you're not fulfilling your biological role that your libido would be affected.
It's not that I disagree with what's being said, but I find that there is a greater perspective to consider in these types of discussions. There are things greater than science. Science can say a lot about the way things work at a physical level, but that doesn't necessarily have to be the determining factor in our decision making. Sometimes it may be better to go against science in order to achieve something more congruent with our individual growth or satisfaction. Our bodies may follow scientific laws, but that doesn't mean we have to follow everything our body says. Our body wants ice cream, that doesn't mean we have to follow its every whim. Our body doesn't want to work out, that doesn't mean we should just sit on the couch all day and do nothing. There are consequences to actions. We should understand the consequences and be prepared to live with them.
Animals follow pretty much everything their body says. Animals operate like robots that have very little decision making. Animals, for the most part, are slaves to instinct. Instinct can be good in some cases, it can be bad in other cases. Generally as intelligence and wisdom grow instinct diminishes and loses its position as the driving force in decision making. If humans were to only follow scientific, instinctual body signals there would be very little difference between them and animals. But humans don't have to always follow science or the body. We are able to work with different elements the way we see fit. We are able to reason, rationalize and consider the way various scenarios will play out. To elevate such a scenario as multiple sexual relationships to the greatest standard for men because science or the body says so may be satisfactory for some people, but it may be unsatisfactory for others. Just because science, or rather consensus reality, champions something does not necessarily make it the most fitting decision making foundation. What the science of 2,000 years ago told people may not have been the best advice either.
Animals follow pretty much everything their body says. Animals operate like robots that have very little decision making. Animals, for the most part, are slaves to instinct. Instinct can be good in some cases, it can be bad in other cases. Generally as intelligence and wisdom grow instinct diminishes and loses its position as the driving force in decision making. If humans were to only follow scientific, instinctual body signals there would be very little difference between them and animals. But humans don't have to always follow science or the body. We are able to work with different elements the way we see fit. We are able to reason, rationalize and consider the way various scenarios will play out. To elevate such a scenario as multiple sexual relationships to the greatest standard for men because science or the body says so may be satisfactory for some people, but it may be unsatisfactory for others. Just because science, or rather consensus reality, champions something does not necessarily make it the most fitting decision making foundation. What the science of 2,000 years ago told people may not have been the best advice either.
What I'm saying is that every 'older' guy I talk to about marriage, they have ALL told me about their wife losing interest in sex around middle age (which can be as early as forty something) as well as not getting much when the children are small.
So would you rather be a frustated angry man, who ends up divorced or sleep with some random girl once in a while?
And there is a major difference between men and women cheating even if you choose not to believe it. A man can have an affair and love his wife just as much. If a woman has an affair it generally means she doesn't love her husband anymore. Also, marriages based purely on passion lose out to marriages based on respect and common values. But then the sexual attraction can be less sometimes.
Of course, I generally just think it's a better idea to stay single and have sexual freedom, unless you want a family with a woman you love. Never understood why young guys get in one long relationship after another, then break up after 1-2 years, then suddenly are 30 and have never had any real freedom. Serial monogamy is a weird new thing.
All in all, I'd rather be honest, at least to myself, that I'm going to have a hard time being monogamous for decades, than being all holy and then ending up divorced because I was tempted years from now.
So many people cheat and lie to theirself about afterwards ('he isn't giving me enough attenton', 'she doesn't want sex with me anymore') and that's why divorces happen.
Plenty of countries accept that affairs are normal, particularly for men. The french President Mitterand had a publicly known mistress for years while being married to his wife.
no different from Sarkozy
the world's most powerful men all had mistresses, including some of the most famous scientists, artists and philosophers.
The want and desire to bang hot chicks will never go away, assuming you actually can bang hot chicks.
However, not banging them is part of what makes your marriage a marriage. It's about sacrifice...
Do I want to? Hell Yeah... Am I going to? No unless someone slips me a mickey!
However, not banging them is part of what makes your marriage a marriage. It's about sacrifice...
Do I want to? Hell Yeah... Am I going to? No unless someone slips me a mickey!
<rant level = '9000'> Some of you guys have this whole alpha male spread the seed shit all fucked up. So a man can have affairs but a woman can't because of some libido shit? I'm no feminist but that doesn't make any fucking sense at all.
I'm a good observer and I've realized something about human impulse. It will always come down to discipline and self control.
You can lie to someone who trusts you
You can cheat on someone who loves you with all their heart but then regret it later
You can kill the person that beat the fuck out of you for years with a chainsaw and mail the pieces to his family
You can rape that hot sexy 18 year old bimbo next door neighbor that's just asking for it
You can make millions scamming senior citizens with some pipe dream
So why don't you? IT ALL COMES DOWN TO DISCIPLINE BECAUSE WITH DISCIPLINE YOU WON'T DO ANY OF THOSE THINGS.
So stop sounding like some extremist religious freak shoving down what you believe is true just because some group of so called geniuses did some test on a small group of people to generalize the entire human population. There are a lot of couples that are happy with their monogamous relationships but unfortunately they are dying out. Do you know why? The world is overpopulating and the media is brainwashing the generations to come. That's why all these kids are losing their virginities before they turn 13 and try meth for the first time at 14.
I've come up with a little theory. You see a back then, let's not even go that far, let's say 1950s. Men fell in love with who they thought was the most beautiful woman of the town, etc. When they turned on the TV (if they could afford one) there were a couple gorgeous women and Marilyn Monroe, the sex symbol. Of course almost every man wanted to pee in her butt but they knew she was untouchable and were satisfied with what they had. Now let's forward to now, 2013. TV is full of Marilyn Monroe's. Males start watching porn religiously by the age of let's say 12. There are always all these up and coming young hot exotic women popping up everyday non stop. Kate Upton? She will be irrelevant next year when X comes in to take her place because she has bigger boobs, nicer ass and we're just not stimulated by her anymore.
There are too many options underneath our fingers. You want a Russian Japanese mixed girl with an Australian accent with a nice rack and a pentagram tattoo on both her ass cheeks? Don't worry, just go to your local pornsite and search it. Why not call your local escort agency and order one. Ok now I'm ranting but you guys get the point. I can't control what anyone does but myself and same goes to you guys. So don't go on saying that monogamous relationships are impossible just because you can't keep your dick under control. If you truly love someone you will be disciplined enough not to fuck them over. </rant>
I'm a good observer and I've realized something about human impulse. It will always come down to discipline and self control.
You can lie to someone who trusts you
You can cheat on someone who loves you with all their heart but then regret it later
You can kill the person that beat the fuck out of you for years with a chainsaw and mail the pieces to his family
You can rape that hot sexy 18 year old bimbo next door neighbor that's just asking for it
You can make millions scamming senior citizens with some pipe dream
So why don't you? IT ALL COMES DOWN TO DISCIPLINE BECAUSE WITH DISCIPLINE YOU WON'T DO ANY OF THOSE THINGS.
So stop sounding like some extremist religious freak shoving down what you believe is true just because some group of so called geniuses did some test on a small group of people to generalize the entire human population. There are a lot of couples that are happy with their monogamous relationships but unfortunately they are dying out. Do you know why? The world is overpopulating and the media is brainwashing the generations to come. That's why all these kids are losing their virginities before they turn 13 and try meth for the first time at 14.
I've come up with a little theory. You see a back then, let's not even go that far, let's say 1950s. Men fell in love with who they thought was the most beautiful woman of the town, etc. When they turned on the TV (if they could afford one) there were a couple gorgeous women and Marilyn Monroe, the sex symbol. Of course almost every man wanted to pee in her butt but they knew she was untouchable and were satisfied with what they had. Now let's forward to now, 2013. TV is full of Marilyn Monroe's. Males start watching porn religiously by the age of let's say 12. There are always all these up and coming young hot exotic women popping up everyday non stop. Kate Upton? She will be irrelevant next year when X comes in to take her place because she has bigger boobs, nicer ass and we're just not stimulated by her anymore.
There are too many options underneath our fingers. You want a Russian Japanese mixed girl with an Australian accent with a nice rack and a pentagram tattoo on both her ass cheeks? Don't worry, just go to your local pornsite and search it. Why not call your local escort agency and order one. Ok now I'm ranting but you guys get the point. I can't control what anyone does but myself and same goes to you guys. So don't go on saying that monogamous relationships are impossible just because you can't keep your dick under control. If you truly love someone you will be disciplined enough not to fuck them over. </rant>
