Do you or will you spank your children?

Do you or will you spank your children?

  • Yes

    Votes: 70 53.0%

  • No

    Votes: 62 47.0%
  • Total voters
    132
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I always spanked my kids, I even spanked many of other kids too.

My neighbor to the left of me, he was always working out of state on long assignments, all his kids got it from me.

My neighbor to the right of me, he was deployed for a year, his kid got if from me too.

My co-workers kid got it from mee too. theres many more that I cant name but I do not hold back when it comes to that kind of stuff, its almost impossible to not do.

..now after all these kids were born, I have not layed a hand on them.
 
IceToEskimos said:
. . . Also, I routinely beat the hell out of other people's children in front of them, so they appreciate how good they actually have it.
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Haaaaa haa ha . . . (tears streaming)

efeezy said:
I wasn't spanked as child UNLESS I did something really stupid like try to grab a pot off the stove or run into traffic. I got a swat on the butt a few times for things like that, but I don't think I ever tried that shit again as a result.

I don't believe in any type of spanking or hitting as a regular discipline, but kids can find ways to do stupid and dangerous stuff, even when you watch them like a hawk, so a spank on those occasions can be warranted in my book. I'd much rather try to sit them down and explain why they can't do something, instead of swatting their butt.

All that being said, our kids are really good and well behaved because we take the time to talk and discuss things. I don't foresee it being an issue in the future.
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Same. I could count on one hand how many times total my two have been spanked. I would hope that those few times has always been a situation where discussion only would have not matched the situation.

Benji49 said:
. . . Carry them to their room when they had tantrums. Ooooh, they didn't like that. None of them threw tantrums after the age of 4.
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Very effective to eliminate attention with tantrums. Removes the reason. When ours were toddlers and they thru a fit even in public places we would walk away from them (keeping them in sight) and it would be over with in seconds. After a few times it stopped all together.

galacon said:
I have only rarely had to strike my son, now 16.

But that's because I HAVE, and he knows I WILL should he cross the CLEARLY defined lines of acceptable behavior.

That's the key- CLEAR rules that NEVER change, but...When diplomacy fails...
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Someone in this thread rightfully said every kid is different. I'm convinced that if my dad had not whaled on me when needed I would be in prison today or worse. I was an intense little child and reason and hugs did not always work. Sometimes you just have to get their attention. Thankfully my kids haven't needed this.

rusvik said:
Hitting/shaking/squeezing a child is pathetic. I'd never hit or spank. Maybe a light spanking for a young child who did something dangerous.

The most important thing is consistency and fairness. Children are excellent judges of character and will quickly lose respect for someone who isn't just and fair.
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rusvik I have often appreciated prior posts of yours, however itt it would appear you have no children nor constant exposure to any.

dreamache said:
Here's some facts about spanking, which research has shown. . . .
So when I get into these debates (which have been with my own brother/family), it's interesting to see them squirm when I point out these facts. They've referred to these studies as "propaganda", as if there's some sort of incentive for researchers to lie, wat? But it's understandable, who would easily/readily admit they've possibly increased the risk of 11+ measurable negative behaviors in their children?
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"it's interesting to see them squirm"

Maybe that is part of the problem? I only checked out a few of your links and the hipster / politically correct "studies" may not represent the real world. Makes for good copy I guess.
 
No spanking, and no punishments for bad behavior when we're angry. Chill out, and then dish out consequences.
 
Yeah i probably will, but not severely and never when I'm pissed. I can remember the very first spanking I ever got from my dad. It was a total shock to me because beforehand I had always seen my dad as a loveable, kind figure. It was definitely very jarring.
 
Kids are self-centered and new to the world. Reward and pain are great guidelines,when used in moderation and appropriately.

I have four boys under the age of five. They tear my shit up. I tear their shit up. Shit has slowly become less and less torn up.

Learning has occurred.

I also hug my kids and tell them I love them. Different generation of fathers, I think.
 
rusvik said:
Hitting/shaking/squeezing a child is pathetic. I'd never hit or spank. Maybe a light spanking for a young child who did something dangerous.
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I love these kind of posts.

"That's pathetic. I'd never! Well, maybe if the circumstances were right... but too hard." :rolleyes:

That being said, I've flip flopped on this issue a few times myself. I don't have kids, but I have had some friends over the years with some of the most ill behaved children ever which they just flat out refused to discipline in any way. At times I wanted to smack their kids for them. However, my dad lost his temper and spanked me several times growing up for some of the stupidest unwarranted shit you can imagine. I remember each and every instance to this day and I resent him for it, rest his soul.
 
Uptime said:
rusvik I have often appreciated prior posts of yours, however itt it would appear you have no children nor constant exposure to any.
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No I don't you're right :) I find most children today are spoiled brats who show no respect for others, but then again neither does their parents really.

My reference is remembering how I felt as a child and injustice was one of the most powerful emotions I can remember back then. Being punished for something you didn't to was horrible, I remember it vividly. I also remember that fear and loathing go together and that grown ups I respected never needed to raise their voice for me to do as they said. However, of course, I also remember pushing limits and trying to get away with as much as I could.
 
I wouldn't. My wife and her siblings are perfectly normal, well-adjusted adults and they never got spanked. Maybe once or something like that, but that was because their dad lost his cool, so it doesn't count.

I on the other hand got caned if I did something wrong. I also got caned if my younger brothers and sister did something wrong and if my dad just felt like it. Totally abusive, so I'm not a very good example of how it might be beneficial.

It really fucked up my sense of responsibility.

I won't spank my kids as I've researched enough to find out that you don't have to. My sister does the 'stand in the corner' thing and that works well for her - might do that.
 
I think it has its place, even though the mainstream North American attitude has made it illegal.

I was hit twice when I was a kid: my dad spanked me when I was really young cause I pitch a marathon fit at the US/Can border and caused a lot of shit for him with the border gaurds; another time when I purposed destroyed my sister's waterbed in retaliation for something stupid -- he smacked me right across the face.

I deserved it and learned from it -- because even though he was a total dick every day, he didn't beat the hell out of me or slap me around for no good reason.

Too many good parents get into hot water with the authorities when they're probably doing the right thing at the time. Some kids learn without being hit, others definitely need it now and again.
 
Spanking is completely unnecessary when there are non violent methods that actually work better if your goal is happy, well-mannered, well adjusted children.

People that continue to to hit their children as a form of disciplined are either:

Ignorant -don't understand there are better methods out there.
Lazy- Instant gratification to hit a child and make them afraid. Yep that will stop the problem...in the short term.
Rotten- You get some sort of weird joy out of hitting your children.

I'm not sure which of the three is the worst, take your pick.
 
All those studies are done by biased people who obviously don't believe in corporal punishment. Total idiots and any one else who supports the don't spank you child group you are all mother fucking idiots too.
 
I have no children, so I am an expert on the topic.

While considering what I would do if I hypothetically did have children, I am very conflicted. On one hand, not spanking and being all boss and shit and in control of everything without raising my voice would be badass. On the other hand, making it policy to never spank would make me feel like some kind of new age pussy.
 
Nothin' wrong with that.

[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wx7s_N79nco]WKUK - Season 5 - Spanking Dads - YouTube[/ame]
 
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