full time job + girlfriend = no internet monies

For the people saying that once you show her the money the issue will be solved I would have to disagree. It seems a lot of women have this disconnect where they don't understand that to make that money there is time involved. They want their cake and eat it too, all your time plus the benfits of the work you do.

Better option is to find a girl who also works hard and has goals. Someone who is already busy with their own lives to not need constant attention and be entertained. Also being busy themselves they will be much more understanding of how you're spending your time since they can relate to it.
 


I just went through this exact scenario. I am 23, my girlfriend is 28, we've been together for 3 years. Luckily, her Dad is retired from the military and make 2-3k / mo doing just adsense sites so she has a basic understanding of the time it takes to make money but when I get off of work (my day job) she expects me to be over there and spend the rest of the night with her. I had many talks with her and told her that at least every other day is a work night so I spend 3-4 nights with her and then 3-4 nights on work stuff and it seems to work. Every other day type of thing... actually not seeing each other everyday was a big thing that really helped our relationship so that may help yours too, not sure though.

I would not lie to her, but just sit her down and talk through the issues at hand and see if you can come to a mutual understanding and agreement. Obviously, you're both right, but there needs to be a balance. She must respect that you're working hard for not only your future but hers as well (she wont be complaining when you're making 6 figures from a laptop in some tropical climate), but you must also respect that she needs (because she is a woman) alone time, date nights, and just for you to pay attention to just her.

If she is unable to come to an understanding, then I think the answer is clear. However, if she loves you and you love her (or deeply care about each other), I am 99% sure you can come to an agreement and solve the issue at hand.

Good luck, and report back!
 
I had a similar problem with my girlfriend... luckily I already work from home via the internet.

But she started complaining about me spending more of my free time on the net researching and setting up stuff.

She got over it once I started showing her it was paying off.

But I don't give every day/night to it. She has her own job and her off days are ours.
 
Dude, there is never a solution. Most women think that life should be like "the notebook" ...

If she is hot, will be a good mom, and is worth holding on to -- make it work. Else, well, tell her it was fun while it lasted. I think that most everybody has some magical qualities about them - but most people have crappy qualities too...
 
kauzlaric said:
I just went through this exact scenario. I am 23, my girlfriend is 28, we've been together for 3 years. Luckily, her Dad is retired from the military and make 2-3k / mo doing just adsense sites so she has a basic understanding of the time it takes to make money but when I get off of work (my day job) she expects me to be over there and spend the rest of the night with her. I had many talks with her and told her that at least every other day is a work night so I spend 3-4 nights with her and then 3-4 nights on work stuff and it seems to work. Every other day type of thing... actually not seeing each other everyday was a big thing that really helped our relationship so that may help yours too, not sure though.

I would not lie to her, but just sit her down and talk through the issues at hand and see if you can come to a mutual understanding and agreement. Obviously, you're both right, but there needs to be a balance. She must respect that you're working hard for not only your future but hers as well (she wont be complaining when you're making 6 figures from a laptop in some tropical climate), but you must also respect that she needs (because she is a woman) alone time, date nights, and just for you to pay attention to just her.

If she is unable to come to an understanding, then I think the answer is clear. However, if she loves you and you love her (or deeply care about each other), I am 99% sure you can come to an agreement and solve the issue at hand.

Good luck, and report back!
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This is a good response as any, have found it works as well if they are on the same level.....many women are not
 
full time job + girlfriend = no internet monies
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you are gonna need to sit her down and talk about that ^^^

Girls want you to be the man and provide, yet they wont let you get to work. Haha I love it.

What you need to do is get to a stable $50+/day profit as fast as possible... and then trade in your full time job for part time. That leaves you more time to work and more time with her.
 
Rage9 said:
If you ask me, most women are never satisfied when it comes to these things. You are probably going to have to make a really tough decision; work on your projects or be with her. Women have an odd complex that for some reason or another, they feel like the world revolves around them. They don't look into the future, and they don't necessarily think about what's best in the long term.

Honestly you'll get a lot more done without her around, and you shouldn't feel like you should have to devote all your extra time to her. It really takes a special woman to understand otherwise.

I would also hedge a bet that she has no real personal hobbies or close friends, because if she did it wouldn't be that much of an issue. Let's face it, most women hate all other women so that's not surprising. Also most women are too worried about getting married and making babies to have hobbies. So what the fuck are you going to do? Most of the time you spend with her I would also bet is basically down time cuddling, watching TV, or other time wasting bullshit.
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Wise words, Agree 100%. Repped
 
I've been with the same woman since 2005 and I can put it like this:

When I was always working, just starting, and broke she complained.

Now I just make sure we're always going somewhere or doing something on the off-time and she's much happier.


galacon said:
Marry her and she'll leave you alone as long as there's cash in the checking account.
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Terrible advice. Good way to make sure your wife is sleeping with the pool boy though.
 
I don't know maybe you guys aren't finding the right girls. I've been with my girlfriend for 5+ years (not married), and honestly... I have made more money with her in my life than without her. Gives you something to work for. She goes on business trips with me (though she has no real knowledge of the industry). She's always wanted to learn, I have just never had the time. She does however help run some of my b&m businesses.
 
Andrew Scherer said:
Lay the pipe... beat the crap out of it, and she will leave you alone for the rest of the day

It works
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This is the absolute truth. ^

If it don't workout find another girl next time who's got her own aims and is focussed enough that her life is busy and fulfilling enough that she won't need to go into sukubus mode with you. They are out there, but youve just got to hunt a bit harder to find them.
 
Positive Carry said:
I've been with the same woman since 2005 and I can put it like this:

When I was always working, just starting, and broke she complained.

Now I just make sure we're always going somewhere or doing something on the off-time and she's much happier.




Terrible advice. Good way to make sure your wife is sleeping with the pool boy though.
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It was a joke, you silly little fuck.
And your advice is to enslave yourself to the bitch every moment you're not working.

Noice.
 
its hard to work it out, seriously.

Like what demchuk said, your gonna have to work before she gets up, after she goes to bed and demand some time for the biz too. However, she is still gonna complain and be like, why you on the computer all hours of the night even though she is asleep.

I've had prior relationships end over me working online and spending too much time with it, but once you stack that million in front of her and go on some trips/fancy meals/buying her nice things she will get tight lipped.
 
Buy her an ipod touch! That's what worked for me hahaha

Also, she is very supportive of what I am doing online. I also like Andrew Scherer's advice though!
 
I would think creatively of ways you can involve her in what you're doing, and then share in your success with her. She needs to understand your work better, and see tangible benefits.

If she refuses and is totally unreceptive to your work and your goals, it may be time to rethink the relationship. People can have good relationships with differences in opinion and interests, but she should be supportive of your priorities and goals, as you should support hers.
 
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this industry is tough man, it helped destroy my relationship a year ago. (i'm with a much cooler/hotter/less clingy chick now) but its rough on relationships, and just sit her down and tell her whats up.
 
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