getting a divorce

My folks got divorced when I was in my late 20's. At the time, my only thought was, why didn't it happen sooner?

My dad was a son of a bitch and mom was so much happier after she left him. Not to bring this topic down another notch, but my father passed not too long ago. My mother still morns him. Even after all the crazy ass bullshit that lead up to the divorce, and continued after, she misses him.

So, even if your folks are getting a divorce, after 40 years marriage, they will care for one another in a way that transcends death. That is what family love is.
 


So are you going to alternate weekends between their houses or what. Now you're going to have to get a new set of toys and bike at your mom's new place. Lucky!
 
EricVonDoobie said:
Too bad they didn't get divorced sooner, you would have turned out way cooler.
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really is that the best you can do you pussy? lol you are as pathetic as your avatar. At least I am not starting dumb ass noob facebook threads like you after all there's nothing really cooler then that. huh? come at me bro.


Dwight Schrute said:
Sorry to hear that man. One of the things that's hard to swallow is that even our parents (who we grew up looking up to) also mess things up and make mistakes.

Best wishes to you and your family.
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wow I am honestly shocked to hear that . Thanks and best wishes to you and your family.

ly2 from WF said:
thats what they get for getting married in the first place
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Yeah defiantly don't agree with getting married either.
 
Least you're over 18 and it didnt happen in the middle of high school or something. I know I would be baffled and be like, wtf, why did it take so long? I was a mistake baby, so my parents were never together. I was always used to the seperation so it was "normal" to me.

FlashMob said:
I commend my parents for sticking it out until me n my siblings were adults, my dad was a very good
Person, he is a recent victim of internet pornography, looking at all kind of sick sh#t and acting upon things on dating sites.
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When you say victim, he wasn't on NBC's Dateline or anything, right? He just got caught from his wife? I can't imagine what he "acted upon".
 
You have to put aside your own feelings and respect their decision because you're an adult now. That's something I've only come to appreciate now that I'm nearing 30; my parents are people and have the same hopes/aspirations/goals/let downs etc as I do.

I don't have kids but I'm guessing it must be a huge change to go from being responsible for children for almost 2 decades to having all your personal freedoms back. That's probably why couples find themselves getting a divorce after the kids are gone and it's just them.

I love to fuck around and hate on the niggers, warrior forum members and enjoy a good dickrollin' but family is super important so I'm being serious for once because I'm sure it's a sad experience for anyone to go through.
 
Infinite Keith said:
My folks got divorced when I was in my late 20's. At the time, my only thought was, why didn't it happen sooner?

My dad was a son of a bitch and mom was so much happier after she left him. Not to bring this topic down another notch, but my father passed not too long ago. My mother still morns him. Even after all the crazy ass bullshit that lead up to the divorce, and continued after, she misses him.

So, even if your folks are getting a divorce, after 40 years marriage, they will care for one another in a way that transcends death. That is what family love is.
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probably the best thing I heard in so far in 2012, thanks.

ly2 from WF said:
thats what they get for getting married in the first place
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You never know till you try it. Its like saying dont start your own business because you will have many sleepless nights, stressful days, customers will rip you off, business partners will stab you in the back, you will go in dept...

yeah, go be an employee! its not about the security, its about the journey...and the potential.

Insomniac said:
Pretty sure I'd choose my own hand, over the body of a 60+ year old woman too.
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its a sad reality but it takes a great man to control his desires.

tatrasim said:
It depends. Once the damage is done, I don't think it will be a stable home. Was thinking a lot about this lately as I have 3 and 7 year olds.
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bro, thats the difference between my parents marriage and my wifes parents marriage. My parents did not let things escalate to the next level to where damage was insurmountable. Yes they had normal problems like everyone else, but they had enough strength to make it last longer, my wifes parents said "F#@# it im leaving your ass" and walked out of the marriage after only 8 years and giving up so easily.

to the op, props to your parents for lasting so long, I dont think you should feel any kind of remorse, just be happy that they will be able to have a certain level of peace in their golden years. I do hope that financially each of your parents will be ok but this really may be the best for both of them.
 
My parents went about 27 years, then called it quits.

Honestly, they were so miserable with each other it was probably the best decision they ever made. Besides giving birth to me, of course. Cause I'm teh best.

Not going into personal details here but they both did things that were pretty wrong. Things that angered the other. Differences that couldn't be sorted.

Marriage is a fucking joke and nobody takes it seriously these days anyway.
 
MyOwnDemon said:
Honestly, they were so miserable with each other it was probably the best decision they ever made...
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Yeah, fuck, marriage became miserable after about 5 years for me. Then she turned into a bitch and I just blocked 99% of what she was bitching about. Once the honeymoon stage passes, the life begins and everything changes. Now that I live by myself I miss being married, but not the last year or so of being there. Have another girl I can date and who seems all there, but kind of afraid to fuck shit up again. Don't even know if I should start anything.

FlashMob said:
You never know till you try it. Its like saying dont start your own business because you will have many sleepless nights, stressful days, customers will rip you off, business partners will stab you in the back, you will go in dept...
yeah, go be an employee! its not about the security, its about the journey...and the potential.
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Yeah, it is sort of like that. It can be totally worth it. It sucks to be single after being married. Kind of like going back to 9 to 5 after you've been balling for several years, yet business didn't make it in the end.
 
Got divorced a few years ago and the best piece of advice I can give is to treat it like a business transaction and leave as much emotion out of asset negotiation as possible. Also, compromise early - some things just aren't worth the fight/emotional investment.
 
FlashMob said:
I say screw that, the longer you make it work shows more character and responsibility. The children deserve a normal two parent, stable, home while growing up.
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Having both your parents that talk about divorce constantly is better than a single parent?

I disagree.

That's the opposite of a stable home environment.

Actually, it might have a negative effect for the kids growing up watching their parents fight and hit each other.
 
clyde said:
Having both your parents that talk about divorce constantly is better than a single parent?

I disagree.

That's the opposite of a stable home environment.

Actually, it might have a negative effect for the kids growing up watching their parents fight and hit each other.
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My reference into "making it work" means to keep everything away from the kids, and yes that means deal with your problems behind closed doors, just like you wouldnt let your wife suckk ur dick infront of your kids right? keep the grown up stuff away from the children.

Fuck my parents got divorced the first time after my older brother was born and then a seperation again after I was born, I did not even know that about them till I was 19 and my auntie told me.

My parents had problems but did not hate eachother enough to commit an action that would dissolve the marriage and the family as a unit (adultery). They kept true to their vows for over 30 years.

Im sure my dad wanted to screw every nice piece of a$$ he saw back in the 80's and 90's but he held out and i gotta respect him for that even though he fucked up recently and cheated on my mom.
 
Sweet now you can take over where your poppa left off.

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Sometimes we need to face off these kind of things just to fix something which is already ruined. Maybe your mom and dad wasn't able to fix it. You maybe got depress or whatever emotion you will have during these days but eventually you will be able to cover it up and live life as normal as it can be. Just think, it'll be the best way to for the both of them to ease the pain. Support them.

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Those mentioning kids-

"the best thing you can do for a child is give them a happy home. The second best thing you can do for them, is remove them from an unhappy one."
 
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@OP ... Respect for them doing the right thing and making sure the kids are grown. D-day for me after 12 yrs of marriage was just under a year ago. 9 months is the legal separation time here, it's just a "let's see if this was just a bad fight" thing.

Personally my divorce is more civil than our marriage. My kid laughs at the way her friend's parents handle it. I'm happier than fuck and it obviously shows.

To those considering divorce - Burning bridges is fun and all, but it's never worth doing when there are kids involved.

tatrasim said:
It depends. Once the damage is done, I don't think it will be a stable home. Was thinking a lot about this lately as I have 3 and 7 year olds.
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I started thinking when my kid was 7-8 and came to the conclusion to stick a few more years minimum. The end result was me getting D'd instead of giving but I'm good with that ... I could take that emotional blow much better than the spouse. Because of that, the process wasn't an emotional tsunami. In the end, it's just a negotiation like below.

DreamMachine said:
Got divorced a few years ago and the best piece of advice I can give is to treat it like a business transaction and leave as much emotion out of asset negotiation as possible. Also, compromise early - some things just aren't worth the fight/emotional investment.
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100% agreed and this is a recipe for both custody and financial #winning. It would be interesting comparing our divorce settlements to those ready to duke it out.

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Guys, in most cases it's our fault things work out how they do in bad divorces where we get bent over ... here's why.

- You KNOW the cards are stacked against you for alimony and the law has no moral issues using force
- You KNOW the cards are stacked against you for custody and the law has no moral issues using force
- your female is bat shit crazy (your words, not mine). To be fair, their emotional roller coaster and lip flappery are the most defective parts of their anatomy. You know this so why would you expect her to be the adult in this situation?

Be a man. Do the right thing ... if not for your kids, for yourself. Life is better when there's no noose around your neck.

tatrasim said:
Now that I live by myself I miss being married, ... Have another girl I can date ... It sucks to be single after being married. Kind of like going back to 9 to 5 after you've been balling for several years, yet business didn't make it in the end. Don't even know if I should start anything.
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Take the pussy off the pedestal and step away from the podium please.
 
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