My girlfriend told me part way through the convo earlier "You go live there and ill move in with my mom, and lll just come over"
I know for sure she was guilt trippin me...
I know for sure she was guilt trippin me...
Housing Debacle..
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bro you need to have a serious convo with the girl. stop pissing her off. if you love her talk to her, don't be like little 12 year old high school girls. i 100% understand why she doesn't want to be within arms reach of either parent. i know it may sound mean to you... but she probably isn't trying to be mean, just doesn't want to be that close...
like i said, i'm a 3 hour plane flight minimum from my gf's parents.
engaged, its difficult, for me at least to try to have a serious and heart felt conversation over AIM, I never intended for it to be a serious conversation when I told her, I was just throwing the idea out there...
My intent is to not piss her off, but she is stubborn and hates change and trying new things. I was trying to tell her the benefits and even flat out told her, no excuses, why dont you want to do this, when she finally told me that she doesnt want to live near my parents I was fine...
I can understand why she doesnt want to live near my parents and im sure if I was here i would feel the same way - However, she is always complaining about having no money and right now she pays utilities which come out to be like $300 - $400 a month, my parents arent going to charge us rent or for utilities - Oh, and we would have to have a roomate anymore..
I was never trying to force her, instead trying to tell her some of the benefits, and sometimes she doesnt want to listen so you have to kind of play it though...
My intent is to not piss her off, but she is stubborn and hates change and trying new things. I was trying to tell her the benefits and even flat out told her, no excuses, why dont you want to do this, when she finally told me that she doesnt want to live near my parents I was fine...
I can understand why she doesnt want to live near my parents and im sure if I was here i would feel the same way - However, she is always complaining about having no money and right now she pays utilities which come out to be like $300 - $400 a month, my parents arent going to charge us rent or for utilities - Oh, and we would have to have a roomate anymore..
I was never trying to force her, instead trying to tell her some of the benefits, and sometimes she doesnt want to listen so you have to kind of play it though...
I now have to figure out what to say to my mom besides "No thanks, Stephanie doesnt want to live that close to you"
She sounds unreasonable. Then again, maybe she doesn't want to live in an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond!
how about stop being such an asshole to your girl and say "No thanks, we doesnt want to live that close to you"
I agree 100% with the above.
When it comes down to stability, a house is a million times better than any female.
You should make sure you get your mother to put your name on the deeds of the house, then you may even live in it or not as you please.
Dude. Aren't you like 18? Slow your roll there chief.
Here's the thing though... I think its great that your folks want you near them and can put up a mini-house... But I think you'd be a lot more satisfied with yourself if you keep up your finances and not depend on mom & dad.
Here's the thing though... I think its great that your folks want you near them and can put up a mini-house... But I think you'd be a lot more satisfied with yourself if you keep up your finances and not depend on mom & dad.
BINGO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
also, didnt know she was 18... that true?
Yea, im 19...
Currently I make about $1500 a month...
Im currently working on leaving my job and doing my own shit in addition to some part time work...
Im hoping that soon I will be putting my EMT license to use and working on an Ambulance 2 days a week, the shifts will be 16 or 24s so ill still almost be working "full time" but have more then half the week for web design and my other endeavors...
I think im going to pass on the free house, but it would be nice to not have the $650 in rent each month as more resources for internet marketing(Which I currently suck at) and advertising for my company...
Currently I make about $1500 a month...
Im currently working on leaving my job and doing my own shit in addition to some part time work...
Im hoping that soon I will be putting my EMT license to use and working on an Ambulance 2 days a week, the shifts will be 16 or 24s so ill still almost be working "full time" but have more then half the week for web design and my other endeavors...
I think im going to pass on the free house, but it would be nice to not have the $650 in rent each month as more resources for internet marketing(Which I currently suck at) and advertising for my company...
Ouch... Not much spare cashflows huh. Sounds like you need to really get working on those freelancing projects, as well as try even harder to get your affiliate sites to start building some of that passive income.
Not trying to call you out bro, you sound like a good guy with a good head on your shoulders. Just make sure that you understand that it's like 99% you and your girl won't last... Make your important life decisions based on whats right for YOU. If she's really serious about the two of you, she'll make it work.
Also, we need some pics of her so we can approve. Can't let a fellow WF'er be dating a coyote.
Not trying to call you out bro, you sound like a good guy with a good head on your shoulders. Just make sure that you understand that it's like 99% you and your girl won't last... Make your important life decisions based on whats right for YOU. If she's really serious about the two of you, she'll make it work.
Also, we need some pics of her so we can approve. Can't let a fellow WF'er be dating a coyote.
Yea, im really trying to get the affiliate shit goin... So far ive had absolutely 0 luck with PPC - Im trying for long-term content sites as you can see from my sig...
I have a few freelance projects going, im really backed up and I need more time for the projects I have, which is why im planning on shit canning this current job I have...
I actually just finished working on a prototype of a complete web application for a company that I need to shine up then I plan on marketing it to a certain industry where I hope I can get some real shock value and buzz going...
Other then that, doing the standard web design and a few other things...
As far as me and my girlfriend, we have our issues, theres some shit we still need to go over (Like her bitching at me about being on the comp too much) but I dont see why it couldnt last...
Ill post of a picture of her when I get home...
I have a few freelance projects going, im really backed up and I need more time for the projects I have, which is why im planning on shit canning this current job I have...
I actually just finished working on a prototype of a complete web application for a company that I need to shine up then I plan on marketing it to a certain industry where I hope I can get some real shock value and buzz going...
Other then that, doing the standard web design and a few other things...
As far as me and my girlfriend, we have our issues, theres some shit we still need to go over (Like her bitching at me about being on the comp too much) but I dont see why it couldnt last...
Ill post of a picture of her when I get home...
Need a picture to decide.
But.... I would never live that close to my parents!!!! No matter how old you are they always tell you what they think you should do.
But.... I would never live that close to my parents!!!! No matter how old you are they always tell you what they think you should do.
dude i dont wanna be mean,but seriously,turning down such a offer for your gf,wich probly is your first really love(since you are 19 and 2 years with her already),and having here acting like this....
does she realize why you are on the comp so much? does she realize wich live you gonna have when you start doing that 24 hours shift and working beside on your online projects? does she think money comes from the air?
dude you never know what can happen to you in your live,you could have an major accident wich throw you out of the labor market for some time,
you could break up with here in 6 month,WHO KNOWS
dont be dumb,get your name on the papers and let this house be build,even if you dont go there to live in the first time,ITS ALWAYS YOURS and there.
(beside that,4 acres boy, i would plant a green sea there :rasta
hah, too many yuppy soccer moms invading the area to be growin that shit...
Im gonna talk to my girlfriend more about this when I get home...
She understands why im on the comp, she just says that I neglect her sometimes... Which really, isnt fair because sitting on the couch watchign some retarded movie doesnt make me want to chill with her...
Im gonna talk to my girlfriend more about this when I get home...
She understands why im on the comp, she just says that I neglect her sometimes... Which really, isnt fair because sitting on the couch watchign some retarded movie doesnt make me want to chill with her...
Dude you are 19 ?!?! Why the fuck are you living with your girlfriend?
PLEASE PAY ATTENTION:
DO NOT GET THIS CHICK PREGNANT.
DO NOT LISTEN TO A WORD SHE SAYS
DO NOT DO ANYTHING BUT GO AFTER YOUR PERSONAL GOALS.
If I was making 1500 a month I would take the free house from mom.
Grow a pair, and tell the girl that you are working on your life and if she wants to be a part of it she can blow you when you need her too.
Otherwise you need to focus on setting up your future, and are emotionally unavailable.
(BTW The "emotionally unavailable" line will get you lots of blow jobs. try it)
This is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard: stressing so much over a girl...
But you aren't alone, a lot of fine young men get sucked in way too early.
She only cares about HER SECURITY. And if she is 18 and remotely hot that makes it worse for you, because THE SECOND some rich 40 year old dude with a townhouse comes along and offers her "more security" she wont think twice about ditching you.
And by security I mean money.
Here's the point:
1. ACCOMPLISH YOUR GOALS FIRST
2. BE 35 AND EXTREMELY WEALTHY (Or 24 for that matter fuck!)
3. TONS OF HOT 22 YEAROLD CHICKS WILL THROW THEMSELVES AT YOU.
(and a few 18 year olds too)
this is the last time I'm saying it....
DON'T BE A DOUCHEBAG
DITCH THE BITCH.
SHE IS ALREADY IN YOUR WAY AND YOU CAN'T SEE FOR SHIT.
She's got you cock-eyed man.
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I agree with Lemon, tell her by doing this that within a year you'll be buying houses of your own now that you've freed up some l00t for this affiliate marketing thing.
LazyD,
When I was about your age (I'm 27 now), I moved all the way across the country with my girlfriend. The girl I was going to marry. We had dreams to move away from our crappy hometown, and we did it.
Well, guess what?
Shit didn't work out, she bailed on me a couple years later, and there I was... 21 years old and stuck in bumfuck nowhere with no friends. Her and I had gone out there to make a life for ourselves, to get away from everything, but it all backfired in my face. Eventually, I made my way back home to my family and friends, but it was rough. But, most importantly, it taught me a VALUABLE life lesson about women.
Don't let a girl fuck up a good opportunity. Take the free housing. Do your online stuff with the extra cash you'll be saving. Don't let her ruin that for you. Don't let her talk you out of wanting to do what you feel passionate about.
If she can't understand you're doing what's best for your relationship and you're trying to make a financially-stable future with her, then she doesn't deserve you man.
There are plenty of fish in the sea. Trust me. I know you think you love her now, and you probably do... but years from now, you'll look back on this situation and see how much shit you lost out on for a girl who will probably end up breaking your heart anyway.
My WickedFire friend, you're caught in one of the defining moments of your life. Choose wisely.
When I was about your age (I'm 27 now), I moved all the way across the country with my girlfriend. The girl I was going to marry. We had dreams to move away from our crappy hometown, and we did it.
Well, guess what?
Shit didn't work out, she bailed on me a couple years later, and there I was... 21 years old and stuck in bumfuck nowhere with no friends. Her and I had gone out there to make a life for ourselves, to get away from everything, but it all backfired in my face. Eventually, I made my way back home to my family and friends, but it was rough. But, most importantly, it taught me a VALUABLE life lesson about women.
Don't let a girl fuck up a good opportunity. Take the free housing. Do your online stuff with the extra cash you'll be saving. Don't let her ruin that for you. Don't let her talk you out of wanting to do what you feel passionate about.
If she can't understand you're doing what's best for your relationship and you're trying to make a financially-stable future with her, then she doesn't deserve you man.
There are plenty of fish in the sea. Trust me. I know you think you love her now, and you probably do... but years from now, you'll look back on this situation and see how much shit you lost out on for a girl who will probably end up breaking your heart anyway.
My WickedFire friend, you're caught in one of the defining moments of your life. Choose wisely.
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