how would you deal with your child being bullied at school?

Showing your kid how to take care of himself and command respect without becoming some street-brawling thug is the best thing you can do. I didn't have a man in my life as a child to show me that, and I got the shit bullied out of me around your son's age. That shit has a lasting impact and I ended up over-compensating later in life when I was big enough to take care of myself... and made some really dumb choices in the process. This is part of a father's job and it sounds like you're on the right track.

And whatever you do, DO NOT fucking pay underage children to "talk to" bullies. You're gonna end up on the business end of a courtroom that way.
 


lol @ "combat training"

What is this "combat training" you speak of, good sir? And where do I enroll my children? Does the "combat training" school provide a healthy snack as well?

Fucking LOL.
It's not that hard to find since the ultimate fighting craze.

It's basically UFC training and I know people that have taken fighting classes in Chicago, Phoenix, and Baton Rouge, Good sir.
 
It's not that hard to find since the ultimate fighting craze.

It's basically UFC training and I know people that have taken fighting classes in Chicago, Phoenix, and Baton Rouge, Good sir.

Face...Palm.

First of all, UFC (commonly referred to as MMA) is a physical confrontation *sport* that emphasizes how to win a match - not real life tactics.

Watch a UFC match sometime. 95% of starts with roundhouse kicks that end up with both opponents rolling around on the mat trying to get the other to tap out.

These tactics are NOT useful in a real life engagement setting. Particularly with young children but just as much for adults. In a real life confrontation do you really think the best way to confront an aggressor is to roll around on the street full of broken glass to give him the opportunity to pin you and rape your mouth? I think not, good sir.

Will those classes be a great extra-curricular activity to promote strength, confidence, and general well-being for a child that's interested in the sport? Sure. But they are NOT to be confused with actual "real life" fighting scenarios.

Secondly, there is no such thing as civilian "combat training." The term "combat training" is a blanket term that can be used to describe anything from hand-to-hand combative strategy (which is what I assume you meant) to weaponized SAR to repel borders on a ship.

So when you say "enroll your child in combat training" what you really mean is "teach your kid karate/jiu-jitsu/whatever-the-fuck-punch-and-kick-class-at-the-YMCA"

Don't get me wrong: basic self-defense is important and every child should learn how to get away from danger and strike back WHEN there is no other alternative.

But too many dipshit parents think that enrolling their kid in a $30 a month karate class will solve the problem. It won't. While it may be constructive on a character-building, physical exercise regimen level, what your basic karate/MMA/whatever-the-fuck teaches is absolutely useless in almost every real life scenario, period.
 
I remember when I was younger (about your son's age), I was picked on in gradeschool by a certain kid. I asked my dad what to do. My dad told me next time he touches me, to punch him in the nose.

So I did. One day I just completely snapped and beat the shit out of this guy on the playground. You know what happened? He never even so much as looked at me ever again. He was so embarassed that I kicked his ass, he never even told a teacher. The problem resolved itself because I showed him I wasn't going to take his shit.

While I don't promote violence, your son definitely needs to stand up for himself. At that age, you can't "reason" with a bully with words. Let your son know it's okay to defend himself but don't go looking for fights.

He may be the type that is timid and doesn't like to confront other people, but in order to avoid the "bullies" (both now AND later on in life) he needs to learn. Maybe he has low self esteem? Maybe he needs a confidence boost? But most importantly, he probably needs your support.
 
Bro, tell your kid to not run away from it, laugh it off at times, ignore at times and have fun with his friends. It is not complicated
 
Agree with beach.

MA/SD classes, especially those for kids, rarely prepare students for real-life fights. The students might think they're ready to kick ass on the streets or in the schoolyard. But then they run into someone who either knows what he's doing or doesn't give a shit about the "rules" of sparring, etc.

Besides, bad things happen:

Death of 10-year-old involved in school fight declared a homicide - CNN.com

That's a homicide. It doesn't matter who won and who lost the fight (and arguably, the dead girl definitely lost). Even the "winner" is tainted.

Along the same lines, watch how the big kid throws the small kid on the ground. Can you imagine what might have been the outcome if the small kid would have landed in a way that snapped his neck or caused a severe cerebral hemorrhage? That stuff happens. Life is already risky. Why needlessly increase the risk?

Also, to the OP, read these:

Fighting, Combat, Self-Defense and Sports Fighting -- the differences

Legal Issues Regarding Self-Defense

I've not vetted the info, so I can't vouch for it. But the guy raises interesting questions about SD and legal issues.
 
I learned martial arts as a kid, taught it to my daughter. I never worried about her. I got called to school once because some kid was bullying another kid and my daughter decked the bully. The principal said my daughter was in trouble. I told him straight to his face he better rethink his position. He did and nothing else happened.
I never got bullied after the 7th grade after I grew like 8 inches and packed on muscle.
I really don't think that the bullies are the problem, they have always been there. I think it's because the schools lack the power to do anything about it over political correctness and the fact that the parents are raising their kids with TV's instead of communication.
My kid knows the difference between wrong and right, she has a big heart and will make a great doctor when she graduates. I did pretty good for a single dad, but I got help from family!
 
Face...Palm.

First of all, UFC (commonly referred to as MMA) is a physical confrontation *sport* that emphasizes how to win a match - not real life tactics.

Watch a UFC match sometime. 95% of starts with roundhouse kicks that end up with both opponents rolling around on the mat trying to get the other to tap out.

These tactics are NOT useful in a real life engagement setting. Particularly with young children but just as much for adults. In a real life confrontation do you really think the best way to confront an aggressor is to roll around on the street full of broken glass to give him the opportunity to pin you and rape your mouth? I think not, good sir.

Will those classes be a great extra-curricular activity to promote strength, confidence, and general well-being for a child that's interested in the sport? Sure. But they are NOT to be confused with actual "real life" fighting scenarios.

Secondly, there is no such thing as civilian "combat training." The term "combat training" is a blanket term that can be used to describe anything from hand-to-hand combative strategy (which is what I assume you meant) to weaponized SAR to repel borders on a ship.

So when you say "enroll your child in combat training" what you really mean is "teach your kid karate/jiu-jitsu/whatever-the-fuck-punch-and-kick-class-at-the-YMCA"

Don't get me wrong: basic self-defense is important and every child should learn how to get away from danger and strike back WHEN there is no other alternative.

But too many dipshit parents think that enrolling their kid in a $30 a month karate class will solve the problem. It won't. While it may be constructive on a character-building, physical exercise regimen level, what your basic karate/MMA/whatever-the-fuck teaches is absolutely useless in almost every real life scenario, period.
What are you disagreeing with? Try reading the whole post next time....my actual suggestion was the figure out the problem to solve as opposed to fighting.

Obviously learning to fight from your back is not the best thing to do, but actual mma style fighting will teach you to defend yourself which is what I suggest doing as opposed to a karate. No where did I suggest his kid tries to fight the bully
 
In middle school, my son kept getting his book thrown down the stairs by another kid in his previous class.

I told him he had to immediatly find an authority figure to tell. I also called his VP to let him know this was going on, and when.

The next time, my son found one of the priniciapls in the hall, told him, and the kid got written up.

Incredibly, the bully confronted my kid the next day in class, complaining he had been written up. My son raised his hand, told the teacher the kid was bothering him - they got seperated, and that was the end of it.

Anyway, you can stick up for yourself with your mouth, and not just with your firsts. Sometimes I think the principals, teachers, etc. really don't want to be bothered - but if your kid starts singing, they have to pay attention.
 
Get him on some sports teams with kids his age / from his school. May take awhile for him to get "accepted" with that crowd but it will happen eventually unless he's totally uncoordinated and incompetent. Better route than him becoming a goth / emo kid in highschool. Though being goth / emo look is a good defense now as the other kids will be fearful of a school shooting.
 
DO NOT TAKE HIM TO JUI-JITSU CLASSES - READ THIS POST!

Don't get me wrong, it's a great martial art, but it's not appropriate for this situation.

Why?
Because it mostly focuses on ground fighting and submissions. That's NOT the way to defend yourself against what is almost certain to be multiple bullies.
If you teach a kid being bullied jui-jitsu, he's gonna take one of those bullies to the ground and either:
a) Get stomped out by the other 2+ bullies who are still standing while he's on the floor almost defenseless
or
b) Break some kid's arm and get expelled from school

Honestly, I can't tell you what the best thing to do would be, but personally, I'd either put him in a muay thai class or buy him a punchbag and teach him to punch myself. Then I'd tell him to go to school, find the ringleader of these little fuks and break his nose. He'll probably have 1 "retaliation" fight after that, and he may get a beating, but if he goes down swinging he'll never have to worry about them again. I'd rather he take 1 beating than get bullied for the next 5 years. Kids kill themselves over this shit.

That's my take on it, yours may be different. But for the love of god don't teach him jui-jitsu.

Best of luck

edit - I just realized another option. Find a couple of kids in the school 2-3 years older than the bullies, and get them to "have a word" with the bullies. Throw them $50 each if you have to. Get them to let the bullies know that your son is their pal, and if they mess with your son again they'll have to answer to them. THAT is what I would do.


1st of all, I appreciate your thought on the subject, but if you think Muay Thai can teach you how to beat up 5 people...your confused on fighting in general.

I am an assistant instructor at Gracie Barra Texas, under Draculino. I started my journey in martial arts with Muay Thai Kick Boxing and Tae Kwon Do growing up competing and winning at the highest level for my age group before learning BJJ. I would definitely say BJJ is more helpful in street fights than any other stand alone art...(But truly Boxing, muay thai, wrestling and BJJ is the best)

Here, we teach Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, Muay Thai Kick Boxing, Wrestling, Boxing separately and as MMA. We have professional fighters all the way up into the UFC.

BJJ is ABSOLUTELY the best martial art for a kid to learn, IMO. It is the easiest to learn in a way that a little bit of knowledge gives you a large gap in skill sets. It also is practiced at 100% where as ALL Striking is practiced at 20% -40% (This is a huge advantage to BJJ where a fight is the exact same tempo as your training and there is less "Shock" or "adrenaline dump".

I also think your confused that you only learn ground fighting in BJJ. The entire fundamental program is based on self defense. You Learn how to throw punches, defend punches, slip punches, circle way from opponents power hand.

You learn how to defend from typical attacks from untrained opponents like,as I like to call them, "High School Headlocks", clenches, escapes from the mount etc.

You learn throws and how to AVOID going to the ground and more importantly, how to get OFF The ground when a bigger person is on top of you.

If your fighting more than one person with Muay Thai, chances are your still going to loose..especially if your just a kid..its not like you've developed years of stand up and muscle memory.

You don't learn how to fight 5 people in any practical martial art. Chances are that if your in a fight with multiple people, one of them is going to hit you and your are going to fall down, now you have 2 or 3 guys on you and you have no idea how to get them off of you.

Knowing basic striking, how to throw some one that clenches you, and how to sweep someone that gets on top of you is more practical in any scenario. In my profession opinion, based on the fact that I am well rounded in both striking AND ground fighting...for a kid, BJJ is a lot smarter to start your kid off in.
 
Face...Palm.

First of all, UFC (commonly referred to as MMA) is a physical confrontation *sport* that emphasizes how to win a match - not real life tactics.

Watch a UFC match sometime. 95% of starts with roundhouse kicks that end up with both opponents rolling around on the mat trying to get the other to tap out.

Lol, I love how you simplify it. I'd love to see you walk up on the street, or anywhere else to a UFC fighter and fight him. You have no idea brother, that caliber is beyond what you can even comprehend.

This is the Dunning–Kruger effect, where unskilled people suffer from illusory superiority, mistakenly rating their ability or knowledge much higher than average.

They start making assumptions like "they can just eye gouge a trained ufc fighter" or just "Grab his balls".

Kruger and Dunning proposed that, for a given skill, incompetent people will:

1. tend to overestimate their own level of skill;
2. fail to recognize genuine skill in others;
3. fail to recognize the extremity of their inadequacy;
4. recognize and acknowledge their own previous lack of skill, if they can be trained to substantially improve.

Whats funny, is that ACTUALLY TRAINED people have the opposite effect, once you become skilled...you then learn how deep the skill set gets and you are surrounded with people who are extremely knowledgeable, talented and skillful and so you then compare yourself to them, feeling inadequate and below average even though you are high above average when compared to society as a whole.

These tactics are NOT useful in a real life engagement setting. Particularly with young children but just as much for adults. In a real life confrontation do you really think the best way to confront an aggressor is to roll around on the street full of broken glass to give him the opportunity to pin you and rape your mouth? I think not, good sir.

I love how people always use these same scenarios, people are always fighting on broken glass and hot lava lol. Where are these kids fighting with broken glass all over the floor?

Even if there IS broken glass on the floor, someone skilled in grappling is going to be skilled enough to be ON TOP with you rubbing YOUR back all over the broken glass, not the other way around.

Will those classes be a great extra-curricular activity to promote strength, confidence, and general well-being for a child that's interested in the sport? Sure. But they are NOT to be confused with actual "real life" fighting scenarios.

Jiu-Jitsu was the first art to be USED in the street and fight its way up into the cage, dominating all other styles (Back when there was ball punching allowed and no weight classes) It has only recently had rules added to it.

The difference between "COMBAT FIGHTING" is you "practice lethal techniques" but you cant actually "practice", them. So when the real situation happens, you are not prepared for it. You will perform GREAT in your controlled class situations, but anyone who's actually fought...know that the techniques you learn in class...have to be tweeked in real fights, fighting at 100%

You have to train at 100% to be efficient at fighting 100% Now, if your a combat soldier, and your literally fighting and using these techniques on people learning what works, and what doesn't and tweaking it and compensating for adrenaline etc. Yeah, it can help...but if you think your going to go to a class 2 days a week learning how "Combat fighting" and be ready for street war...your sadly mistaken.


Secondly, there is no such thing as civilian "combat training." The term "combat training" is a blanket term that can be used to describe anything from hand-to-hand combative strategy (which is what I assume you meant) to weaponized SAR to repel borders on a ship.

So when you say "enroll your child in combat training" what you really mean is "teach your kid karate/jiu-jitsu/whatever-the-fuck-punch-and-kick-class-at-the-YMCA"

Don't get me wrong: basic self-defense is important and every child should learn how to get away from danger and strike back WHEN there is no other alternative.

Agree for the most part

But too many dipshit parents think that enrolling their kid in a $30 a month karate class will solve the problem. It won't.

Agreed

While it may be constructive on a character-building, physical exercise regimen level, what your basic karate/MMA/whatever-the-fuck teaches is absolutely useless in almost every real life scenario, period.

Wrong, ANY physical talent is going to help you in a street fight. Track-n-field will help you. Being able to out run a group of people trying to jump you might be the best self defense in the world.

I think its funny that you keep assuming that the people getting attacked are being attacked by Navy Seals or something. Your ignorant (and I don't mean that disrespectfully, but I mean it by its literal definition) if you think that an untrained guy, starting a fight with a guy whos been training MMA for 3 or 4 years has an advantage on him.

I don't care if its in a cage, on a mat, in a ring, in the streets in a bar, on glass on lava, on a plane or in the woods. The MMA trained guy is going to have a clear advantage.

Here is a page on one of my websites where I collected youtube fights that show some one with at least SOME level of grappling knowledge fighting against someone with no grappling knowledge. And yes, they are on "teh streetz", broken glass and with friends ready to jump in and stomp them the moment the fight hits the floor.
Videos: BJJ/MM in Streetfights
 
Lol, I love how you simplify it. I'd love to see you walk up on the street, or anywhere else to a UFC fighter and fight him. You have no idea brother, that caliber is beyond what you can even comprehend.

I think I have a fair idea. I just don't feel the need to thump my chest about and/or talk about my training and experiences. It comes off as douchebaggery at its finest, IMO.

This is the Dunning–Kruger effect, where unskilled people suffer from illusory superiority, mistakenly rating their ability or knowledge much higher than average. They start making assumptions like "they can just eye gouge a trained ufc fighter" or just "Grab his balls".

Kruger and Dunning proposed that, for a given skill, incompetent people will:

1. tend to overestimate their own level of skill;
2. fail to recognize genuine skill in others;
3. fail to recognize the extremity of their inadequacy;
4. recognize and acknowledge their own previous lack of skill, if they can be trained to substantially improve.

Whats funny, is that ACTUALLY TRAINED people have the opposite effect, once you become skilled...you then learn how deep the skill set gets and you are surrounded with people who are extremely knowledgeable, talented and skillful and so you then compare yourself to them, feeling inadequate and below average even though you are high above average when compared to society as a whole.

Again, I don't want to come off as a blowhard know-it-all but I've had my fair share of *ahem* "combat training" as you also want to put it for some goddamn reason I can't imagine. :eek7:

I love how people always use these same scenarios, people are always fighting on broken glass and hot lava lol. Where are these kids fighting with broken glass all over the floor?

Spoken like a person that has only fought on a nice, clean mat. IRL there are obstacles around you, people around you, etc.

It's just as important to be aware of what's behind you, above you, and below you as it is to be aware of your aggressor.

Even if there IS broken glass on the floor, someone skilled in grappling is going to be skilled enough to be ON TOP with you rubbing YOUR back all over the broken glass, not the other way around.

You're assuming the bully isn't large enough/skilled enough to overcome his skillset. Size is a huge factor and at no point in a real life scenario would I or any other sane person willingly go to the ground. Again, you're showing your lack of real world experience.

While I can respect you're probably good at what you do, I can't respect that you're advocating teaching a child a *SPORT* to fight. It isn't the same and it doesn't matter how many 20 somethings with "TAPOUT" shirts you hang out with say it, it isn't true.

Your hobby is a SPORT. In a real world combat scenario you'd get killed using those techniques.

You have to train at 100% to be efficient at fighting 100% Now, if your a combat soldier, and your literally fighting and using these techniques on people learning what works, and what doesn't and tweaking it and compensating for adrenaline etc. Yeah, it can help...but if you think your going to go to a class 2 days a week learning how "Combat fighting" and be ready for street war...your sadly mistaken.

I'm not even sure you're replying to me here. I didn't advocate any "combat fighting" anything. Do you even know what that means? Really?

I advocated teaching basic self-defense. Nothing more (unless the child is truly interested, of course).


I think its funny that you keep assuming that the people getting attacked are being attacked by Navy Seals or something. Your ignorant (and I don't mean that disrespectfully, but I mean it by its literal definition) if you think that an untrained guy, starting a fight with a guy whos been training MMA for 3 or 4 years has an advantage on him.

I take it disrespectfully because it isn't true. I'm not going to argue with you because it'll come down to some "this guy will win against this guy" argument and we may as well be on the playground ourselves.

Funny you should mention SEALs, though. People always do. We EOD guys rarely get the attention they do. Probably for the best.
 
I think I have a fair idea. I just don't feel the need to thump my chest about and/or talk about my training and experiences. It comes off as douchebaggery at its finest, IMO.Again, I don't want to come off as a blowhard know-it-all but I've had my fair share of *ahem* "combat training" as you also want to put it for some goddamn reason I can't imagine. :eek7:

I'm only quoting what you've been quoting. I didn't coin the term "Combat fighting", if you didn't use it first, maybe you were quoting someone else and I read your quote, but Fighting is fighting, there is only so many ways a body can be manipulated or struck. There are four basic areas, punching, kicking, wrestling and ground fighting. You can add all the little dirty tactics you want into those areas, but those are the areas.

Remember..dirty tactics can be applied by both parties...Just because I train MMA doesn't mean I have to stick to the rules on the street...I can stick my thumbs in both your eyes just as easy as anyone else..but I can do it from a superior position.,



Spoken like a person that has only fought on a nice, clean mat. IRL there are obstacles around you, people around you, etc.

It's just as important to be aware of what's behind you, above you, and below you as it is to be aware of your aggressor.

lol, ask anyone know who knows me, I don't wan't to say where I've been but for arguments sake... just know that isn't true. I've been in EXTREMLY hostile environments where you can easily die and in fact people die every day. There is nothing brag worthy about it and I wouldn't even bring it up if not to refute your comment on my experience being "Sport only". I'm not telling you that going to the floor is the best option. You apply the appropriate skills to the situation.

If you are surrounded by unknowns or multiple people, then you want to use boxing/kickboxing and then wrestling to AVOID going to the floor...if you get punched and you fall on the floor and he jumps on you..you want to use Jiu-jitsu/wrestling to sweep him and get up if your at risk of being attacked by other people...or finish him from a superior position.

Quit confining Jiu-Jitsu to some little box, like we instantly become retarded and start trying to do flying triangles on people or pulling inverted guards on the street lol. Training in MMA, helps you in other areas, your conditioned, your reflexes are better, your balance, your hand eye coordination. Your balance, your strength. You have skills to strike, to be mobile, you have wrestling to avoid going to the ground if their is multiple attackers or the option to take your opponent to the floor if he is taller and you are alone. You have jiu-jitsu to fight from your back if you have no choice or to again, fight from the top if it is one on one.

It reminds me of this time at a bar, there was a famous wrestler (like WWF guy), I forget the guys name now, but he was this giant guy but who also wrestled at an olympic level as far as sport wrestling goes. And at the bar, this drunk guy starts making fun of him about it being fake wrestling...and the wrestler walked up to him, right in his face and said...."You think I can't do that shit to you right now, right here". The guy gulped, and realized, just because the guy wrestled for entertainment and it was scripted, didn't mean he wasn't gigantic, strong and fully capable of smashing the guy.

The guy illogically assumed because that type of wrestling was fake, that the wrestlers skills and other attributes were fake as well. Its the same thing you are doing with MMA, just because we do it in a cage with a mat under our feet..and we consciously follow rules...doesn't mean that we are limited to those abilities and techniques only when we get in a fight in "the street".


You're assuming the bully isn't large enough/skilled enough to overcome his skillset. Size is a huge factor and at no point in a real life scenario would I or any other sane person willingly go to the ground. Again, you're showing your lack of real world experience.

I've been in plenty of real world fights, size is a factor..but so is skill. Being big doesn't equate to being good at fighting. Size doesn't matter as much in a fight until skill is added.

Now, a big guy with a little skill against a little guy with moderate skill...yeah, thats a toss up and I think the big guy has an advantage. But truth be told, most guys who train how to fight and are disciplined enough to become skilled an have spent years getting their ass whipped and humbled to learn that discipline...typically don't go around bullying people.

Bully's are typically guys who thrive on the threat of violence and on picking on smaller people who they think won't give them a fight.

While I can respect you're probably good at what you do, I can't respect that you're advocating teaching a child a *SPORT* to fight.

I think its even more hilarious your telling a 12 year to go learn "Real Life street lethal combat what-chu-macall-it fighting. Lol, what are you suggesting a kid do? Rip another kids throat out, eye gouge another 12 year old? Come on.

A 12 year old getting bullied by 12 year old would completely protect himself with a few years of wrestling, boxing and jiu-jitsu..your insane to think other wise.

It isn't the same and it doesn't matter how many 20 somethings with "TAPOUT" shirts you hang out with say it, it isn't true.

Most fighters laugh at UFC fans wearing Tapout shirts, half our fighters are police officers, marines or in the army. My brother is a Marine Sniper and he is the first to tell you. One of my good friends is Houston HPD, ALL of them are advocates, the only person I've ever met that isn't an advocate in MMA...is someone that hasn't trained in it, suffering from the Dunning - Kruger effect.

Your hobby is a SPORT. In a real world combat scenario you'd get killed using those techniques.

lol, by who? Joe blow at the bar? I'm not hanging out in Russian KGB hideouts, ok. Get real. Most average street fights involve average people without training. Usually drunk idiots who think they are tuff and have no way to let out their aggression.


I'm not even sure you're replying to me here. I didn't advocate any "combat fighting" anything. Do you even know what that means? Really?

My brothers a Marine Sniper my other brother is army infantry, my best friend is a Paratrooper... A guy I considered my uncle is/was a SEAL. Yeah, I have an idea what REAL combat fighting is. You sound like one of these guys, honestly.

There is a difference between REAL world self defense and wartime self defense...

I advocated teaching basic self-defense. Nothing more (unless the child is truly interested, of course).

More like what? What more are you going to teach and trust a kid with.


I take it disrespectfully because it isn't true. I'm not going to argue with you because it'll come down to some "this guy will win against this guy" argument and we may as well be on the playground ourselves.

Its the impression I get, like I said..I used ignorant for lack of a better word...not to use purely as an insult. The argument is impossible to win against you because

A. You automatically make all fights happen in the worst possible environment (Broken glass, gravel ) and then negate the fact that it will be bad for BOTH fighters.
B. You automatically give a size and skill advantage to the attacker
C. You remove all common sense from the skilled victim on which techniques he should apply in different scenarios

Self defense is meant to give an average guy the ability to reasonably defend himself. Boxing, wrestling, Kickboxing and jiu-jitsu training is going to increase your ability to protect yourself and give you an edge in ANY confrontation no matter how you used it compared to NOT having those skill sets. <---that is inarguable.

Funny you should mention SEALs, though. People always do. We EOD guys rarely get the attention they do. Probably for the best.

Then thats half your problem, your applying your combat environment to that of a civilian, or KIDS for this particular scenario and basically telling them they will die if they try to use anything less than what you know. I' sorry brother, but that is ridiculous.
 
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Reading through everything again, I think we agree more than we disagree and I'll take the blame for getting defensive. For some reason this forum makes me more confrontational and more of a dick than I really am.

It all boils down to this for me: I don't advocate teaching a kid to fight, per se; but instead teach them self-defense.

I don't mean to disparage MMA/BJJ practitioners and I totally get your point about them being much more adequately prepared for real world confrontation (and I agree wholeheartedly...)

But we're talking about a kid here. A child. If he is interested in martial arts, then cool. Sure, it will help in confrontations but if he isn't inherently interested in it, then its a waste of his time, IMO.

But basic self defense - particularly how to either get away or neutralize a bully if necessary - is what I'd recommend.

Trust me, I have more respect for you and your abilities than my previous post(s) probably demonstrate.
 
I would see if my child would be interested in learning self defense. but more importantly I would make damn sure he or she knew that bullies are just troubled peoplel and not to let it get to them.
 
Reading through everything again, I think we agree more than we disagree and I'll take the blame for getting defensive. For some reason this forum makes me more confrontational and more of a dick than I really am.

It all boils down to this for me: I don't advocate teaching a kid to fight, per se; but instead teach them self-defense.

I don't mean to disparage MMA/BJJ practitioners and I totally get your point about them being much more adequately prepared for real world confrontation (and I agree wholeheartedly...)

But we're talking about a kid here. A child. If he is interested in martial arts, then cool. Sure, it will help in confrontations but if he isn't inherently interested in it, then its a waste of his time, IMO.

But basic self defense - particularly how to either get away or neutralize a bully if necessary - is what I'd recommend.

Trust me, I have more respect for you and your abilities than my previous post(s) probably demonstrate.


You don't need to know a lot to be able to put bullies off - they are looking for an easy mark.

I did Judo as a kid, which my dad picked that because I was aggressive, and he thought I might be dangerous with karate or something(no UFC in those days - this was the 80s :-) )

I learned basic grapples and throws, nothing fancy, and certainly not enough to face off against some UFC dude - I'd get killed.

But you know what? 99% of playground bullies have no skills whatsover beyond the classic "flailing punch". The reason they are bullies is that they're insecure. People who have martial arts training have usually matured beyond that.

If you're able to grab one and hip throw them, they get enough of a shock to go pick on someone easier. That's all you need. Hell, most of the time you don't even need that. The more-confidence-walk-taller factor is enough to put them off.

Oh, and my daughter is going to start martial arts training from age 4, as long as she wants to. We have a Shaolin temple round the corner. But more for fitness, self-discpline and fun than ass-kicking, although I'll be happier knowing she can at least give someone a nasty shock when she's a teenager. :)
 
Reading through everything again, I think we agree more than we disagree and I'll take the blame for getting defensive. For some reason this forum makes me more confrontational and more of a dick than I really am.

It all boils down to this for me: I don't advocate teaching a kid to fight, per se; but instead teach them self-defense.

I don't mean to disparage MMA/BJJ practitioners and I totally get your point about them being much more adequately prepared for real world confrontation (and I agree wholeheartedly...)

But we're talking about a kid here. A child. If he is interested in martial arts, then cool. Sure, it will help in confrontations but if he isn't inherently interested in it, then its a waste of his time, IMO.

But basic self defense - particularly how to either get away or neutralize a bully if necessary - is what I'd recommend.

Trust me, I have more respect for you and your abilities than my previous post(s) probably demonstrate.

Well said, I'm glad we could find common ground. I think your right, the internet has a tendency to not only make one defensive, but also take statements of context. I got a little defensive as well and probably projected beliefs onto from past debates.

It was good talking to you and I appreciate the level headedness.