My sis suspects her husband is cheating...



barman said:
clearly you've never had sex before.
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I've been married for 10-years, so not much now.

How I miss the days of high school. If I could pick any age to stay at forever, it would probably be 16, old enough to drive around and get in trouble, but too young to serve time for doing so, lol.
 
BlueYonder said:
Your sis shouldn't bother with gadgetry to figure out where he's been. Women have pretty good skills for reading people, and all she needs to do is to watch his behavior.

If he won't look at her in the eye, and acts generally evasive, he's hiding something. Guys who are boning somebody else are struggling with guilt. Being defensive and argumentative is another clear sign he feels guilty about his behavior.

If he's lost interest in sex with his wife, he may be getting plenty elsewhere so less interested. Surprising his wife with a new sexual technique is also a sign of cheating. He learned this new skill from somebody else.

Mysterious phone calls that begin with no voice, and end with the caller hanging up is a clear indication that the girlfriend has been trying to reach him.

If he's behind his computer for hours and secretive about what he's doing, he may be in IM with another woman. This is particularly true if the wife has gone to bed, and he's still busy

Your sis should read up about this stuff online because it's everywhere. She can buy so many damn ebouts about it!
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Women and men are both equally idiots and irrational beings when love is in question. No way she can correctly guess those things assuming she loves him. There is too much emotional interfering.

Talking about it face to face is the only real solution.
 
BlueYonder said:
Your sis shouldn't bother with gadgetry to figure out where he's been. Women have pretty good skills for reading people, and all she needs to do is to watch his behavior.

If he won't look at her in the eye, and acts generally evasive, he's hiding something. Guys who are boning somebody else are struggling with guilt. Being defensive and argumentative is another clear sign he feels guilty about his behavior.

If he's lost interest in sex with his wife, he may be getting plenty elsewhere so less interested. Surprising his wife with a new sexual technique is also a sign of cheating. He learned this new skill from somebody else.

Mysterious phone calls that begin with no voice, and end with the caller hanging up is a clear indication that the girlfriend has been trying to reach him.

If he's behind his computer for hours and secretive about what he's doing, he may be in IM with another woman. This is particularly true if the wife has gone to bed, and he's still busy

Your sis should read up about this stuff online because it's everywhere. She can buy so many damn ebouts about it!
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Every paragraph of this post is stupid. Just for the record.

Edit: just to clarify: I probably do all those things, and I'm not cheating.
 
Anyone that doesn't take a shower after fucking some strange needs to get caught.
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One of the e-books that the late Gary Halbert pimped at the end of his days contained a point about this. If your partner all of the sudden started taking showers during the day without a reason (such as gym workouts), then he/she is probably cheating.

It's a pretty good point.

So it goes both ways.
 
Refrozen said:
Every paragraph of this post is stupid. Just for the record.
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I agree. There's people(guys or girls) who are terrific liars. And there's no way all cheaters feel "guilty" about it.

OP, keylogger, plain and simple. If the dude's cheating, he's gonna leave SOME type of clue in his computer correspondence. Email, im, something. There's even remote ones where all they have to do is run an .exe and you can see everything, screen, keyboard, etc..

And to those saying she should ask him, that's ridiculous. If he's cheating, he's not gonna come clean. If he's not, she's gonna look insecure and paranoid. Either way, it would put a strain on their relationship. Maybe she's naturally suspicious. Track his computer actions for a month or so and you'll know.
 
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hellblazer said:
I agree. There's people(guys or girls) who are terrific liars. And there's no way all cheaters feel "guilty" about it.

OP, keylogger, plain and simple. If the dude's cheating, he's gonna leave SOME type of clue in his computer correspondence. Email, im, something. There's even remote ones where all they have to do is run an .exe and you can see everything, screen, keyboard, etc..

And to those saying she should ask him, that's ridiculous. If he's cheating, he's not gonna come clean. If he's not, she's gonna look insecure and paranoid. Either way, it would put a strain on their relationship. Maybe she's naturally suspicious. Track his computer actions for a month or so and you'll know.
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The thing is, maybe she IS being insecure and paranoid? I'm surprised no one asked why she is suspicious of him in the first place, because unfortunately many woman have a tendency to be overly suspicious with no real logical reason.

So to the OP, if you tell us what makes her suspicious, it would be easier to answer this.

Cheating suspicions/accusations can really kill a marriage completely, since trust in my opinion is the absolute most important part of a healthy relationship. So if she is planning to use any of these gadgets, spy methods or underhanded techniques to figure out the answer, then she better already have a DAMN GOOD REASON to believe that he's cheating. Because if she goes through with something like this behind his back and it turns out he was being completely honest, then she is the one who broke the trust and the relationship will NEVER be the same. I would be surprised if the marriage lasted very long afterward.

So my advice, if there is no past of him being unfaithful and it is important for her to save the marriage, then I would say talking to him about the relationship in an open and honest way would be the best move. If, however, there is strong reason to believe that he is cheating, and keeping the marriage in tact is not the number concern here, then go ahead and spy on him, but know that regardless of the answer she finds the result will be a broken relationship, or severally damaged one.
 
HustlinHard said:
if she goes through with something like this behind his back and it turns out he was being completely honest, then she is the one who broke the trust and the relationship will NEVER be the same...
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That's retarded. If she tracks him for a month and he comes up clean, she quietly erases the evidence and has renewed peace of mind. She's relieved, he never knows anything, and the marriage improves.
 
JonesersRX7 said:
Great way to stifle any excitement in the bedroom... make your partner afraid to bring up any fetishes, toys or "techniques"...
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Fine, fine. I give up. Commenting here is as pointless as the shoe thread, because he keeps buying ugly, stitched shoes no matter how much advice he gets. I'm supposed to be working anyway.

Avoid affairs with women who like spray-on tans. Orange crotch is a dead giveaway. There, was that good advice?
 
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