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First of all, "Ouch."
Second of all, I'm 38, 5'9", and 212lbs.
She's brought up worrying about my health in the past. My family has a good history of obesity, diabetes and alcoholism. She really started to get on my case recently about it. I told her I was working on it. She agreed that I'd been eating better and working out a little, but pointed out that the weight wasn't coming off.
Then, she suggested bariatric surgery. She said a lot of the guys at work have had it and it's worked.
That kind of freaked me out, because I didn't think I was in a situation that really called for that drastic of a measure. I said so, and then it kinda went ugly...
She asked if I'd seen my waistline lately (which hasn't changed much since we got married).
She said I looked pregnant sometimes. I looked 50 years old because of my weight. She was clearly grossed out by my gut.

Now, I must be shallow or insecure or something. Because talking about me possibly dying, having my feet cut off (like my granfather), or being morbidly obese like my mom didn't really bother me, but the idea that my wife thought I was fat crushed me.
I was butt-hurt and pissed off for a day or two, but I'm now I'm just resolved. I'm going to be 180 by my birthday in June. Gym 4x/week, yoga 3x/week, fruits veggies lean protein, less booze.
I'm going to get trim, buff, and fit, and the first hottie at work that throws herself at my new physique is getting fucked HARD.

j/k, honey.
 


Don't get surgery. Get your fat ass to the gym. There lots of hotties at my gym. I go on the treadmill and get nice views of the milfs and college girls on the ellipticals.
 
I find the best way to stay in shape is go to group classes like spinning or yoga. Its good motivation to be with people. Also get a trainer if its in the budget.
 
That and the extenze debacle - shes just not that into you - anymore.

ps. she might be cheating on ya buddy!
 
Look on the bright side, losing the gut will make your dick look bigger!.

Seriously tho, get after it. I went from fat to fit in 6 months, it just takes a serious commitment to a serious lifestyle change. Less booze to no booze or at least red wine will speed it up faster. And drink apple cider vinegar 3-10 x a day, I was like "fucking bullshit" when I read it but decided to try it anyway, only took a few days to feel the difference.

Good luck bro.
 
Drink lots of water. No sodas at all.

You're obviously accountable to your wife, but that's not enough. Make yourself a blog and post a daily picture (a la this guy). Internet humiliation is a powerful force.
 
DanBo said:
First of all, "Ouch."
Second of all, I'm 38, 5'9", and 212lbs.
She's brought up worrying about my health in the past. My family has a good history of obesity, diabetes and alcoholism. She really started to get on my case recently about it. I told her I was working on it. She agreed that I'd been eating better and working out a little, but pointed out that the weight wasn't coming off.
Then, she suggested bariatric surgery. She said a lot of the guys at work have had it and it's worked.
That kind of freaked me out, because I didn't think I was in a situation that really called for that drastic of a measure. I said so, and then it kinda went ugly...
She asked if I'd seen my waistline lately (which hasn't changed much since we got married).
She said I looked pregnant sometimes. I looked 50 years old because of my weight. She was clearly grossed out by my gut.

Now, I must be shallow or insecure or something. Because talking about me possibly dying, having my feet cut off (like my granfather), or being morbidly obese like my mom didn't really bother me, but the idea that my wife thought I was fat crushed me.
I was butt-hurt and pissed off for a day or two, but I'm now I'm just resolved. I'm going to be 180 by my birthday in June. Gym 4x/week, yoga 3x/week, fruits veggies lean protein, less booze.
I'm going to get trim, buff, and fit, and the first hottie at work that throws herself at my new physique is getting fucked HARD.

j/k, honey.
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are you kidding me? Is your wife just into "tough love"? I mean if she is and this helps motivate you then good for you and good for her.

But, if not, if she's not normally a "tough love" kind of person, what the hell? I agree with the other poster. This might be symptoms of a larger issue. I wouldnt take chances with this. I would confront her regarding her need for you to change and get to the bottom of this.

I might tell my girl to lose weight and get better at sex. But thats because I give out "tough love" and she'd know it was my personality. But if its not normal behavior, then you might have a problem.
 
medicalhumor said:
apple cider vinegar 3-10 x a day????

splain to me lucy...
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my wife read this book called "the healing power of vinegar" blah, blah, blah, i called bullshit, blah, blah, blah, finally tried it, blah, blah, blah..used to be 210, now I'm 172 again, blah, blah, blah.

But yeah, 1 tablespoon in 16 oz of water, made me gag like a fiend when I first tried it, now I like it. Feel free to flame away, sounds like some chicken swingin' voodoo bullshit, I know I didn't believe it for a minute.

Also, if you ever get heartburn or indigestion, 1 tablespoon in 16 oz of water = immediate relief, for which I'm thankful as I always overindulge in something.

Vinegar is ascetic acid, which is totally contrarian to everyone taking a base (tums or prescription) to relieve indigestion, but indigestion is usually your body trying to produce more acid to deal with the excess of carbs (base) you just ingested, so we throw more base at it and bam, more acid produced.

Or you could give your body some more acid to help it thru the carb digestion period.

I don't remember why it helps you lose weight and boost your metabolism to be honest, I just power read the book to appease my wife.

I realize this post is 99.9% worseless.
 
What has wickedfire turned into? The forum of Gay Webmasters who have Wifes who like to point out their flaws??
 
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Just FYI we got a few other IM's on here doing around the same thing (workouts, making sure each other are doing it, etc).

Let me know if you want some supplement stacks if you're looking into building, but you may want to cut a little first ... It's hard to tell w/o specifics.

Edit: now that i think about it supplements may not be good if you have anything medical.
 
DanBo said:
I'm going to get trim, buff, and fit, and the first hottie at work that throws herself at my new physique is getting fucked HARD.

j/k, honey.
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You just had to add that last part huh? That's the kinda attitude that's getting you into this mess in the first place :P
 
You know, Dr. Oz said you gain 1" of cock for every 30lbs you lose. :)

Seriously, tho, consistency is key. Just keep at it bro and it will come off quickly.
 
Okay, first it was your dick is too small, now it's you're too fat? I'm assuming the little woman is not physically perfect or the best fuck on earth, so tell her to go to the gym with you and start trying new things in bed or STFU.

Otherwise, go on a diet, go to the gym, and dump the bitch.

Seriously, telling you to get your stomach stapled for a lousy 30lbs? Fuck her.
 
I just lost 40lbs of fat. Went from 255 @28% body fat to 215 @ 16% body fat. Not only that, but I'm taking classes to get my personal training certification since I've discovered I really like helping people lose weight. It's fucking fantastic.

Based on your age, height, and weight I would say that you're definitely an Endomorph (lots of fat, difficulty losing fat, etc.). The good news here is that your body type is conducive to building muscle mass quickly. Do a solid workout routine at the gym, and make sure it's fucking GOOD. Don't do the bicep curls/tricep extensions bullshit and expect to lose weight. You know what, do this routine EXACTLY:

Gym days being Mon/Wed/Fri, alternate the workouts.

Workout A:
+ Squats (2 x 8)
+ Deadlifts (2 x 8)
+ Dips (2 x 8)
+ Bent row (2 x 8)
+ Dumbell overhead press (2 x 8)
+ Weighted crunch (2 x 12)

Workout B:
+ Front squat (2 x 8)
+ Dead lift (2 x 8)
+ Flat bench press (2 x 8)
+ One arm row (2 x 8)
+ Military press (2 x 8)
+ Chin ups (2 x 8)
+ Weighed reverse crunch (2 x 12)

Do 20 minutes of light-moderate intensity cardio after each session. You should burn roughly 300-350 calories in 20 minutes.

Do that routine for 8 weeks. Get your diet on track- 6 meals a day at roughly 350 calories a meal. Get AT LEAST 200g of protein a day. Cut out excess alcohol/pop. You will literally watch the fucking fat MELT off of you.

Seriously, I went from a 38" waist to a 34". None of my clothes fit me properly any more, so I had to buy a whole new stack of them. Not only that, but I lost two chins, was able to see my cock again, and generally just got into shape. Plus, being able to bench 245 cleanly and having kickass triceps is a bonus.

No isolation exercises at all and you'll build a SWEET physique after two months of that routine. Once you're done that routine, follow it up with someothing a bit more comprehensive.

Something like this...

This time you will be doing an upper/lower body split. You will do Upper A on monday, Lower A on tuesday, Upper B on thursday, and Lower B on friday.

Upper A
Pull Ups 2 x 8-10
Incline Bench Press 2 x 8-10
One Arm Row 2 x 8-10
Dips 2 x 8-10
Straight Bar Curl 1 x 8-10
DB Overhead Press 1 x 8-10

Upper B
Chin Ups 2 x 8-10
Flat Bench Press 2 x 8-10
Bent Row 2 x 8-10
Decline Bench Press 2 x 8-10
Hammer Curl 1 x 8-10
Military Press 1 x 8-10

Lower A
Squat 2 x 8-10
Stiff Leg Deadlift 2 x 8-10
Lunge 1 x 8-10
Standing Calf Raise 2 x 8-10
Weighted Crunch 2 x 12-15
Twisting Crunch 1 x 12-15

Lower B
Front Squat 2 x 8-10
Deadlift 2 x 8-10
Lunge 1 x 8-10
Seated Calf Raise 2 x 8-10
Weighted Reverse Crunch 2 x 12-15
Twisting Crunch 1 x 12-15

Post results here. Thank me with shares of your upcoming eBook ;)
 
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