There is something to those 6 degrees of separation, well connections!
This is a little bit of a long post, but hope it helps. For those of you who don't have cancer, or know anyone who does, might want to skip this, it'll be boring!
My son Bob is a Rhabdomyosarcoma cancer survivor. It's a rare children’s cancer (60 kids in the US his age group-he was 16 at the time, and 350 kids from birth-21 get this type of cancer). Originally, it was thought to be testicular cancer. This is Bob's first site and part of his Eagle project (he earned his rank while in treatment).
Don't be a Schmuck. Within 24 hours of getting the news, he had his first appointment with the pediatric oncologist and our lives have never been the same since. He went through hell for nearly a year and is healthy today at 22 years old.
Some helpful hints:
BE ACTIVE IN TREATMENT-I always checked with the doctor and got the OK. These are things that helped Rob be one of the few if only kids to not need a blood transfusion or get an infection during his treatment type.
- EmergenC-a fizzy drink that has lots of vitamin C and minerals. He had that several times a week.
- Prenatal vitamins-I figured if it could help create a new human being, it could help his body recover from the impact of chemo.
- vitamin K-helps blood clot
- Tums-the stomach keeps producing acid when empty, so after a couple days of puking, he didn't feel much like eating, this helped. It also helped during treatment.
- Monitor blood counts-Rob took his shots to boost his white blood cells after treatment. I found out that the platelets don't recover till the shots stop. Our first visit after the hard treatments (7 days), if his white cell count was up enough, I asked permission to stop the shots (normally given for 10 days). I figured an infection is easier to treat than the problems of hemorrhaging when the blood doesn't clot.
- He had to take a mild antibiotic 3 out of 7 days a week. The other 4 days he took acidophilus to replenish the good bacteria in the stomach and intestines that the antibiotics killed.
- Eat as much as you can when you can. Bob had hard rounds of chemo every three weeks and chemo almost every week. The week before the hard treatment he drank protein drinks and would eat as much as he could to help his body out be ready for the treatment to come. He pretty much maintained his weight through treatment.
ANTTITUDE IS KEY-We didn't treat Bob like he was sick or facing a life threatening illness. Being home educated he took his GED. When he got diagnosed he had one test left. In between a CT scan and a bone scan he took his last test to get it out of the way before treatment started. As soon as he felt well enough after the hard chemo rounds, he had to do his chores before hanging out with friends. It was really hard for me to require that, but I knew treating him like "normal" played a part of him not really thinking of himself as "sick" and not having the full impact of the seriousness of what he was facing. Do as much "normal" stuff as you are physically able.
BE EDUCATED-I can't repeat that one enough. The docs know a lot, but not everything. Their focus is the big picture (research and info for themselves) mine was one cancer patient and what was best for my son.
Rob get embarrassed and was uncomfortable with me questioning the doctors. Sometimes it helped me understand better, but in one area, it greatly influenced Rob's treatment. I was pressured and pushed and they were willing to send me to a neighboring city and postpone chemo starting and even told me "since you aren't refusing any treatment, I can't call CPS (child protective services), but I don't want your son to die". I stood my ground against the treatment, something in my gut told me not to do it. They wanted to slice him up the side to check lymph nodes even though NOTHING wrong showed up in scans. They thought he might have to go through 6 weeks of radiation if I didn't agree to this surgery. (he didn't) Later when I pushed for real numbers. They were going to do that to him because of a 5 year old study on 25 kids who's spread of cancer to the lymph nodes didn't show up in 9 kids in the scans. Technology changed, plus they were still getting the dye injections levels right for kids then. The final bit of info that made me stand my ground was that when we consulted with the radiologist, in passing he said the surgery "usually doesn't affect function (sexual)" I knew my son was going to have to go through enough and I wasn't going to sign a paper to take that away from him for no valid reason.
Good luck to the cancer fighters out there, and please let me know if there is anything I can do to help. If your parents need someone to talk to who knows what they are going through, please have them contact me also. I will be praying for you.