Suggestions...Daughter's Fiancee Dead

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stadanko101

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Hi guys,

I've been posting/lurking here for a while. I'm trying to get some affiliate action going, but so far I suck.

But, I'm writing about a recent personal tragedy. My daughter's fiancee and friend of 8 years passed away last Tuesday morning from an apparent overdose of xanax. His father discovered him not breathing and tried without success to revive him. He was 25.

Police on the scene said they have calls like this about three times a week. That's locally in Florida.

From what I'm learning, pills like these are available like pot was in the 60's and 70's. Kids are buying them from "feel good docs" for $1 and selling them on the streets for $5.

I'm flat pissed, but don't know on whom to target my anger....Pharmaceuticals(for their insatuable appetite for profits) or the media for not educating us on these dangerous pills and their availability. Sure....I'm pissed at myself for not researching this myself and concentrating on making a living for my family.

I and my family are hurting, but I'd like to help cover his parents asses, as they're still sobbing and not really in the mood to take some action.

Do you think starting a blog about this problem may be a good outlet?

Sorry if this all seems a bit disconnected...I'm personally mourning pretty heavily.

Thanks,
Stadanko
 


damn, shitty situation, sorry about the loss. start a xanax blog then start ranking for xanax, then sell them through a mexican pharmacy.
 
Firstly, I am truly sorry for your loss. No one is ever prepared for a trajedy like that.

Secondly, I would wait until you are no longer mourning and are ready to move on from the situation. I am saying this because right now you are in an emotional state, and if you were to create a site targeting Xanex you may not be able to handle any setbacks or criticism the same way as you would when you are in a more neutral frame of mind.

Take some time to comfort yourself, your family, and your friends. After some time has passed start your blog or website. This also has the added benefit of adding to the longevity of your project- most projects started out of anger, depression, fear, etc. don't survive for too long.

Most importantly, be there for your daughter. As hard as it is for you, it can only feel worse for her.

Best of luck to you and your family.
 
Firstly, I am truly sorry for your loss. No one is ever prepared for a trajedy like that.

Secondly, I would wait until you are no longer mourning and are ready to move on from the situation. I am saying this because right now you are in an emotional state, and if you were to create a site targeting Xanex you may not be able to handle any setbacks or criticism the same way as you would when you are in a more neutral frame of mind.

Take some time to comfort yourself, your family, and your friends. After some time has passed start your blog or website. This also has the added benefit of adding to the longevity of your project- most projects started out of anger, depression, fear, etc. don't survive for too long.

Most importantly, be there for your daughter. As hard as it is for you, it can only feel worse for her.

Best of luck to you and your family.


Life brings good with the bad, and bad with the good. Just take some time help your daughter through this tragedy.

I even though it's triple posted it really cannot be said enough. You need to take care of your family, and for the brunt of the emotions to be dealt with in the proper way. You can think about what you should of said, or could of said. Fact is you'll only be stressing about things you couldn't possibly control.

It doesn't matter how much you think you could of done some thing to stop this, or how much it should of been taught from other sources. Prescription drugs are prescribed by doctors for these reasons, they are set in proper doses for these reasons. Any drug taken improperly can be fatal.

If you still have all this anger laying around, go out and get some exercise. Take up a new sport, hobby, or what ever you feel like doing. Put the extra energy to good productive use.
 
My deepest sympathies for you and your daughter's loss.

Regarding your "next move"... I may sound very callous here, but frankly, it's not the pharma companies fault. It's not the drug dealers' fault. It's not the media's fault. It's nobody's fault except the man who chose to take an illicit substance in excess.

Look at the reality. These wonder pills are available in ample quantities. The people that do them, as well as the people that move them on to the streets are well aware of their effects and their likely complications. Yet every day, 98% of the population does not take these drugs.

Your daughter likely needs you right now. Focus on your family. Good luck.
 
Sorry to hear that, some bad shit mate.

Imho, education, not prohibition or regulation is the way forward. Erowid is a great source of drug info.

I can understand you wanting someone to blame, maybe the blame lies with a society where companies value profits over life and kids are told "drugs are bad (n'kay)" rather than given proper information.

An informative blog could be a great idea - I'd go down the route of 'these are the facts' rather than just warning of the dangers though.

Though it's no consolation it's worth bearing in mind that alcohol and tobacco are responsible for more deaths than all other drugs combined.

A friend died of an accidental OD last year, it's not good.

Take it easy, Si
 
Thanks all

Thanks for the comments. You're right... I need to just cool the jets and work through the mourning with the family. I'm just extremely angry. Thanks again!!
 
I'm SO very sorry for the loss to everyone who knew your daughter's fiancee. Each of you should remember you are not alone and grief as you know it now, shall pass. Strength to all of you, be there for each other, and be observant so this tragedy doesn't trigger another tragedy.

Overdoses occur accidentally, not all of them are planned. I'm not sure what the situation is in this case or if anyone knows for sure, but it sucks either way. When the time comes and you are past grieving and have helped your daughter survive this tragedy, these are some topics to consider:
  • What your drug dealer won't tell you
  • Need to feel good? Try this....
  • How overdoses happen
  • Do you know where your drugs are?
  • Recognizing drug use
  • Avoid accidental overdose
  • How to survive after loosing someone to drug overdose
  • Signs of undiagnosed brain chemical imbalance
  • Is someone you know depressed and at risk?
  • Suicide may be contagious
Often people who over use drugs/alcohol are attempting to self-medicate an undiagnosed brain chemical imbalance. Having the appropriate medication in the correct dose often eliminates drug/alcohol abuse.
 
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