28 years of being pretty clueless I would say.
I understand you're frustration and your cockiness in this matter.
But galacon just posted some solid advice there. And seniors like galacon & Kiopa are not wasting time giving you any advice.
You've no idea what you maybe up against when you out something like that (if you're still contemplating a legal recourse).
Also, it maybe a simple case of dynamic IPs - to say the least.
You know why they ask you to shut the fuck up when you're caught, arrested or even taken for questioning. It means that anything you say can & will be used
against you in the court of law.
Posting on the internet is like screaming out in the public about something. Especially after one single email against that guy.
You're in for a doubt right now, you're guessing stuff up that maybe, just maybe, that guy guessed your passwords since you were so wise enough to have a single password for all your accounts & you didn't setup a temporary password before giving access to a programmer.
Also, his claim that he just might've been hacked could be true (even though there is a miniscule chance of that happening). Ever heard of BOTNETS?
You, my friend, need to mellow down a bit. Especially if you're ranting about a senior member of the forum and other seniors are giving you some advice.
P.S - Seema's also the name of the chick I slept with last week. She ain't my girlfriend and she ain't a whore. Beat that. <3