Uh.. I asked me g/f to marry me and she broke up with me
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true dat^ It's gonna be hard but the best thing you can do is let her go. Seriously. Listen to Tom Lykis too.
I hope you had 9 years of great sex with her.. otherwise, you have just wasted your darn fucking life.
Sorry for your situation man, I've been there myself (well, 3-4 years and I sure as hell never popped the question). However, there is an upside.
Mark my words: you're actually going to realize before long how awesome it is to be single. I'd spend the next year being a hardcore playa.
You'll also probably love how much money you'll save, not to mention mental stress. No more thinking "omgomgomg. Is this going to piss her off?"
Want to sit in front of the computer until four in the morning (after an evening of clubbing) in your questionably-clean underwear, making money? Have at it.
Nobody is going to get on your case about how you don't spend enough time together, how you're too focused on work, how they wish you'd take them to a nice dinner just once and a fucking while, how you remind them of their dad and it really turns them on, how you should grow out your hair into a mullet and slap her around because it gets her hot and also reminds her of her dad, why won't you let her Guatemalan midget friend come over for a threesome how you refuse to wear the ball gag and take it in the ass crying while her best friend watches and I saw nothing but the glow of a cigarette in the corner and the occasional flash of a camera no don't make me I HATE YOU BITCH.
...... I appear to have said too much.
(This was, of course, humor.)
Mark my words: you're actually going to realize before long how awesome it is to be single. I'd spend the next year being a hardcore playa.
You'll also probably love how much money you'll save, not to mention mental stress. No more thinking "omgomgomg. Is this going to piss her off?"
Want to sit in front of the computer until four in the morning (after an evening of clubbing) in your questionably-clean underwear, making money? Have at it.
Nobody is going to get on your case about how you don't spend enough time together, how you're too focused on work, how they wish you'd take them to a nice dinner just once and a fucking while, how you remind them of their dad and it really turns them on, how you should grow out your hair into a mullet and slap her around because it gets her hot and also reminds her of her dad, why won't you let her Guatemalan midget friend come over for a threesome how you refuse to wear the ball gag and take it in the ass crying while her best friend watches and I saw nothing but the glow of a cigarette in the corner and the occasional flash of a camera no don't make me I HATE YOU BITCH.
...... I appear to have said too much.
(This was, of course, humor.)
Be a grown up about it
You never know, somewhere down the road you might run into each other and be a better match after some living life apart. You also may fall in deeply in love with a much better match who wants to grow with you. It would suck to meet her friends and one of them be your ex who will tell of your immature behavior now.
You win if you act like a grown up. Better chance of her missing you!
You never know, somewhere down the road you might run into each other and be a better match after some living life apart. You also may fall in deeply in love with a much better match who wants to grow with you. It would suck to meet her friends and one of them be your ex who will tell of your immature behavior now.
You win if you act like a grown up. Better chance of her missing you!
first off...in my opinion, given the situation, I think she took a step back from your relationship and saw that there's dick out there for her...and she's taking that opportunity to cash in on it.....fuck who knows..maybe she cheated on you...
hurts to hear....but it's not the end of the world....it's happened to many others.
its okay to feel hurt, sad & shitty about the situation.... there come a point tho where you need to man the fuck up and turn all that hurt to your energy.
probably hurts to say or think about it...but maybe the shit wasnt meant to be....
my advice to get thru this hard time, is to pretty much break all contact with her.... delete her contacts from whatever messaging program you have...take down every picture you have of her, do what you can to not know what's going on with her and what she's up to...
this worked for me, i did not care to know what she was doing, cuz when I did, that just got me down and made me feel immobile in doing anything.
pick up a hobby, work out, focus hard on AM...make that paper! do what you gotta do to not think about her.....
NOTHING CAN HURT YOU UNLESS YOU GIVE IT PERMISSION TO.
..simply..... don't give YOUR permission.
. you'll be fine.... u got us muthafucka's on this board backing you up.
hurts to hear....but it's not the end of the world....it's happened to many others.
its okay to feel hurt, sad & shitty about the situation.... there come a point tho where you need to man the fuck up and turn all that hurt to your energy.
probably hurts to say or think about it...but maybe the shit wasnt meant to be....
my advice to get thru this hard time, is to pretty much break all contact with her.... delete her contacts from whatever messaging program you have...take down every picture you have of her, do what you can to not know what's going on with her and what she's up to...
this worked for me, i did not care to know what she was doing, cuz when I did, that just got me down and made me feel immobile in doing anything.
pick up a hobby, work out, focus hard on AM...make that paper! do what you gotta do to not think about her.....
NOTHING CAN HURT YOU UNLESS YOU GIVE IT PERMISSION TO.
..simply..... don't give YOUR permission.
. you'll be fine.... u got us muthafucka's on this board backing you up.
Sucks dude. But it always happens when a relationship gets a little stale and "routine".
Get some buddies together and go on a road trip - go surfing for a month, go to Europe, whatever. Don't tell her you're leaving or give her one more thought right now. Just pack some shit and go.
You'll come back a whole different person, guaranteed.
Get some buddies together and go on a road trip - go surfing for a month, go to Europe, whatever. Don't tell her you're leaving or give her one more thought right now. Just pack some shit and go.
You'll come back a whole different person, guaranteed.
#1 - Listen to Smaxor
#2 - Then go fuck her sister, mother and best friend in the ass.
#3 - Then move the fuck on.
#2 - Then go fuck her sister, mother and best friend in the ass.
#3 - Then move the fuck on.
While I don’t know you personally, I have been down that road before. My first wife left me after 9 years and three children. Your girlfriend has had the last year to come to grips with her decision that she has now thrust upon you. The problem you will face in the short term of dealing with her decision is severe depression. You won’t recognize it, but it will be there all the same sapping your energy and confusing your mind. For this reason, I strongly recommend you seek medical help from your physician to deal with the depression so you can sleep and function normally. I didn’t but now know it would have helped me a lot. I wish you well.
i hope you dont mean he should start popping anti depressants... everybody goes through this shit. you have to work it out in your mind and not just pop a pill and trick your brain into being happy.
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