Uh.. I asked me g/f to marry me and she broke up with me
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Ask her to come over to wickedfire and see this post...she'll realize what a grave mistake she has committed and she might accept your proposal after the truth about how much you love her dawns upon her...
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she might get pissed about the "strong sentiments and words" our WF users have expressed towards her and wouldn't ever answer your calls...
Would you be willing to risk this?
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she might get pissed about the "strong sentiments and words" our WF users have expressed towards her and wouldn't ever answer your calls...
Would you be willing to risk this?
It's unfortunate. Take the time to through all of your emotions, figure what clues you missed about this and move forward.
Forget jumping in the sack, that's weak. Basing your manhood from sex and using it to "get over" somebody usually isn't the best and only covers a long term "inner issue".
Take a few deep breaths, take a trip maybe. Cherish the good stuff and move forward.
Build your body (hit the gym), mind (read some good books/web), spirit (meditate / life plan). Start looking forward to your next success.
Everything will work out for you.
Forget jumping in the sack, that's weak. Basing your manhood from sex and using it to "get over" somebody usually isn't the best and only covers a long term "inner issue".
Take a few deep breaths, take a trip maybe. Cherish the good stuff and move forward.
Build your body (hit the gym), mind (read some good books/web), spirit (meditate / life plan). Start looking forward to your next success.
Everything will work out for you.
I'm surprised no one has done the usual WF type suggestion, where we rank in G for her name with this thread.
Best line said IMO was from eyekon1: "NOTHING CAN HURT YOU UNLESS YOU GIVE IT PERMISSION TO.
..simply..... don't give YOUR permission."
I'm going to remember that point for a long, long time.
Best line said IMO was from eyekon1: "NOTHING CAN HURT YOU UNLESS YOU GIVE IT PERMISSION TO.
..simply..... don't give YOUR permission."
I'm going to remember that point for a long, long time.
Thats not what you want to hear from a woman when you have been with her for 9 years it wont feel like it at present but maybe it is for the best dust yourself down be your own boss, no nagging, see who you want to see, do what you want to do when you want to do it theres a lot to be said for the single life it does have its perks.
Probably nothing to do but move on.
Yes, I know this is easier said than done.
I proposed to my g/f after 9 years and I don't know what I would have done would she have said no.
Been heartbroken before, tho, so: You will get through this, even if it does not seem like it right now. Get in touch with your friends, do stuff, don't let yourself down.
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Yes, I know this is easier said than done.
I proposed to my g/f after 9 years and I don't know what I would have done would she have said no.
Been heartbroken before, tho, so: You will get through this, even if it does not seem like it right now. Get in touch with your friends, do stuff, don't let yourself down.
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I'm a little late to this thread but I wanted to say I feel for you BigWill. It sucks right now but it's your win in the end. And from experience, I also suspect what barman said - chances are she already found someone. This is just their way of trying to tell you nicely "without hurting your feelings".
And the best medicine has already been suggested: dump her 100% and move on. She will either a) not care (unlikely) or b) try desperately to get back to you at least to "remain friends or fuckbuddies".
And the best medicine has already been suggested: dump her 100% and move on. She will either a) not care (unlikely) or b) try desperately to get back to you at least to "remain friends or fuckbuddies".
Similar to a quote made by Bruce Lee back when he was alive:
"No one can hit you unless you let them."
Just FYI, this girl did not "find some cock out there". We hang out 24/7 and are (were) each others best friends. I would know in a sec if she was cheating on me, I would feel it the 2nd I saw her.
She wants to do exactly what she said, grow as an individual. I'm just going to have to accept that as I want her to be happy.
I'm not going to wait around forever. But maybe she'll change her mind once she gets out there and come back and realise what she had.
She wants to do exactly what she said, grow as an individual. I'm just going to have to accept that as I want her to be happy.
I'm not going to wait around forever. But maybe she'll change her mind once she gets out there and come back and realise what she had.
Dude that site is full of nasty immature, pregnant, overweight women. I don't think I have seen a even remotely attractive girl on there.
They always come crawling back. Then the decision will be up to you whether to take her back or not at that point. You should get out during this time and meet other women too to see what else is out there. Good luck man; I know it's gotta be tough right now.
Plenty of Fish in the sea though. **No reference intended to plentyoffish.com.**
Although, your proposal may have stimulated the break up, it was obviously there before-hand, and she was waiting for a time to let you down gently.
And honestly, I was with my ex-fiance for three years, up until recently (well last week). And oddly enough, when I broke up with him, my reasoning was very similar to hers. Sometimes after you've been with someone for so long, you loose track of yourself. And unfortunately, the only way to get your shit together, is sometimes to alleviate the most significant obstacle preventing you from getting your shit together. Don't think for a second that because she broke up with you that the love she felt for you went out the window when the two of you weren't together any longer. Because although, I'm not with my ex-fiance, I still love him more than ever and I'm certain she loves you too.
And although, everyone says that she may be cheating. Maybe, she is just honestly trying to grow as an individual. Perhaps you should take this time to grow as an individual as well. This could possibly bring you guys closer in the end, who knows. Despite what you are feeling and thinking, maybe she just needs some time to think.
God luck man, I know how it feels.
Girls are so fucked up ... Here's some advice for you, don't let our signifigant other determine who you are as a person. Don't change your personality to fit inside what you "think" they want. Be yourself at all times .. period
I really wished I was the Gayest member of this gay webmaster forum. I'm not really sure that would solve the woman problem though as fags are really sensitive and think that way too .... and I love the vagina. << that's true love :]
Perhaps being asexual might work? ooh wait, I'm married, I'm already there.
I'm not fucked up. I'm twenty years old and felt like I was 50. And I failed to mention the shit I went through. Thanks.....
Indeed. I can vouch for women like Janaic. Keyword there, is women. A woman is someone who has matured, where as in my mind a girl is someone who hasn't. Hence, my ex-gf is a girl not a woman. But then again, that's just me.
If she's felt like that for a year but didn't say anything then how do you know the same shit won't happen in the future if you do get it back on.
Communication is the most important thing in a relationship in my opinion. If she prefers to bottle it up (for a fuckin year?!), rather than talk to you then I wouldn't hold out much hope for it working in the future.
I know it's fuckin hard mate, but try to move on.
Communication is the most important thing in a relationship in my opinion. If she prefers to bottle it up (for a fuckin year?!), rather than talk to you then I wouldn't hold out much hope for it working in the future.
I know it's fuckin hard mate, but try to move on.
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