Do you expect a virgin wife ?
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I really don't care. My current girlfriend was a virgin when we first started dating. Our relationship is already 2 years and a half old, which pretty serious from my point of view and maybe this will eventually lead to marriage.
But a virgin wife, like after you marry her, I don't even think its a good idea, how do you marry someone that you know nothing about, from a sexual point of view.
Not any couple of two people will get along in bed, so I think its better intercourse happens before you make any life time plans.
But a virgin wife, like after you marry her, I don't even think its a good idea, how do you marry someone that you know nothing about, from a sexual point of view.
Not any couple of two people will get along in bed, so I think its better intercourse happens before you make any life time plans.
No thank you!
Do you rather hire a trained VA with a few years of experience, or someone who just started offering his services?
Your analogy doesn't translate to long term life partner in this case.
Please read this first: Why Sluts Make Bad Wives « Chateau Heartiste
Then, read this: http://s3.amazonaws.com/thf_media/2003/pdf/Bookofcharts.pdf
TLDR: The more number of dicks your girl put into her vajayjay, the higher probability of you getting raped in divorce court.
And this is why real scientists laugh at so-called "social science". Those charts mean nothing:
1 . For a start, they are all based on 'surveys'. Surveys are notoriously unreliable, especially sexual ones. It could just as well be titled "Women who under-report number of sexual partners less likely to divorce."
2. It only shows correlation. CORRELATION IS NOT CAUSATION. There is a very strong correlation between TV ownership and heart disease risk. Does this mean that buying a TV and leaving it in the boot of your car will make you more likely to die of a heart attack?
3. They are so vague as to be useless. The group is "women", divided into age? How do they account for lifestyle factors, such as social class, ethnicity, religion, level of education? All of those are known to have a huge effect on divorce, happiness, depression, abortion etc.
4. The paper is from the "Heritage foundation". Who is this august organisation? A conservative think tank with an agenda to push, that's who.
5. It's totally uncontrolled. Why didn't they split the groups up into cohorts, controlled for other variables, and then follow them for 10 years? Because that would have been too hard for the poor dears, that's why.
6. The headlines don't even describe the graphs. See below for more details.
Let's look at the chart about divorce in more detail:
The title says "Delay in sexual activity leads to greater marital stability." No, that's not what the data says at all. For a start, they're not even measuring that. They're measuring the number of women who have been married for more than 5 years, but are over 30 at the time of survey.
But what does that mean, exactly?
It COULD mean than as a rule, they chose not to get married until they were older, and therefore hadn't tripped the five year mark. Or it could mean they got divorced every 6 months. Either of those are equally possible given the paucity of other information we have.
It doesn't even show a clear trend line. After 19-20, it flattens out. And why is there a sudden dip from 23-25?
TLDR: this "paper" is about as reliable as the Church of the assertion that lack of pirates causes global warming.
In fact the pirates one is more credible, because at least it has a clear trend line.
The only real conclusion one can draw from it is that pressure groups will manipulate spurious statistics to serve their agendas and mislead those who lack the faculty of critical thinking.
The two are entirely different situations. One is for business, the other is for a life partner.
I highly doubt that you could hop on the Internet, pull up a dating site, and immediately replace your girlfriend, fiancée, or wife as quickly or at all as you could a VA--mainly because nearly all the females on dating sites are probably maintained by VAs in third-world countries to scam money from you (though in that sense you could replace that part of your female companions more cheaply in the long run).
You don't immediately start dating someone and expect them to know all your likes, dislikes, and quirks. That'd be boring and based on the sheer volume of books on spicing up a marriage that are out there, you wouldn't go on a second date with them if they did know all that out of the gate. The same is true in bed, even if they have porn star level experience, they still won't know what you like and dislike in that area until you shared said topics.
It's all about communication, both in the bedroom and out. No relationship will last if you can't communicate your likes and dislikes. Yeah, a virgin would go into the situation timid and with expectations differing from yours, but if you put in the time to ease them into it and communicated as you went, it'd probably be just as or more a fulfilling and meaningful lasting experience. Then, as they got comfortable, would more than likely be willing to venture out and explore different aspects more readily than they would if you did a horrid job of communicating along the way. Which is actually the main reason most girls have hangups with parts of sex--bad introductions and communication their first time.
/end gagging thread
The correct analogy would be buying a new car vs used car because their value is diminishing as the time goes.
5% chance of finding one.
2% chance she's normal and not a cat lady.
1% chance she's good in bed surprisingly.
0% chance I want to deal with all of that shit.
Impossible to find one.
2% chance she's normal and not a cat lady.
1% chance she's good in bed surprisingly.
0% chance I want to deal with all of that shit.
Impossible to find one.
Arguably, do you want your non-virgin wife to be wondering whether she could get away with banging her army of ex'es?
