I think one of the greatest impediments to success with banging chicks are your conscience.
Think about it.
Say you live in a country where everyone drive on the left. Say you insist on driving on the right. Then you tend to hit other drivers more.
The issue is not whether you're more right or wrong than everyone else. The issue is that it's too costly to be different.
It's simply too costly to have different values than societies you live in. Most of the time, through self-deception or irrational logic, people simply conform.
Unfortunately, getting girls are governed differently than our normal behavior.
The fact is, in general, lying or defrauding girls so you can sleep with them is legal, but paying them is not.
Now, think for a while.
Imagine if you go to McDonald, and you try to seduce the cashier to get burger. Chance is not only you're not going to get any, most people will think you're crazy. The normal way to get burger, the normal way to get ANYTHING in life is to pay for it. Committing fraud is usually illegal. Sex is the exact opposite.
Your conscience is trained within that normal McDonald situation. When you use your conscience on dating, you'll end up like drivers on the different side with everyone else.
You'll be surprised by others simply lying openly and get away with it, you'll get screwed a lot arguing why paying girls should be legal.
You tend to get used to the idea that moral comes from reasoning and hence must be consistent. The truth is, if there is any consistency between one area and another in morality, it simply is the interest of the powerful. In short, might, for all practical purposes, does make right. As interests of the powerful change all the time, so is morality from culture to culture and from time to time.
The sooner you accept that, and realistically maneuver reality rather than trying to fight it, the more peace you'll have in this world and the more profit you get. After all, you too would do the same when opportunities arise right? You should.
Anyway, why McDonald's ethic is different than anti-prostitution ethic?
Simple. McDonald situation is governed mainly by free market mechanism. Here, keeping customers happy is paramount. Otherwise you'll go to burger king.
Your relationship with girls is governed mainly by politicians. Those politicians want vote from your competitors who simply don't want you to be happy. Here keeping her happy, say by paying her, will make her choose you and that will make other males unhappy. So all the other males will say it's illegal.
Most males do not care how happy girls will be. Other males are mainly concern that they are chosen.
In Afghanistan, for example, force marriage is common. Its sex outside marriage, that is, sex outside permission of the powerful, is the one that's illegal. In US, prostitution is more politically incorrect than bullshitting girls. The latter is legal.
If lying is legal, and paying is not, then lie. Or at least realize reality the way it is.
Imagine if you live in a socialist country. Imagine if all the people have deep seated beliefs that every man deserve to be equally rich, irrelevant of how smart or diligent they are. Say you want to be richer. Can you do that the nice way?
Of course not. No matter how you get rich, someone somewhere somehow will say you're wrong. Worst of all you will think that this whole thing is just a slight misunderstanding. You keep working hard thinking that everyone surely approves you, till one day you and your whole family are slaughtered by the mobs that think you're wrong.
Can you get rich in a socialist country? Yes you can, by being a jerk.
Now, imagine if you live in a monogamous country. Imagine if all the people have deep seated beliefs that every man deserve equal number of hot babe (namely 1) no matter how tall, smart, diligent, or rich he is. Say you want to knock up more. Can you do it the nice way?
Of course not. No matter how consensual your deal is, someone somewhere somehow will say you're wrong. Worst of all you will think that this is all just a slight misunderstanding. You keep seducing girls thinking that nobody would mind you're sleeping with their wives, girlfriends, fiances, and concubines. I mean the girls consent, and you're paying for it, so what? One day, you'll just wake up with a big knife on your back.
The truth is, they mind. EVERY primate, with the exception of Bonobo, mind a lot when they see someone else is winning.
Can you knock up many hot babes? Yes by being a jerk. Last time I check terrorists and douche bag don't have problem doing that. Nice businessmen do.
It takes a really big ball to live in peace. Bonobo live peacefully because they got big balls and their sperms, instead of they, fight. They live in peace, but they don't create play station either.
The issue is not whether you're hurting them or not. The issue is when you win they don't. Period.
So how do you win?
You lie. Either to yourself, to the girl, or to society. Everybody bullshits.
Think about it. Each male primate wants to mate with as many female primates as possible. All primates with the exception of Bonobo, wants to prevent every other male from accomplishing that. Gorilla would just bash weaker gorillas. Humans simply bullshit other humans.
How do they do so? They make highly inconsistent rules that if you look carefully, actually prohibit everything. Most rules in any country actually allow anyone to get caught.
The rules are justified by all sort of nonsense. At first it's religion. Then it's morality. After that we have this idea that certain acts demean women.
Obviously if they block everything then they too won't get laid. Then they make a loop hole so they can pass and you don't.
So a lot of moral reasoning in societies is about giving different names on essentially the same thing. The key of winning is to go through that narrow path or hypocritically pretend to everyone else you're going through that narrow path.
Take a look at these:
Prostitutes- ... this is just the definition of prostitution: (in most states) a lewd act for money or other consideration ... (California courts have ruled that if someone mows your lawn and then commits a lewd act, the mowing of the lawn constitutes "other consideration" and therefore an act of prostitution has taken place). -
what is a sex worker
Look at that carefully. Who among us will do anything without “consideration”? The law as it says actually prohibit virtually all sex. Yet there are loopholes.
One of the loophole is escort. Obviously an escort is a prostitute. Who would pay $100 per hour just to have a girl a company him? You think politicians do not know that? Another is massage therapists. The idea is nobody knows what you do with the therapists so the cop doesn't have proof. The difference is simple. You just don't rub it on their nose that you're getting it. So they don't jail you.
Then there is marriage. When a girl marries you, does she have “consideration”. Of course. Somehow magically it's not prostitution. Why? Because marriage always favor the ruling class. In democratic countries, within marriage girls can only pick single males. Single males are males that don't sale and are usually of low quality.
In short, marriage rules in any culture tend to favor those who are in power. Those people then simply declare that marriage is not prostitution. In democratic countries, for example, single males outnumber super rich males that can horde women. Hence, marriage tends to favor single males.
In arab countries, the king and religious leaders rule. So marriage laws there are favorable for the king and religious leaders. Polygamy is legal there, for example, and the rest should just jerk off themselves or channeled to be terrorists to kill you.
Confused? When you understand their incentive, there is nothing irrational or illogical about it. After all, single males and ugly women can vote too right?
Just like tariffs are there to kick out better cars, marriage is designed to kick out richer males. Getting married can get your damage cost really high. The most obvious sample is
Tiger Wood and
Beatty Chadwick. Marriage laws scare of the rich and middle class males favor that so much. Many males have committed suicide out of marriage.
Some middle ground is sugar relationship. Basically you enforce your own contract by splitting the deal into smaller pieces. She stop humping you stop paying. This put your damage cost under control. So far so good. Cops are not cracking down on sugar relationship yet and that's as legal as it goes.
That's how you live. Like water. If you insist on following your conscience, you'll just get crushed.
Next we're going to talk about managing damage costs. By the way, I got 1 daughter and still married.