Good/Bad in declaring income to Girlfriend

My wife and I had this conversation the other day. She has a job. I pay all the bills and let her keep all the money she makes to spend on whatever she wants. She is smart with money, so she mostly ends up saving it.

As we're driving home:

"All my friends where talking about their budgets and how they're keeping track of their money. Should we make a budget?"

I said, that she could make a budget for her spending if she wanted too, but our income was probably a bit different than her friends.

"Well, how much did we make last year?"

I didn't really answer, I gave her some revenue and expenses numbers for the businesses, which I don't think she added up but felt good enough about. Never really talked about it since.

The point is, a woman you want to keep shouldn't care (as long as she feels comfortable that the mortgage is gonna get paid) and a woman you don't want to keep shouldn't know shit.
 


Do not do it.

Advice: Start a company before marriage in your name. Always will give you an out which she can not legally take from you since you went into the marriage with it.

My wife have no clue what I do, tried to explain it a few times but gave up. Just knows we get to write everyone off come tax time. As for friends I just tell them I pay myself a few k a month and the believe that.
 
STOP!

before you go any further, we need more information, so why don't you lay down on the couch, and tell us why you're asking this question.

Question 1: Is it because the girlfriend is asking this question?

Question 2: Or is it because you want her to know how much you're making?


If it's question #1, it could mean a few things: One, it could mean your GF is a gold digger, and she's doing her research. Or it could mean that she's not a gold digger, but that she just wants to be secure with somebody and know that when the relationship progresses, and you get married/have kids, they will be secure. If on the outside, it looks like you're pretty successful, and she's still asking you for an actual number, you have a gold digger on your hands. If on the outside you look like an average joe/cheap/loser/unsuccesful/unkept or any related derivatives, you might have a girl that just wants to make sure you can provide for her long term, and won't be a bum for the rest of your life.

If it's question #2, you have issues that you need to sort through yourself, without involving your girlfriend, and preferably with a professional counselor/psychologist. It might mean that you're trying to impress her. Which could mean that either you think she's too good for you, and you might lose her, so you're overcompensating. That could be true, or it could mean that you never got enough love or attention as a child, and are constantly seeking approval and love, even when it comes with no strings attached.

So, as you see, before making rash decisions, consider doing thinking, and answering the questions above.
 
the majority of people dont know how to play adequately with money especially if its well above the avererage. hence safer not to disclose exact amounts
 
never ever tell how much you make rather always let her puzzled to think how much you make...

best way to stick with her if you really like her. ;)
 
ya do it make sure she knows all of ur information so she can know u trust her

I usually hand over my debit cards on the 2nd date and by the first time we have sex I give her my SSN
 
what kind of a girl are we talking about here? how long have you been with her, how has she been reacting to certain occurrences in your relationship? Does she look like someone who will stick to you no matter what or has she even contributed to your success?

While I agree that my accountant is the only one who knows how much I exactly make (or not), I think that my income is something I won't tell to anyone I haven't had some very deep (no pun intended) life-changing experiences with.
 
dooooo not do it. Nothing good can come from it...Say you make alot of money now and it dips in a year or two she will give you shit. Also she will expect more from you. Better cars, clothes, food, living, etc
 
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