How to handle rejection and how why ask anyway?

teguh123

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Recently I used InMail (like email but you need to pay $30 per month and can send 3 of which per month via linkedin.com).

I told a company I can bring them 20k-30k extra sign up per month. That's a $300 million dollar company. I explained (too long) about too many issues.

The inmail is simply "declined" with no explanation whatsoever.

Am I disappointed? Yes. But not a lot. Why? Because it's more of the norm rather than exception.

I am a lawsy introverted networker. Quite often people say no to me.

But then again, I am often on the other side of the desk.

People ask me what my traffic source, SEO tips, how I make money, etc. I too declined. Sometimes I give a little bit to test water but usually things don't go well.

Now, let's think for a while.

Humans are selfish. I am offering that guy something useful for his company. Yet I am declined.

Yet most people, including I was, are even worst. We just ask for help. We do not even have incentive to offer those we asked.

For people to respond positively it's important that both are profited.

I'll give you an example:
Someone asked for traffic source I used for CPA arbitrage.

Now put your self on my shoes and assume I am a selfish psychopath (humans are not that different).

Pro: Nothing. I got friends. But small inexperienced new friends don't help a lot.
Con: I got competitors. I spent so much time trying and testing traffic sources to see what's work. Now I am going to give it for free?
It's unfair. There are people that have done bizs with me longer and I don't share that to them. Why should I share to that to anyone?

So I don't know what to do with those people. If I just decline they got mad. So I do nothing and usually relationship just go somewhere else.

Modification:
There are many traffic sources. Most are untested, perhaps you can offer to help testing those. Once traffic sources are tested and proven then there is no way anyone would share.
There are other CPA that may work for proven traffic source. Offer to test that. Again, once proven it's gold mine. People don't share gold mine. People share effort to mine gold together.

People asked to be my friends:
Pro: I know somebody. Perhaps this guy can help me network.
Con: Who are you? How can you be useful for me?

This may sound as harsh. Every individuals have 125 monkey numbers. Why should you be one of those?

Again I am not trying to be snobbish and stuff. This is what most other humans actually think when they are asked to befriend somebody.

They usually just politely request.

I do not have many advices for networking. I am not an expert. The reason I teach is so I can teach my self actually. But I think this should work. I wonder if others want to add something.

1. Put incentive in front
2. Make it short. Keep positive things important. Keep negative things behind. Something like, "There could be issues, I'll explain if you're interested". If people see the negative first they'll never agree. They want profit not problems. Eventually the negative need to be "sorted". However, if they barely know you, they won't invest the time to bother checking your offers.
3. Practice practice practice practice. Wanna be a stud? Practice practice practice practice....
 


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teguh123 thread
 
Teguh, you have the problem most marketers have.

You assume that because you have something rational to offer, people will rationally accept.

Human attraction isn't rational.

Social marketing is about identifying someone's pain point and building a narrative (story) which addresses it.

Start reading Derek Halpern @ Social Triggers.

Online Marketing Strategy – Social Triggers

And read Pitch Anything.
 
Yup, Just because you tell them you can bring them this doesn't mean they are going to believe you and also doesn't mean that they are going to want to work with you.

You need to build a rapport with them and prove to them that you are actually worth their time.
 
You need to build a rapport with them and prove to them that you are actually worth their time.
Rapport building isn't what makes sales. It's beta behavior from guys who are lousy salesmen.

You have to understand how the human mind processes information if you want to sell to someone. Being their pal, or talking to them about the football game doesn't get you a close, and even if you're able to get some business out of them from rapport, it's not based on an excitement about doing business with you, but a sense of guilt that they have to trade with their pal.

That's a shitty way to sell, and it isn't scalable.

If by rapport you meant, identify a customer pain point, pitch a narrative to them which excites them and creates a wanting, then yeah, that works. But rapport as conventionally used by salesmen, which is what I assumed you meant, is a complete fucking fail.

Don't be needy.