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I talk to mine about everything I'm doing online even if she doesn't have a clue what I'm saying. It helps her some what understand what I'm doing and I've always ask her advice on projects even if I don't need any. Of course that's after I've listened to what she has to say about what ever women talk about.

I also take time out for the family, early morning I work while at work and don't go back to work until 8pm - 9pm until the kids are in bed. I also help with everything around the house because chasing 3 kids all day is a hell of a lot harder work then I do.

Anyway good luck
 


Uhm, use the money you're earning so far to hire a maid or cleaner or someone to do HER CHORES as much as possible (plenty of babysitters, maid, cleaners, laundry, etc out there). Then with her extra time, get her to help you 'play around with the computer'.

You'll pretty much dry up your funds for a week or two but it's worth it if you can get her brainwashed. Hey if you make enough money, she might want you to continue outsourcing her chores (who wouldn't).
 
SEO_Mike said:
Okay, thanks for the support and more important the reality check everyone!

I will:
  1. Talk to the wife
  2. Quit my whining
  3. Get back to work.
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Your missing "Spend quality time with her" which I think is your ultimate problem here. It's easy to get caught up in this shit, you need to break away, relax, spend time with her, and make her feel better.

I "grew" with my wife. I went from a 9-5 for 2 years to working from home full time. She knows what it's like both ways. Reliable paychecks, to unreliable affiliate income working from home.

I made a deal with my wife, I am "sacrificing" all of my time this winter to "take the summer off" so we can spend time as a family. Of course, it allows time for me to keep the business running during summer. So yeah, I'm busting my ass right now and that's why you never see me on here anymore. Sorry, but as someone said, WickedFire and forums in general are a luxury during times like this.

The end result, we are extremely happy with each other and never get into screaming fights like the ones you describe.

Take her out for a nice dinner, surprise her with a one hour jam session cleaning the house for her, etc. She's looking for you to reach out, that's it. You are not spending enough time with her, period.

For those of you who strike down marriage, your either too young or you don't know what true love is yet. Keep on telling yourself that, go ahead. Happiness != Money
 
ScottDaMan said:
For those of you who strike down marriage, your either too young or you don't know what true love is yet. Keep on telling yourself that, go ahead. Happiness != Money
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Plus like previously said

SEO_Mike said:
Okay, thanks for the support and more important the reality check everyone!

I will:
  1. Talk to the wife
  2. Quit my whining
  3. Get back to work.
:D
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I don't know how you didn't put "Spent time with my wife" there. It's not about the talking, it's about the doing.
 
Ask her for help. Then suck her into the work. Then pile on more work.

Then go dick off while the bitch is working =)
 
Alright dude. It took awhile and while I was driving home something said to reply to your post...so here it goes.

First I do feel your pain b/c it is always difficult to have balance and now to the plan.


Divide your week into 4 categories: religion, family, country, and business in that order. Then for the week figure out how you will spend time with each category. eg. Religion-Sunday (Church); Family- Kids(Trip to Park on Saturday) Wife(massage on Wednesday); Country - (Where to vote, War in Iraq issues, whatever floats your boat man!);
Business - (Work - 40 hours, PPC - 8 hours, Blog - 2 hours, etc)

Good luck to you Mike. Great book- Five Love Languages and Connections by Merill. Great Audio Book- Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus.

Too all the naysayers who thinks this is stupid and the wife should just get over it... remember this. A woman always wants to be on an adventure. Remember back to when you were first going out and give yourselves some quality time.

Anyway. My $0.02. Peace Mike!
 
Dude, think.

She feels less important than activity_01 and even if you figure out how to convice her that you aren't "playing" or "buy her something nice" or "spend more time with her" there's always going to be the next one because you aren't actually seeing the real problem:

Ask for her help.

(WARNING SWEEPING GENERALIZATION APPROACHING - TAKE WITH GRAIN OF SALT, PARTICULARLY THE LADIES).

Women want to take care of their men.

Let her.
 
I read the first 6 or 7 posts and then skimmed through the rest on this thread. I don't think that what I'm about to say has been said yet and I hope that this helps you out.

I'm a woman and I'm part of a online husband and wife team. I've been earning my paychecks online for 2 years after leaving a successful office sales career. My husband and I have been together for 6 years and he's a programmer who owns a webdesign company. Needless to say, we get along great. We are both up working like maniacs most nights until 5 or 6 in the morning. We are both addicts to this life. I love everything about this business and if I'm not up working on my websites I'm up reading and learning on boards like this one.

OK, that being said let me give you some advice about how to calm your women down. Get them involved in the life. Give them a website of their own and get them started earning a little money from their own online endeavors. I honestly believe that if these girls got involved in the process and saw the fruits of their own onlne labor that they would be more understanding and supportive regarding what you do. Before long the two of you would be sitting up till all hours working together.

I feel for you guys. These girls raising hell when you're making money sounds pretty nuts to me. Get used to the rest of the family thinking that what you do isn't a "real job". None of our extended family gets what we do. We don't give a shit. I quit caring a long time ago.
 
Let her in on the math of what AM can do. Tell her how much you make per hour doing AM versus your day job. Tell her you'd like to do AM full time, and with her help you could make $xxx,xxx per year working just x hours a day.

It's a sales pitch.

I'm fortunate to have a job with flexible hours, and a wife that's smart and understanding enough to let me work fewer hours on my "real" job so I can explore AM opportunities.
 
maverick said:
I think what your experiencing is a common example of people not understanding what you really do and how you make money. I have the exact same problem when I work from home and am continuously told I should stop spending time playing on the computer and spend time with the GF.

Many people do not understand the concept of online marketing or the I.T business and even after you explain to them that you can be successful without a huge staff and campus they don't get it.

My family have been in retail for a long time and my sisters BF (who is a complete prick) found a receipt stub for $15k that someone paid me a couple of weeks ago. Within 10 minutes I had him telling me it was a fake or I was into fraud and that only a real job like his (working in a food shop earning $400 a week) can make cash.

I genuinely believe that if i waked in and put 100k cash on the table I would still get told I should have a real job and that's just something we all need to live with.

My secret to keep the GF happy was to buy her a new laptop and give her some guidance on starting to earn some cash online. I found that even if she makes $1 its opening her eyes to what we do. If the kids play online build them an arcade site and tell them that they can get the profits as spending time and you will soon see them wanting to help you out.

With regards to auto blogs , get some automation software and it will save you a heap of time. If you don't already have it PM me and I will push you in the right direction.
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EXACT MY WORDS and MY STORY. Except that my parents and/or family aint in retail or real estate business. But mind blowing. I;ve done all what u have written in it and everything you had mentioned. I've gone through it too. Its a small world. :)
 
FSHD$$$ said:
I read the first 6 or 7 posts and then skimmed through the rest on this thread. I don't think that what I'm about to say has been said yet and I hope that this helps you out.

I'm a woman and I'm part of a online husband and wife team. I've been earning my paychecks online for 2 years after leaving a successful office sales career. My husband and I have been together for 6 years and he's a programmer who owns a webdesign company. Needless to say, we get along great. We are both up working like maniacs most nights until 5 or 6 in the morning. We are both addicts to this life. I love everything about this business and if I'm not up working on my websites I'm up reading and learning on boards like this one.

OK, that being said let me give you some advice about how to calm your women down. Get them involved in the life. Give them a website of their own and get them started earning a little money from their own online endeavors. I honestly believe that if these girls got involved in the process and saw the fruits of their own onlne labor that they would be more understanding and supportive regarding what you do. Before long the two of you would be sitting up till all hours working together.

I feel for you guys. These girls raising hell when you're making money sounds pretty nuts to me. Get used to the rest of the family thinking that what you do isn't a "real job". None of our extended family gets what we do. We don't give a shit. I quit caring a long time ago.
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Your the fourth couple am meeting on WF who ONLY work online and earn through their online earnings :)

Way to go. Cheers!!
 
To most people in the world (incorrectly), you are not really working unless you're doing something physically strenuous. Their perception is if you sit behind a desk or computer all day you are not working but if you are a garbage man or construction worker and have put in a good 8 hours of picking up trash or building shit, you are a hard worker.

They have it all backwards, but it's because they don't have the same entrepreneurial mindset that most of us do. They don't get that money is made using your brain and a computer; not doing physical labor that any sweat shop worker can do for $1/hr.

Some of you have posted some great advice here. Mike's contributed a lot of great shit to this forum. Good luck bud.
 
Im pretty much in exactly the same position with my girlfriend of a couple years, except no kids. She works a 9-5 and I have been full-time on the internet for as long as we've been together. Sometimes if she has a bad day at work or whatever she'll come home to our apartment and say 'you couldnt clean (or make dinner, or go grocery shopping, etc)? you just sat here on your ass all day?' It drives me f'ing insane when people say that. I try to compare it to her job, 'you dont clean or cook or grocery shop when you are at work,' but she just doesnt get it. My internet earnings pay for our apartment, cars, and just about everything else which is probably why it bothers me so much when she (or anyone else) says I sit on my ass all day watching tv while im on my laptop.

Thanks for the tips everyone, she's always trying to work more hours and stuff to earn herself some extra money, so maybe I'll try putting her onto some of her own AM stuff. I highly doubt she would ever really get into it, (and i know this comes off asshole-ish) but i think her trying and failing would best prove to her that its not easy money and that I really am working while she's gone all day.
 
I feel for you guys that have GFs or wives that don't understand. Early on , I talked to my wife and explained what everything was about, more recently a few months ago, I got her involved in writing content for some people here on WF, it gets her involved and I think that is what you guys having a hard time should do is get them involved in some way.
 
I went through this with my wife a couple years ago when I first told her I was thinking of going full time. She got all upset because we were just getting our heads above water and clearing out some debt and making headway. She thought that was because of the full time job I was doing. I had to explain that the extras were coming from online and if I could do online full time I could bring in a lot more income.

I had to quit my full time job to start making real money.

I think you're making some money online, but clearly not enough for her to be comfortable with it. Once you start making a bit more then your yearly salary in your offline job, you can say that the offline job is now holding you back.
 
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