Why don't I feel the need to have friends?
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its tough to find friends. im an internet dude, I like talking about work, everyone else wants to talk about celebrities, the fake news and all the other shit on TV and I gave that up about 10 years ago.
you're not alone. I feel like we've done enough to steer evolution in a direction that no longer weeds out those that should be subject to a more natural selection. I have buds that tell me about the "NWO" trying to kill off 90% of the population and I kinda think "where do I sign up for this NWO?" lol
you're not alone. I feel like we've done enough to steer evolution in a direction that no longer weeds out those that should be subject to a more natural selection. I have buds that tell me about the "NWO" trying to kill off 90% of the population and I kinda think "where do I sign up for this NWO?" lol
Deep shit bro. We are really only something in relation to others.
I could understand not needing a lot of random aquintances, but everyone needs a good handful of friends to help bury the body if such a situation should arise.
It only gets harder making friends as you get older, but this is mostly because you start to have a lot more defined values and those are hard to overlook. In contrast, being young means having a lot in common with most people. I still have some childhood/adolesence friends, but like all other things, friendships need to grow. Friends will not only be there for you, they will also push you to do the things you need to do, but don't want to and say the things you need to hear but don't want to hear.
Tl/Dr, friends are rare, drinking buddies are two dimes a dozen.
51monty, you pretty much described how I feel/act in the OP.
While I don't object to having friends in principle, most people around me bore me. I get enough daily interaction from my partner and people I meet in on-topic forums have way higher chance of holding my interest than those in RL.
I keep thinking that when my life stabilizes a bit, I will try finding some kind of topic-centred communication in RL, but perhaps I am just fooling myself.and I really have no desire to communicate much in person.
While I don't object to having friends in principle, most people around me bore me. I get enough daily interaction from my partner and people I meet in on-topic forums have way higher chance of holding my interest than those in RL.
I keep thinking that when my life stabilizes a bit, I will try finding some kind of topic-centred communication in RL, but perhaps I am just fooling myself.and I really have no desire to communicate much in person.
Maybe the problem isn't the OP but that many people aren't very interesting, intelligent etc.
The OP is on a different level than most people who are in debt, don't make much money, don't have a future, and have to obsess over trivial social status stuff.
How you measure status and happiness is up to you. It doesn't have to be based on social norms, or what other people think should make you happy.
The OP is on a different level than most people who are in debt, don't make much money, don't have a future, and have to obsess over trivial social status stuff.
How you measure status and happiness is up to you. It doesn't have to be based on social norms, or what other people think should make you happy.
This is one of the things about modern society that I dislike the most. Not all people are meant to be interesting and intelligent. Other people are not here to entertain you. If you can't accept people as they are and enjoy yourself then maybe you are the problem.
Funny. I am a female speaking of a male, if that comforts you any, but I suppose I am carrying a Van brand around.
Here is a nice cliché saying:
- Small minds discuss people. -
- Average minds discuss events -
- Great minds discuss ideas -
- Small minds discuss people. -
- Average minds discuss events -
- Great minds discuss ideas -
I agree with you.
I accept people as they are. If they say hello, I respond in kind. But unless a person adds to my life in some identifiable way, I don't spend much time with him or her.
All humans have limited time. It is a finite resource. Each moment spent with one individual is a moment that cannot be spent with another individual. Each moment spent watching television is a moment that cannot be spent learning or teaching others. In order to allocate our limited time as best we can, we must discriminate.
Every day, I choose to spend time with family and friends and thereby discriminate against strangers and acquaintances. I should think most people do the same.
humans are social creatures, everybody needs friends to go on the piss with and unwind. this is a solitary business but i don't think anyone should be proud of being a loner.
practically all my mates are the same ones i made in college 10 years ago. i shudder to think who i'd be hanging around with if i didn't go to college.
practically all my mates are the same ones i made in college 10 years ago. i shudder to think who i'd be hanging around with if i didn't go to college.
i doubt OP would disagree. but you shifted from him not being entertained by other people (which is perfectly normal) to him not accepting other people (which he never even alluded to).
i can accept that a cow is a cow even though interacting with a cow isn't entertaining to me. if i'm bored in this scenario, i'm not going to work hard to get interested in cows. if i'd rather be alone than work my ass off so i can enjoy the company of cows, that doesn't make me deficient.
