I'm Living A Lie, But Too Afraid To Leave.

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I grew up being taught (brainwashed) that I should go to school, get married, get a job, don't drink or do drugs, and go to church every Sunday so I can go to heaven when I die. My family, my siblings, my wifes family, and my grandparents are all religious and share this DOGMA.

Now, at 28 years old, and after 5 years of marriage, I have stopped believing in everything, God and marriage included. I just don't believe people are truly happy living this life, and I don't believe that we were meant to suffer through life being holy so we can go to heaven.

I haven't had anything insane happen in my life, and my wife is a loving caring woman, but I just don't want to do it anymore. I have held in my desires for so long, that all I can think about is partying, travelling the world, and fucking thousands of women.

I am currently living a lie. I go to church every Sunday with my wife and her family. I volunteer. I act like everything is fine. When I am alone I drink, I go to strip clubs, and more.

Anyone else in this situation? Too scared to tell EVERYONE I love I want to go a different direction. Too afraid to face all the tears that will be shed.
 


I stopped believing all that stuff when I was 12. My family never pushed it so it wasn't so much a problem. But, not believing in anything will make you depressed.
 
Fuck you asshole. Just because you don't believe in fairies any more doesn't mean you can act like a selfish fucking dick without any responsibility or consequences for your actions and choices. That's not what atheism offers you, and I take offence at your implication.

Most atheists are more fucking upright, moral and socially responsible than any fucking stupid cunt christian, as you've just demonstrated. You need the threat of a God to stay married and keep your dick in your pants? Without that, you've got no self control, sense of responsibility or empathy for others?

Go ahead - fuck up your marriage and live your life selfishly and irresponsibly, but don't fucking use atheism as an excuse, you fucking tard.
 
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Chianti said:
Fuck you asshole. Just because you don't believe in fairies any more doesn't mean you can act like a selfish fucking dick without any responsibility or consequences for your actions and choices. That's not what atheism offers you, and I don't like your implication.

Most atheists are more fucking upright, moral and socially responsible than any fucking stupid cunt christian, as you've just demonstrated.

Go ahead - fuck up your marriage and live your life selfishly and irresponsibly, but don't fucking use atheism as an excuse, you fucking tard.
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U MAD BRO?
 
Ask yourself i you're being realistic that if you walk away from it all that you'll sleep with thousands of women and party every night. Most of us can't and don't live like that. You could regret walking away from a wife that you actually love.

Atheism has little to do with whether you like a chick or not. If you like her stick with her.. if not.. go do whatever. But either way you'll want to tell them you're an atheist now so that you can stop pretending to believe in the magical fairy man that watches over everyone 24/7 from heaven and actually gives a shit.
 
it sounds like you got married way too young and never got your ya-yas out. shit man, probably the best thing you can do is try to get your wife to be apart of it with you. maybe she has a scandalous side and feels like you do. or I should say, hopefully she does
 
Get a divorce and go be miserable with the rest of society. I don't feel sorry for you.

I'm 28, been married for 7 years. Got married as a virgin (as my wife was too) and have had sex with only one woman (my wife) my entire life.

I've never done drugs (marijuana is not a drug) and I enjoy a glass of red wine daily.
I have a college degree. I work part-time while growing my online and offline businesses.

I go to church weekly. Yes, I believe in Jesus. I simply don't care what other people think.

I love my life. I have hot sex with my wife, but she gets on my nerves every once in a while. I bug the shit out of her too.

Guess what - that hot stripper you want to fuck? She stinks up the toilet too. There's also some other asshole who's tired of her shit as well.

Get over it, or get a divorce before you reproduce and fuck up some kid's life because their father is a depressed, alcoholic womanizer.
 
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> U MAD BRO?

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Hmmm....interesting. Seems like I see this more and more these days. I call it the Man-Child Syndrome, because all the men who talk like this seem to want to act like kids and have no responsibilities. Is abandoning all the people you committed to (i.e. your wife) something a real man would do?

I was thinking about this recently and it seems like this is a symptom of our modern beta-male generation: porn-addicted, video-game playing, weak-minded males who think they "deserve" happiness. The funny thing is that everyone thinks that they're going to be FREE and go out and fuck all sorts of gorgeous women.

Here's the reality, bud: you married your wife. Whether you think it's "dogma" or whatever, and whether or not you want to acknowledge God, the main issue (to your wife and everyone else who will be affected) is that you made something called a VOW. Maybe it's not true these days, but the old school men that I know (thinking about my gramps and my war-vet uncles) view keeping their word as a badge of honor. Honor is something missing from men these days I suppose.

Second, if you do selfishly go through with your fantasy of leaving everyone who cares about you so you can pursue new women, I seriously doubt it's going to be all you think it's gonna be. Granted I don't know your situation, but the chances of success are low. But even if you DO end up living in a mansion full of Penthouse Pets fucking all day...is that what life's all about? But that's not how it's going to play out if you do meet a few willing females. So ask yourself instead: Are a bunch of used-up whores better than your wife?

Also, I doubt you're suffering through life. Really?? Sounds like a "first-world problem" to me.

I dunno. I've heard too many men complaining about their "boring" life and wanting to have a second chance at playing the field. I think it's a result of the decline of our men, the decline of our society, and lack of backbone, morals, and spiritual values today. Whatever the cause is, welcome to the club: now get over it and man up.

Seriously - you need to look at what you have, appreciate it, and be content. Even though I don't know you, I have a special ability to sense when someone is whining even though they have it good.
 
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As far as I'm concerned, you only have one life.

Don't be in a situation where you're old and dying, and regretting that you didn't go for what you want.

Personally I think you're a dumbass for getting married at 23.
 
If you have children, don't skrew up your family just because you want to party and do a million shots of jager, HOWEVER if you don't have children, it's your time to consider options.
 
Break Bad. Fuck the guy that says you don't "deserve" happiness. Life is too short to not go through it happy IMHO. You have the power to live your fucking life any way you want. You're going to have to live with some of the consequences, if your personal happiness offsets it, go for it.

Anyone else that tells you different is in your same boat and too big of a pussy to do anything about it.
 
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Rage9 said:
Break Bad. Fuck the guy that says you don't "deserve" happiness. Life is too short to not go through it happy IMHO. You have the power to live your fucking life any way you want. You're going to have to live with some of the consequences, if your personal happiness offsets it, go for it.

Anyone else that tells you different is in your same boat and too big of a pussy to do anything about it.
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+1 to this. :thumbsup:
 
My friends wife thought she lived a lie too; similar situation like yours.
She fucks every other guy she meets now and drinks heavily.
I cant say shes much happier now. You might look into a hobby or something; you wont find happiness in a bottle.
 
Chianti said:
Fuck you asshole. Just because you don't believe in fairies any more doesn't mean you can act like a selfish fucking dick without any responsibility or consequences for your actions and choices. That's not what atheism offers you, and I take offence at your implication.

Most atheists are more fucking upright, moral and socially responsible than any fucking stupid cunt christian, as you've just demonstrated. You need the threat of a God to stay married and keep your dick in your pants? Without that, you've got no self control, sense of responsibility or empathy for others?

Go ahead - fuck up your marriage and live your life selfishly and irresponsibly, but don't fucking use atheism as an excuse, you fucking tard.
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This.
 
Life is Change.

As I see it Life plays out in stages.

There is a stage when you work hard drink harder and party like mad.
There is a stage when you work hard and enjoy the bliss of a growing career/business, nurturing your family and sharing the joys and sorrows of life with your partner.

And so live moves on.

You might think the grass is greener on the other side. But I am sure everyone here agrees there are times in your life when you feel if you achieve/get something it would make you happy ... but when you do achieve/get it... it actually doesn't make you as happy as you had imagined it to be.

You have to learn to be happy now with what you have... if you can do that you will be happy forever. If not, you will never be happy!

After your first Million you'd want 5 then 10 then 50... but happiness/satisfaction/peace will elude you.

P.S. Also do remember this. Even though life is about making mistakes and learning from them. Some mistakes cannot be undone. Some mistakes leave a very deep scar.
 
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