I don't think in terms of ideal situations.In an ideal situation I think every man would want to be a father and husband. But we just don't live in that utopia, and we have ourselves to thank for that.
The guys who are not interested in building families, remove themselves from the gene pool. Nature works as intended.
I think your frame of reference is very narrow on what women collectively want as individuals. There are a lot of great women out there. I used to think they were scarcer than good men, but now I think good men are probably just as scarce.Women wanted to be liberated from the role of mothers and wives. And now men want to be liberated from the role of fathers and husbands.