I'm Living A Lie, But Too Afraid To Leave.

djsherpa said:
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One of the biggest concerns I had about ending the relationship, and what most guys have in this position is that they are more afraid of the UNKNOWN, than the bullshit unhappy life they have now.

But let me tell you, shit is SO MUCH BETTER on the other side if you are unhappy.

I guess I'm biased since I teach guys how to meet girls for a living, but if your fears are related to finding another girl...

There are so many girls out there, just waiting for you! :)

Good luck!
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It depends on who you are. I split up with a long term girlfriend in my 20s, did some reading up on the whole "meeting and bedding women" thing and spent my time screwing around. It was fun for a short while, but it got old quickly.

What I realised is this: I'm a misanthrope. Most people I meet annoy this shit out of me. I'm sure they were lovely and all, but once biological urges were dealt with, I didn't really want to spend any time with the girls I met, and the idea of going out to find more depressed me.

I finally met (and married) a woman who's even more misanthropic than I am, who understands my need to be left the fuck alone. Sometimes I idly think "wouldn't it be nice to be single and free of responsibility again", but then I go and talk to some random person and remember why it wouldn't.

Also, I have a kid, and that's awesome. Toddlers are far better company than most adults imo.

Having said that... even though that lifestyle wasn't for me, I'm glad I found out first hand, because otherwise I'd be wondering.
 


Dude, do what the fuck YOU want.

Unless you have kids, then do what's best for them. If you don't believe in religion, then don't go to church. It sounds like you've lost your balls - find your beliefs and follow them. Im not talking religious beliefs - I'm talking about what you think defines you as as person and as a man.
Fuck what we think. Most of us are idiots on here, half the time me included. We don't know shit about your life or your circumstances. That being said, this is the last place (the internet) you should be discussing these issues.
Most guys on here think fucking women and making money is the coolest shit ever - it's not. In fact, that's a pretty retarded view to have.
I nearly broke up with my girl a few weeks ago, but then I thought - What can other girls give me that she can't?

The answer?

Fuck all. Sex is sex, and in my opinion, you get more out of it with someone you love/are close to, than you ever would with some slag. Think about it bro. Consider all the angles before you throw away a long term marriage. Do what's best for you. No one else is gonna live your life for you.


Last words: Chin up. Life isn't all shit and misery. Find enjoyment in your life, instead of purely focusing on the crap side.
 
I don't believe in religion either, to me its just a cult that make up shit to make themselves feel better. I do, however, respect the fact that people do have their faith, and I never EVER will get in the way of someone who wants to practice. However, that being said, I will freely speak my mind about how I don't believe in religion because, if I am providing the same courtesy to you about respecting your faith, then I ask that you respect my not believing in religion.

Anyways, take a deep breath... We all get in a funk sometimes... Where do you live? Is it getting cold where you are? I always get myself in a real nasty funk when the seasons change, especially fall and winter... Everything in nature is dying, its getting dark out sooner, taking longer to get light, it just throws everything off balance for me...

Hang in there bud.
 
W1NN1NG said:
I grew up being taught (brainwashed) that I should go to school, get married, get a job, don't drink or do drugs, and go to church every Sunday so I can go to heaven when I die. My family, my siblings, my wifes family, and my grandparents are all religious and share this DOGMA.

Now, at 28 years old, and after 5 years of marriage, I have stopped believing in everything, God and marriage included. I just don't believe people are truly happy living this life, and I don't believe that we were meant to suffer through life being holy so we can go to heaven.

I haven't had anything insane happen in my life, and my wife is a loving caring woman, but I just don't want to do it anymore. I have held in my desires for so long, that all I can think about is partying, travelling the world, and fucking thousands of women.

I am currently living a lie. I go to church every Sunday with my wife and her family. I volunteer. I act like everything is fine. When I am alone I drink, I go to strip clubs, and more.

Anyone else in this situation? Too scared to tell EVERYONE I love I want to go a different direction. Too afraid to face all the tears that will be shed.

I am the 99%
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FTFY
 
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So much Beta in this thread my balls were just sucked into my body from reading it
 
Get out while you still can. You don't have kids yet.. You are only 28 years old man. You still have your whole life ahead of you. Don't stay with her if you don't want to. What happens when she "accidentally" gets pregnant? Just saying..
 
Anyone that cares about you should at least be open minded and hear you out. If she's not open to other thoughts or other ways of thinking, then maybe you'd be better off with a more rational girl.
 
Why do married men think by leaving who ever they are with..are going to magically fall into more pussy than they can handle?

Let me be honest with you, no ones wants your drunk, porn addicted, video game playing ass. Your pathetic for wanting to leave your situation because you decided to be in it in the first place. Stop being a pussy and man up. No wondering your family would be embarrassed of you, you're on a fucking internet marketing forum asking advice about your life.
 
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Why do married men think by leaving who ever they are with..are going to magically fall into more pussy than they can handle?

Let me be honest with you, no ones wants your drunk, porn addicted, video game playing ass. Your pathetic for wanting to leave your situation because you decided to be in it in the first place. Stop being a pussy and man up. No wondering your family would be embarrassed of you, you're on a fucking internet marketing forum asking advice about your life.
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Burn.
 
Rage9 said:
Break Bad. Fuck the guy that says you don't "deserve" happiness. Life is too short to not go through it happy IMHO. You have the power to live your fucking life any way you want. You're going to have to live with some of the consequences, if your personal happiness offsets it, go for it.

Anyone else that tells you different is in your same boat and too big of a pussy to do anything about it.
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It sounds like you need to watch the movie hall pass.

Who cares about the believing in God thing. However, if you think leaving your wife will enable you to bang lots of chicks and that will be gratifying, you are mistaken. Life is about setting yourself up in a nice situation with little stress and learning to be happy with that.

Sometimes it's not easy and the grass truly does seem greener on the other side. However, it's not. It never is and never will be.

Obviously if you start driving yourself insane and incapable of being happy, you should talk to a psychologist and try to figure out some other options. Chances are, you will leave your wife and then just as much as you think about banging the rest of the hot women in the world now, you will be thinking about your wife.
 
OP...

you remind me of SO many white guys I've met in Asia it's not even funny.

Asia seems to be the only place where an old, drunk, fat and nerdy guy (not sayin you're any of these things though) can still manage to get high quality ass lol... I've met tons of old Americans, Canadians & Australians who left everything behind and decided to start a new life, living it up like they didn't in their twenties/thirties.

I remember this Canadian guy who had the PEEERFECT LIFE back in Montreal, earning over 100k in a job he loved (chemical engineering), having a wife who loved him to death, bought a big mansion by the water, family that loved him...etc. But somehow he was totally unhappy. One day he decided to drop everything and move to China. That's where I met him. He was telling me that it's the best decision he ever made. He found a new job there and started dating a hot 21 year old chick that barely speaks english.

I don't know if he's still that happy today (that was 3 years ago) because my guess is that he'll eventually grow tired of fucking a girl he can't communicate with. And he'll miss his friends and family back home. But then again, who knows...
 
Also women know immediately whether you are single or not. Your ability to get pussy right now is much lower than you think it is. When you are single, its an order of magnitude lower.

My advice is that unless you really don't like your wife and want her out of your life, stick to porn and strip clubs. In my experience, most women today don't have problems with this, as long as you don't flaunt it and they aren't insecure (great discussion on that here - He saved your ass and you didn't even know it. : pics)

Although, your wife being religious might mean that it would really upset her. However, its not cheating, and as a man you know it has nothing to do with her, so make up your own mind there.
 
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