I'm Living A Lie, But Too Afraid To Leave.

I stopped believing all that stuff when I was 12. My family never pushed it so it wasn't so much a problem. But, not believing in anything will make you depressed.

Yes it is depressing. Figuring out Santa Claus (God) doesn't exist all over again is just as depressing as it was when you found out as a kid. But wish in one hand shit in the other.
 


it's not your wife or the religion or whatever other reasons you came up with.

split with her now - you'll have the same issues (perhaps even worse) later on in life.

work on this now and get to the next level, from which you can actually see a viable solution. It's all inside man, chasing women doesn't help either, it's just a cover up and helps to escape from yourself.
 
If you're serious, do it before you really go past the point of no return (kids). Don't believe the haters who are too scared to do the same thing, of course they're going to try to shame you. I was in a hardcore relationship from 19-27 and just got out a few months back. Not regretting it, already fucked other women, currently planning long term international travel.

It just takes a little while to get used to relying 100% on yourself again. But that's the best way for a man to live. Bigger ups, bigger downs, no complacency = feeling alive.

And if you decide you want back into marriage, at least you'll know what you're giving up (or not).
 
This is what I hate about relationship advice from women. One little bump in the road and the first word that comes out is divorce.

Why so hasty to split the family up? Grow some balls and tell him to fight for his family and his marriage like a man ought to.

The family's the most important thing in your life and family doesn't just mean the kid it also means the man or woman you're married to. Lifelong motherfuckin' commitment.

I've always admired people who grit their teeth, never gave in and found a way to get through their problems rather than pussy out and play the divorce card, man or woman.

Because women are born quitters. Actually anyone who is overly emotional is likely going to consider quitting as the best option, every time.

Really?

I've been married ten years. I got married at 21 and I'm sure as hell not a quitter. In my experience there are quite a few overly emotional women out there who make rash decisions and they mesh reasonably well with the overly emotional men who think the world revolves around a pair of testicles and their right to happiness and the endless adoration of women. Fortunately, I'm not married to one of those and my husband isn't married to the stereotyped crazy female.

Read back through the thread. You have a man bitching about how he doesn't love his wife, how he's living a lie and how he wants to man-whore it up around the world. He's looking for an out - not a fight.

If he's lamenting, by all means he can fix it. He should have spoken to his wife already about it instead of whining on a public forum. In fact, he's probably already cheated on her and is too scared to put that in writing and is looking for justification for his behavior from others. Fortunately for him, plenty of other guys here have readily given him lots of kudos for considering the possibility - this is obviously a question of maturity, not gender. The fact that you (both) immediately tried to play a gender card doesn't speak well of your maturity, either, by the way.

I, like a fair portion of the other responders, fully believe in long-term relationships. But a relationship is a two-party system with open communication and honesty. If one person isn't committed or is screwing around on the other, the relationship is sick, dying or dead. Should the wife should stand patiently by while he "works it out" without a clue what's going on? I'm simply saying she has rights in the relationship, too. With the right information, she might decide she's open to an alternative lifestyle, too, but nobody will know if he never asks or offers to include her.

Should he fight for his family - of course, I won't argue that. In fact, I already suggested it in the second half of my original post. A real couple would already be fighting through the differences together if they really wanted the relationship to work. But this guy isn't a fighter:

"Now, at 28 years old, and after 5 years of marriage, I have stopped believing in everything, God and marriage included. I just don't believe people are truly happy living this life, and I don't believe that we were meant to suffer through life being holy so we can go to heaven.

I haven't had anything insane happen in my life, and my wife is a loving caring woman, but I just don't want to do it anymore. I have held in my desires for so long, that all I can think about is partying, travelling the world, and fucking thousands of women.

I am currently living a lie. I go to church every Sunday with my wife and her family. I volunteer. I act like everything is fine. When I am alone I drink, I go to strip clubs, and more."


Strip clubs and more, eh? So when he infects his wife with some venereal disease then gets some other chick pregnant as he figures out if he's willing to "fight for his family", she should stand idly by to help him - perhaps with an ongoing prescription for herpes in one hand and a freshly made sandwich in the other?

He's made up his mind - he wants out, but it sounds like he can't commit to being a man and just walking away OR ponying up to the fight. Instead he's dragging her through his indecision. I have a ton of respect for people who fight for a lasting, loving relationship, too. This guy isn't fighting.
 
LOL - Of course. We can play with stereotypes all night long. For all we know the guy's wife has been cheating on him with three men and two women for years. Stereotypes suck, yet they are so endearingly prevalent and fun to toss around for personal attacks.

What the fuck is so hard to understand about a man having an inherit, powerful urge to recreate with as many suitable/attractive females as possible? Are you a Christian and don't correlate the actions of man to the actions of animals? Do you watch the god damn discovery channel? Ever? Nobody here is claiming to be perfect, or that it excuses the negativity it may have on someone OP cares about...Just that the urge fucking exists. Yes, many men harness this urge and pull off God's great gift of 4ever monogamy, but the urge is there...and sometimes it is hard to control.. even for your little hubby. It's natural, monogamy is not. Get it? Simple as that. Srsly you have no idea what your talking about.
 
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If you always do as you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got. Man up and change shit yourself or it'll stay the fucking same.

Oh and lol at Mormonism. I had 2 yank mormons bump into me near where I live the other day. They asked me if I was religious to which I said no and explained it's stupid.

They then started explaining how they "pity me" for not being religious and elaborated on the wonders of mormonism in a bid to convert me or some shit. They really pissed me off, so I said Joseph Smith was a cunt and a fraud and their religion is one of the most amusing, absurd and stupid I have had the misfortune to encounter. Needless to say they left me in peace. Dickheads.
 
Break Bad. Fuck the guy that says you don't "deserve" happiness. Life is too short to not go through it happy IMHO. You have the power to live your fucking life any way you want. You're going to have to live with some of the consequences, if your personal happiness offsets it, go for it.

Anyone else that tells you different is in your same boat and too big of a pussy to do anything about it.
Think this is about the first thing I ever agreed with with you on.

And to OP tell your wife your going somewhere for a month on business make it plausible. Go and live your dreams like you want for the month, party, drink, fuck, heroin etc.

You'll probably realize yourself that the whole time you were deluded about this new lifestyle and end up going back to your normal life or not and you'll stay a big fat party animal for ever.
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It's natural, monogamy is not. Get it? Simple as that.

Monogamy is not natural for most animals. Humans are not included in this. Why? Because of that one pesky organ, our brains.

There's nothing immoral about being with thousands of partners but the fact is we, as humans, thrive on strong social connection to a select few individuals...you just don't get that with a multitude of one night stands, no matter how cool that may be.
 
Monogamy is not natural for most animals. Humans are not included in this. Why? Because of that one pesky organ, our brains.



The other animals have no brains?

Say whatever you want- Monogamy isn't natural. It's fucking obvious. Look at society.